18 and want a baby

[doodisgurl]

Im 18 years old. I have been married since 3/21/07 but I have been with this guy for 5 years. He was my first and only sex partner. We have our own apartment, we have great jobs, and the only thing left that I want out of life is a baby. Some people will probably say dont have one because you have so much more you may want to do in life. well i dont. I dont drink,party,go clubbing, any of that. I go to work,clean house,and cook dinner. im a wife and I love it.About 2 months ago I didnt want a baby, I wasnt prepared to take on the responsibility but now I am. is it wrong to want a baby so young?

 

[Angel]

My hubby was 19 when we had our first and I was 22,I always wanted to be a young mother and grow up with my children,still have the energy to enjoy their lives.It is really up to you and your DH if you want to have children now,nobody can tell you what to do with your body and your life.I suggest go on a nice romantic holiday first tho lol.Goodluck with whatever you decide to do.

 

[Tezzy]

i was 18 when we fell pregnant with our first child, i am now 20 and am pregnant with number 2. i also dont go out drinking, i am a wife and i go to work, look after my soon and cook dinner etc.

i dont think theres anything wrong with having a baby at 18 as long as you know what you are in for!

 

[Naimi]

From the sounds of it hun you have a very sensible head on your shoulders and wanting a baby right now isn't wrong at all. I had my first when I had just turned 19, second when I was 22 and am now having my third (and last) and I am now 27. Personally I think I have timed all of them perfectly, and like you I was in a stable relationship with a good job and mortgage. Unfortunately my relationship didn't last with my eldest daughters father, but that doesn't mean it wasn't still the right choice, you can't always foresee those things.

However, sometimes I do think "i wish I could have the same children but just a few years later" because although you don't want to drink and party etc etc, there are lots of things as you get older that you might want to do, like someone else said, have a romantic holiday alone, socialise with friends without having to worry about baby sitters. Just make the most of the things that I'll guarantee you at the moment you take for granted. I know I did

Hope everything goes smoothly for you if you do decide to try for a baby

 

[Arcanegirl]

We started trying when i was 17, we had our own flat etc. We werent married but thats not really a factor to me.

If you really feel ready then go for it.
We had a 6 month break so i could do college and tried again when i was 18.

At 20 im now discovering the life of socialising, but its taken 2 years TTCing so far and were still going

 

[Sinead]

When I read your post I thought yes you are too young, but then I got to the point where you said about 2months ago you didnt want the responsibility, which made me think that you are ready in yourself to go for it. You have obviously given this a lot of thought, and its not a spur of the moment decision. And anyway, its your decision and you have to do what you want. I am 32 and could not have imagined even thinking about have a child at such a young age, then again I always thought I would have been younger than I am now. "Whatever is meant to be, will be."
Good luck

Sinead

 

[doodisgurl]

Thanks for yalls input I really appreciate it. The only thing holding me back is Im affraid what my sister and grandmother will think. My mom is fine with it (my dad died) but im scared of what they will think of me. Do you think my grandmas and sisters opinion really matters?

 

[Arcanegirl]

It shouldnt matter what anyone else thinks.
I used to worry what my dad would think, but now i openly talk about when my next hosp appointment is etc (obv i dont go into too much detail)

Even if you get someone who reacts negatively, its up to yourself what you do, not them.

 

[doodisgurl]

thats what all my friends keep telling me but I feel like I have disappointed them so much already (dropping out and getting married) but my life is really good im doing very well but i feel if i tell them i want a baby they will be disappointed once again. My cousin got a girl pregnant when he was 18 and everyone was so upset but i think that was because he wasnt married he had no job and he was still living at home.im the exact opposite of that

 

[Suz]

Hun If you want a baby and are ready for one, then go for it..... Best of luck to you

 

[ablaze]

i was preg with my 1st at 17, and head her at 18, and had my 2nd at 19! as long as your head is screwed on, age dont really matter!

 

[mummy2b]

If you want 1 then go for it! You obviously seem like your ready!! I am 18 and I am pregnant with my 1st! My boyfriend and I are looking for somewhere to live together, we are really happy that we are going to be mummy and daddy!! xx

 

[Venseia]

young mum X

 

[7WZ]

Im 17 and my Fiancé is 18. We were planning to get married on our 2nd year anniversary which is October next year but I don't think I'll fit in the dress now! after finding out I'm 5 weeks pregnant which was great because we had been trying for over 6 months after I came off the pill. It was heartbreaking to find out that every month I wasnt pregnant but then the test was positive. I don't think I'm too young to have a baby. I don't go out drinking, smoking, clubbing or do any type of drug. Never have and never will, it's just not what I'm into. When I'm not at college I'm at home (me and fiancé live with my parents) and spend all my time with my partner. I can't wait to be his wife but we've not got the money right now. and he wants me to have a good day.

Don't let people put you off from what you want, or you'll probably never do anything. I'm so excited that me and my partner are going to have this extra bond that I can't wait to have.

 

[lorrilou]

if thats what u really want then go for it. The gud thing about having kids young is that you still have time to do stuff afterwards, people mite say it's harder wen youre young but i think its just as hard at any age and if you've got a good support network then you'll be fine!!

 

[**ALRE&Bump<3]

well I had my 1st at 13, my 2nd at 15 and now I'm 14wks+1 with my 3rd @ 16, so go 4 it hun, itll b reali hard but worth it

 

[honeybunch2k7]

I think you are in a good position to have a baby. I can relate, though my pregnancy is unplanned I've always wanted to be young mommy. I'm not really the clubbin or partyin type either.

 

[coz]

hiya ive just turned 21 and im 5 months pregnant and also wanted a baby at 18 i moved in with my partner who is 25 when i was 16 and were engaged and have wanted kids for the last 2 years we also both work and know its a great decision alltho wev had both sides of the family over the moon about it so that was really nice, you sound like you know what you want and your doing the right thing as long as youv both thought it through and deffo know thats right for you then go for it hun xxxx

 

[tinytoes]

Im 18 years old. I have been married since 3/21/07 but I have been with this guy for 5 years. He was my first and only sex partner. We have our own apartment, we have great jobs, and the only thing left that I want out of life is a baby. Some people will probably say dont have one because you have so much more you may want to do in life. well i dont. I dont drink,party,go clubbing, any of that. I go to work,clean house,and cook dinner. im a wife and I love it.About 2 months ago I didnt want a baby, I wasnt prepared to take on the responsibility but now I am. is it wrong to want a baby so young?

no it's not wrong. adn if you can afford it then why not.
What I would suggest is to think about it - you didnt want one 2 months ago....maybe just give yourself a few months to be sure. There's no hurry. Once you see that bfp it's a bit scary - there's no going back for the rest of your life.

 

[coz]

no it's not wrong. adn if you can afford it then why not.
What I would suggest is to think about it - you didnt want one 2 months ago....maybe just give yourself a few months to be sure. There's no hurry. Once you see that bfp it's a bit scary - there's no going back for the rest of your life.

yh i agree with above, just to make sure after some time its still what u want as it is a big life changing thing xxx