2 Miscarriages in a row, scared to try again.

[Chrissi1981]

Ah hun. I'm going through my second loss right now. I fell pregnant in May first time trying and lost the pregnancy mid July due to a blighted ovum. Waited one cycle and conceived immediately and was told it was twins I was told at 9 weeks that one had vanished and the others heart had stopped beating but after my 1st scan I knew it wouldn't work. I prepped myself big time with meditation and it has been helping me immensely the past two weeks waiting to miscarriage naturally. I refuse to beat myself up about having 2 miscarriages. It can be tough and draining but try and cherish the smallest of things in every moment. We will all have babies. You conceived easily and it could just be one if those things. I know a girl who had 2 and now she's way into her 2nd trimester and had not a thing wrong with her. We all go through challenges in life and it effects us but not half as near as losing something you want so badly.

I want to send you lots of love and light.

You will have a baby it will happen God will bless you ...

Lots of love hun Xxxx

 

[Mrs Reineke]

Chrissi1981, thank you so much for sharing your story. I am so sorry for your losses and I'm sending you hugs and lots of baby dust!

 

[Chrissi1981]

Thank you honey. I think it's nice to be able to support each other. I know there are lots of great ladies on here helping each other through these difficult times.

What will you do now ? I am off to see a naturopath next week. Hoping she will run some intolerance tests and do a hormone check. The doctors here in the UK will not do anything until you have had a 3rd mc.

Will you wait a little longer before trying again ? I don't know whether to wait one cycle or two. I reckon two would be better. I can enjoy the Christmas season then and a nice drink lol !!

Lots of Love to you xxx

 

[Mrs Reineke]

Well my first AF since my last mc started this morning which is good. It was right on time which is nice. My baby doctor told us to wait 2 cycles this time before trying again. We waited just one last time, but we didn't get pregnant the first month after, we got pregnant the second month after my first mc. I set up an appointment with another doctor to get a second opinion, but I can't get in to see her until December 16th which sucks because my 2nd AF is due the first week in December and then we can try again in the middle part of December which is right when my appointment is to see her. I was really hoping to get in and get her advice before we tried again, so I don't know what to do? I don't know if we should just try then anyways, or wait until the following cycle?? Any advice?? I want to try taking baby aspirin when we do try since I have a blood clotting disorder, but of course I haven't been told to do that by a doctor, just have heard that has helped other ladies who have the same issue I do. Any of you take baby aspirin because of a blood clotting disorder? If so, when did you start taking it? Also I have an at home saliva hormone test thing I can do on CD 19, 20 or 21 of this cycle that I then send in to have my levels checked because my stupid doctor won't test them for me. I wish he would just make it easy for me so I wouldn't have to go through getting a second opinion and seeing if hopefully she will help me more. I don't want to go through 3 mcs and then be able to have everything checked out. It's so irritating. I might try to call and ask one more time if he will do it for me. I have to pay for it, do it for Heaven's sake!! So if any of you has advice on taking baby aspirin and ttc please let me know and also any advice on if we should try again in the middle of December right around the time I'm going to see this second doctor or if we should wait yet another cycle.

 

[Bailey bunny]

So sorry to hear of your losses! I experienced a 13 week MC waited a cycle or two the immediately followed by another MC at 10 weeks. It was heartbreaking, I felt like I was pregnant for so long with the worst symptoms (all the nausea fatigue and aches full blown) with nothing to come of it- as I watched my friends get pregnant and go on to have beautiful children with no problems. I don't have an answer, we took some time off from trying and am now pregnant again with another difficult pregnancy along with daily bleeding. I wish I had a happier story to share, but I've had 3 miscarriages and one healthy child. You will get your baby! Just make sure your doctor listens to your concerns and follows your future pregnancies appropriately. If you don't feel like your getting enough attention or proper tests-see someone else! Best of luck to you !

 

[Mrs Reineke]

Bailey bunny thank you so much for sharing your story and I am so very sorry about your losses. I do not feel like my doctor is listening or understanding my concerns. I am going to see another doctor to get another opinion and it's a doctor I've been told is very good. My regular family doctor has been better than my baby doctor. It's sad.

 

[cutieq]

Doctors can feel like our worst enemies at times.

AF started for me today, so I'm back for another try. PRAYING the prometrium will help me with my next BFP.

 

[Chrissi1981]

Bailey bunny thank you so much for sharing your story and I am so very sorry about your losses. I do not feel like my doctor is listening or understanding my concerns. I am going to see another doctor to get another opinion and it's a doctor I've been told is very good. My regular family doctor has been better than my baby doctor. It's sad.

Personally, I don't think waiting one month or two or 3 or a year will make a huge difference. Right now for me I'd prefer to wait two for my body to heal and because I want to do a liver and uterus cleanse before TTC. I had a twin pregnancy this time so it seems harder. Emotionally, I'm a wreck. I took the advice of a homeopathic doctor and took ignatia. It's making me a mess. I prefer to have not taken it at all. But I know too that not allowing yourself to grieve and time to heal is unhealthy. I'd say listen to you body and your gut instinct.

Take baby aspirin. I was told by my specialist nurse to take baby aspirin next time I fall pregnant. Usually, I'm 100% natural but I will take it to see if it helps. Apparently, it can do no harm. I'd start taking it after a positive test but maybe you should check to see if you should start taking it after ovulation.

Also to increase your chances sweetie. Start taking some very good quality omega 3s this will naturally help thin your blood as will pure purple grape juice. Until ovulation drink red raspberry tea to increase blood flow to the uterus. 2 cups or 3 per day. In addition eat Brazil nuts to help support implantation but no more than 3 per day. Eat walnuts for extra B6 and pineapple core up to 3 days after ovulation no more as it can cause a miscarriage if taken too long. The enzymes in the pineapple will also help with implantation.

I did all this and conceive 1st time trying after 1st mc. Eat super healthy, drink water, cut down on soda and bad fats. Take a premium prenatal. I take Vita West it's brilliant.

Good luck sweetness. Oh but I'm not 100% sure you can take aspirin 75mg and fish oil together. Need to check this xxxxx

 

[girlinyork]

I took agnus castus up til ovulation on this cycle and my rainbow cycle and conceived on the first cycles I started it. I also took epo to improve ewcm quality and that worked a treat

 

[cutieq]

Wonderful advice ladies. Girlinyork did you take epo from cd1 to o or after period?

 

[cutieq]

Chrissi, I think your advice is spot on. Move forward when you feel mentally and physically ready. No doctor can prescribe that.

 

[girlinyork]

Wonderful advice ladies. Girlinyork did you take epo from cd1 to o or after period?

I did CD1 til O x

 

[cutieq]

Thanks! That's my plan as well. Going to research the angus cactus. I don't know much about that.

 

[Smiler79]

Hi ladies thought I would pop on and offer you some words of encouragement.

I fell pregnant in sept 2009 but miscarried at 6 weeks. 6 months later I fell pregnant again and my daughter was born in January 2011. Hubby didn't want anymore so thought imogem was my miracle rainbow baby.

In sept 2013 I discovered I was pregnant again despite being on the pill. Although it was a shock hubby was surprisingly pleased. However we miscarried again at 6 weeks. As I had gone on to havea healthy pregnancy after my first pmiscariage I assumed the same would happen this time but it didn't . I fell pregnant in june 2014 but miscarried again at 6 weeks. This one hit me hardest of all as just didn't expect it.we agreed I wouldnt go back on birth control but that we wouldn't get caught up in thinking bout ttc all the time. Well relaxing must have worked as I fell pregnant my first proper cycle after miscarriage and oak now 21 weeks pregnant. Had a scare at 6 weeks when had a massive bleed but som e then all is going well apart form a low lying placenta.

Really hope this brings you ladies some hope as I know how heartbreaking recurrent miscarriage can be xxxxxx

 

[Chrissi1981]

Thanks! That's my plan as well. Going to research the angus cactus. I don't know much about that.

I too used this before after my 1st miscarriage to get my body back in track and Agnus Cactus worked a treat. It brought my period back exactly 4 weeks after mc and 14 days later I ovulated and fell pregnant. I'd definitely give AG a try but remember to stop at ovulation if you are trying to conceive.

I might give Emerita a try next time but I want to talk to my naturopath first about using it. I'm sure I don't have perfect progesterone levels ... But doctors here won't test me just yet. Maybe I'll throw a tantrum next time I'm pregnant and demand that they take my blood and check ?!


Hehe

Love and light to you all.
Xxxx

 

[Chrissi1981]

Hi ladies thought I would pop on and offer you some words of encouragement.

I fell pregnant in sept 2009 but miscarried at 6 weeks. 6 months later I fell pregnant again and my daughter was born in January 2011. Hubby didn't want anymore so thought imogem was my miracle rainbow baby.

In sept 2013 I discovered I was pregnant again despite being on the pill. Although it was a shock hubby was surprisingly pleased. However we miscarried again at 6 weeks. As I had gone on to havea healthy pregnancy after my first pmiscariage I assumed the same would happen this time but it didn't . I fell pregnant in june 2014 but miscarried again at 6 weeks. This one hit me hardest of all as just didn't expect it.we agreed I wouldnt go back on birth control but that we wouldn't get caught up in thinking bout ttc all the time. Well relaxing must have worked as I fell pregnant my first proper cycle after miscarriage and oak now 21 weeks pregnant. Had a scare at 6 weeks when had a massive bleed but som e then all is going well apart form a low lying placenta.

Really hope this brings you ladies some hope as I know how heartbreaking recurrent miscarriage can be xxxxxx

This is brilliant hun!! Did you change anything this time ?? Did you have to take anything ?

Xx

 

[cutieq]

I'm not going to use the angus cactus this time. I'm introducing progesterone for the first time and don't want to introduce too many new things at one time. Will keep you ladies posted! I'm using epo, raspberry tea, green tea, and prenatals this go round.

 

[fluffet521]

Good luck, cutie! Please do let us know how it goes!

 

[Mrs Reineke]

Thank you ladies for all the wonderful advice!! I really appreciate all of it and anything else anyone has tried please let me know. I will take anything I can get.

 

[Smiler79]

Only thing I did differently was to take 75mg dose(child dose) of aspirin from when I found out I was pregnant up until 12 weeks x x x