I don't know why i'm shocked by this but i am. May be long explanation!!!
Me and ex split when LO was 6 weeks old, and for 1st year had a private arrangement where he would give me money every month. The amount was never paid in full as he always put himself first, and had range of excuses, from needed it to pay a bill to work didn't pay him correctly. After 1st year, he then decided that he didn't trust me with the money and so he opened a bank account for LO which he states he paid into every month (I have never seen proof that this account exists or that money has been put into it), so for LO's 2nd year i received nothing from his father. Then earlier this year ex said that he had had a change of heart and would like to start paying money to me again every month. I agreed to amount of £150 per month, which was due to begin in April. When April came, ex said his wages hadn't been paid correctly, what a surprise, and that he could only give me £100, i said i thought this was unacceptable as LO should come 1st, as he always does for me, he then said was withdrawing his offer and that if i wanted money i could go through CSA.
So in May i submitted a form to CSA, asking them to collect child maintenence on my behalf. Since then my ex has done everything he can to lenghten the process, CSA asked for copies of 3 previous payslips, he sent them 1, meaning that they had to contact his employer and request copies, taking more time. He said would pay by direct debit from his account, and then at last minute changed his mind, saying he would rather pay from wages, meaning that more paperwork had to be amended.
Finally, this month, the first payment was due to be taken from his wages the 1st week in September for £218, including percentage of arrears from my 1st application. However, when i contacted CSA this morning to ask why hadn't received a payment yet, they told me a payment had arrived with them yesterday, that i should get within 3-5 working days of £156!!! I asked what happened to the amount of £218, and they said would contact employer and get back to me, they have just rang and said that employer said that ex was either on sick or didn't work the regular amount of hours, and as 60% of his wages are protected for him, this was complete amount they could take. Apparantley, the arrears will carry on until next month, but if he earns less again they are still unable to take full amount!!!
This is just typical of my ex, he is the most selfish, self-centred, arrogant man, and doesn't seem to understand that i am not asking for money for myself, this is towards LO upbringing.
The worst thing is that he sees my LO every weekend, and thinks that that makes him father of the year!!!
Me and ex split when LO was 6 weeks old, and for 1st year had a private arrangement where he would give me money every month. The amount was never paid in full as he always put himself first, and had range of excuses, from needed it to pay a bill to work didn't pay him correctly. After 1st year, he then decided that he didn't trust me with the money and so he opened a bank account for LO which he states he paid into every month (I have never seen proof that this account exists or that money has been put into it), so for LO's 2nd year i received nothing from his father. Then earlier this year ex said that he had had a change of heart and would like to start paying money to me again every month. I agreed to amount of £150 per month, which was due to begin in April. When April came, ex said his wages hadn't been paid correctly, what a surprise, and that he could only give me £100, i said i thought this was unacceptable as LO should come 1st, as he always does for me, he then said was withdrawing his offer and that if i wanted money i could go through CSA.
So in May i submitted a form to CSA, asking them to collect child maintenence on my behalf. Since then my ex has done everything he can to lenghten the process, CSA asked for copies of 3 previous payslips, he sent them 1, meaning that they had to contact his employer and request copies, taking more time. He said would pay by direct debit from his account, and then at last minute changed his mind, saying he would rather pay from wages, meaning that more paperwork had to be amended.
Finally, this month, the first payment was due to be taken from his wages the 1st week in September for £218, including percentage of arrears from my 1st application. However, when i contacted CSA this morning to ask why hadn't received a payment yet, they told me a payment had arrived with them yesterday, that i should get within 3-5 working days of £156!!! I asked what happened to the amount of £218, and they said would contact employer and get back to me, they have just rang and said that employer said that ex was either on sick or didn't work the regular amount of hours, and as 60% of his wages are protected for him, this was complete amount they could take. Apparantley, the arrears will carry on until next month, but if he earns less again they are still unable to take full amount!!!
This is just typical of my ex, he is the most selfish, self-centred, arrogant man, and doesn't seem to understand that i am not asking for money for myself, this is towards LO upbringing.
The worst thing is that he sees my LO every weekend, and thinks that that makes him father of the year!!!
