2 Miscarriages in a row, scared to try again.

[Mrs Reineke]

My husband and I started ttc in February 2014. We got pregnant for the first time in June 2014 but sadly lost it at 5 1/2 weeks. Then we waited one cycle before trying again and we got pregnant again in September 2014 and lost it again at 6 weeks this time. We do not have any children and we are terrified as to why this is happening and of trying again. I'm still spotting from my most recent mc and my doctor is having us wait at least 2 cycles before trying again, but the thought of trying again, getting pregnant and losing yet another one is scaring us to death. My doctor said he normally doesn't do any testing after just 2 losses because a lot of the time nothing is found. But I think I want to have at least my thyroid and hormone levels checked to rule those out because if it's something simple like that, I'd rather find out now then after yet another mc. I'm so scared we'll never be blessed with a healthy baby. We have always wanted 2 kids, but with the way things are going we have said just one healthy one would be enough. I would really appreciate hearing stories from other ladies that have been through what I'm going through and what the outcomes have been. Also if anyone has any advice, I would love that as well. I'm 31 and my husband is almost 33. I have normal AF's that happen every 28-30 days and I obviously ovulate and I know I do right around mid month. I do not smoke, drink or do anything else that would cause a problem. Please help me with your stories and advice. Even if your story isn't great, I would love to learn from it. Anything that could possibly help my husband and I to get our rainbow baby would be great.

 

[Taurus8484]

I suffered 3 losses around 6 weeks before finally getting my sticky bean. It was hard, emotionally and physically......there were a lot of tears but looking at my son now I'm so glad that I tried and tried again...........and now I'm pregnant again at 40 with another blessing.

I had RPL but they could find no reason except my age for my losses.

Hugs to you xx

 

[Mrs Reineke]

Thank you for sharing your story. I'm so sorry for your losses, but so happy to hear you have a son and another one on the way. How far along are you?

 

[Taurus8484]

Nearly 17 weeks now.

 

[cutieq]

Popping in. I just stopped spotting from my 3rd loss this year. Taurus, thanks for sharing your success! Easy for those of us with multiple losses to lose hope.

 

[Mrs Reineke]

Congrats on being almost 17 weeks!! That's so exciting!!

Welcome to the thred cutieq!

 

[whitglass]

I just had my second loss at 5 weeks. It is crushing me. I do have one beautiful son with no prior complications, but feel like something is wrong with me now because I can't seem to get a sticky. I also want to get some blood work done to rule out hormone problems, and am hoping my body was just doing the right thing in case the little zygotes weren't forming right. But I can't stand another loss, and am also scared to try again.

Cutie - we were on the same thread last cycle - was that last one a chemical for you as well?

 

[cutieq]

I just had my second loss at 5 weeks. It is crushing me. I do have one beautiful son with no prior complications, but feel like something is wrong with me now because I can't seem to get a sticky. I also want to get some blood work done to rule out hormone problems, and am hoping my body was just doing the right thing in case the little zygotes weren't forming right. But I can't stand another loss, and am also scared to try again.

Cutie - we were on the same thread last cycle - was that last one a chemical for you as well?

Yes. Ended at 4 weeks 5 days. This is #3 for me. I haven't ever made it to 5 weeks and I was 2 days away this time. I'm really hoping it's a hormone or progesterone issue. I go in for testing on the 21st.

 

[Mrs Reineke]

Welcome whitglass and I am so sorry for your losses. It's extremely hard. One was horrible, now the second one is even worse. I couldn't imagine going through it again like poor cutieq.

 

[cutieq]

Welcome whitglass and I am so sorry for your losses. It's extremely hard. One was horrible, now the second one is even worse. I couldn't imagine going through it again like poor cutieq.

Yes. This 3rd one threw me for a loop. I'm praying for some answers this month. It hurts to not even try for a month and not want a BFP but I'm too scared without a doctors insight.

 

[Mrs Reineke]

I don't blame you cutie. I'm doing the same thing before trying again.

 

[Mummy to be x]

I had two losses in a row, both at 8 weeks and I'm now pregnant with my little boy, I've been where you are and I really, honestly thought it would happen to me again.

You will get there, and when you have your baby things will be perfect for you. Don't give up hope, you have every chance of having a normal healthy pregnany I'm sure.

 

[babyjan]

I recently experienced 2nd loss! It was a chemical at 4 weeks +2 days.

I had a miscarriage back in April and I think I was about 5 weeks then! Not sure what to think, I have an almost 3 year old who I got pregnant with without any complications! But I went on BC when my son was 10 months so I'm starting to think this may be the reason :/

I've now given up on trying but whatever is meant to be will be x

 

[gem10]

Hi ladies. I just had a miscarriage last week at 6.5 weeks. I am recovering from my D & C on Friday. To add to the pain, my DH and I have been doing IVF since June 2013. This was our fourth try and first ever positive. I saw a heartbeat just two days before this happened. I started bleeding, and the dr said I had clot that was draining, but the baby was still doing well. Two days later I started passing huge clots. I went back into the office and they said the clot had completely surrounded the placenta causing it to detach, we no longer had a heartbeat. I ambeyond devastated. Our betas were so high, we had a strong heartbeat, I really thought this was it for us. So now we have to wait, for at least two cycles to try again. And its not easy for us. It means starting all over with meds. I am sorry that you ladies are going through this too. My dr says I can try in Dec, and I am really eager, but scared. I would hate to go through this again.

 

[cutieq]

Mummy, that's comforting to read.

Babyjan, have you had any testing done?

 

[babyjan]

Cutieq, I went to see my dr and she said miscarriages are common which I already knew but she did say if I get pregnant again to see her ASAP to get a an early scan and if I miscarry again she will refer me for testing because it would be 3rd time in a row. They only look into 3 or more miscarriages in a row.

What about you? I think we both had chemical around same time didn't we? I would have been due in June, I think we both had depo too

 

[babyjan]

Gem, I'm so so sorry! That is absolutely heartbreaking

 

[gem10]

Hi ladies. I just had a miscarriage last week at 6.5 weeks. I am recovering from my D & C on Friday. To add to the pain, my DH and I have been doing IVF since June 2013. This was our fourth try and first ever positive. I saw a heartbeat just two days before this happened. I started bleeding, and the dr said I had clot that was draining, but the baby was still doing well. Two days later I started passing huge clots. I went back into the office and they said the clot had completely surrounded the placenta causing it to detach, we no longer had a heartbeat. I ambeyond devastated. Our betas were so high, we had a strong heartbeat, I really thought this was it for us. So now we have to wait, for at least two cycles to try again. And its not easy for us. It means starting all over with meds. I am sorry that you ladies are going through this too. My dr says I can try in Dec, and I am really eager, but scared. I would hate to go through this again.

 

[cutieq]

Cutieq, I went to see my dr and she said miscarriages are common which I already knew but she did say if I get pregnant again to see her ASAP to get a an early scan and if I miscarry again she will refer me for testing because it would be 3rd time in a row. They only look into 3 or more miscarriages in a row.

What about you? I think we both had chemical around same time didn't we? I would have been due in June, I think we both had depo too

Gotcha. At least they're in the loop now! I just had my 3rd so I'm hoping they will do more extensive testing. Never progesterone. This time they tested with my BFP but I want to explore that more. I think we were definitely on the same thread and yea ....the evil depo!

 

[cutieq]

Hi ladies. I just had a miscarriage last week at 6.5 weeks. I am recovering from my D & C on Friday. To add to the pain, my DH and I have been doing IVF since June 2013. This was our fourth try and first ever positive. I saw a heartbeat just two days before this happened. I started bleeding, and the dr said I had clot that was draining, but the baby was still doing well. Two days later I started passing huge clots. I went back into the office and they said the clot had completely surrounded the placenta causing it to detach, we no longer had a heartbeat. I ambeyond devastated. Our betas were so high, we had a strong heartbeat, I really thought this was it for us. So now we have to wait, for at least two cycles to try again. And its not easy for us. It means starting all over with meds. I am sorry that you ladies are going through this too. My dr says I can try in Dec, and I am really eager, but scared. I would hate to go through this again.

So sorry to hear that gem.