2 Miscarriages in a row, scared to try again.

[fluffet521]

Hi ladies. I just had a miscarriage last week at 6.5 weeks. I am recovering from my D & C on Friday. To add to the pain, my DH and I have been doing IVF since June 2013. This was our fourth try and first ever positive. I saw a heartbeat just two days before this happened. I started bleeding, and the dr said I had clot that was draining, but the baby was still doing well. Two days later I started passing huge clots. I went back into the office and they said the clot had completely surrounded the placenta causing it to detach, we no longer had a heartbeat. I ambeyond devastated. Our betas were so high, we had a strong heartbeat, I really thought this was it for us. So now we have to wait, for at least two cycles to try again. And its not easy for us. It means starting all over with meds. I am sorry that you ladies are going through this too. My dr says I can try in Dec, and I am really eager, but scared. I would hate to go through this again.

Gem, I am so, so sorry for your loss. I know your heart is absolutely broken. I'm sending lots of hugs, hun.

 

[fluffet521]

My husband and I started ttc in February 2014. We got pregnant for the first time in June 2014 but sadly lost it at 5 1/2 weeks. Then we waited one cycle before trying again and we got pregnant again in September 2014 and lost it again at 6 weeks this time. We do not have any children and we are terrified as to why this is happening and of trying again. I'm still spotting from my most recent mc and my doctor is having us wait at least 2 cycles before trying again, but the thought of trying again, getting pregnant and losing yet another one is scaring us to death. My doctor said he normally doesn't do any testing after just 2 losses because a lot of the time nothing is found. But I think I want to have at least my thyroid and hormone levels checked to rule those out because if it's something simple like that, I'd rather find out now then after yet another mc. I'm so scared we'll never be blessed with a healthy baby. We have always wanted 2 kids, but with the way things are going we have said just one healthy one would be enough. I would really appreciate hearing stories from other ladies that have been through what I'm going through and what the outcomes have been. Also if anyone has any advice, I would love that as well. I'm 31 and my husband is almost 33. I have normal AF's that happen every 28-30 days and I obviously ovulate and I know I do right around mid month. I do not smoke, drink or do anything else that would cause a problem. Please help me with your stories and advice. Even if your story isn't great, I would love to learn from it. Anything that could possibly help my husband and I to get our rainbow baby would be great.

Mrs Reineke, I'd like to encourage you not to lose hope just yet. I suffered a loss earlier this year, which I'll share in a moment, so I can't imagine two of them. My heart goes out to you. Since you asked for advice, this is mine: give yourself time to grieve the loss of your most recent angel. Don't worry yet about TTC again; wait until you know you're ready. Miscarriages are more common than I knew before I had my own. Enjoy spending time with your DH and doing things you love to do until you both decide it's time to TTC again - but take your time getting to that point.

Here's my story: I discontinued birth control September 2013; my husband and I started trying November 2013. I conceived April 2, 2014, and got my BFP on May 6, 2014. My baby was due Christmas Eve. At my first doctor visit, we had an ultrasound done but didn't hear a heartbeat because I was only 5 weeks, 5 days along. My next visit was scheduled for 3 weeks later. The ultrasound showed that the yolk sac had grown but the fetal pole had not. According to my doctor, I'd had a missed miscarriage. Words cannot describe how utterly, completely devastated I was. I did not want to wait for the miscarriage to happen on its own, so I had a DNC on June 5, 2014. The thought of waiting for my body to recognize that my baby was no longer growing was too much to bear. It was the hardest thing I've ever done in my life. It was a very difficult time and I cried for weeks after. I still cry every now and then, but it doesn't hurt quite as bad anymore. I'll never not mourn the loss of that tiny angel, though.

After waiting 3 months at my doctor's recommendation, my husband and I just started trying again last month. I'm excited but also very apprehensive. I keep telling myself now that what is meant to be will be.

So, lots of love and hugs to you, Mrs Reineke. Stay strong - you will get through this!

 

[Mrs Reineke]

First off I am so sorry for the losses of the new ladies to this thred. It's so hard to handle emotionally, physically and mentally. It's nice to have support from people that know what's it's like. I pray we all get our rainbow babies.

 

[gem10]

Thank you all for your kind words. I went back to work yesterday and broke down in tears the moment I entered my classroom. Everyone was telling me to go home, but I pulled through. But it just seems so weird to proceed with life as normal when it feels like my life has stopped. I did call a high risk doctor. They said they will call within a week to get information, then we will go in for an hour consultation. I am not sure if they are seeing us bc we already know I am high risk due to my bicornurate uterus, or bc of our path with IVF. But either way I will share any information I can with you ladies, and maybe it will help us all. Who knows! Thinking of you all and sending healing hugs to all.

 

[Mrs Reineke]

gem10, I wish you the very best of luck and I hope you will get everything figured out. Hang in there.

 

[cutieq]

so sorry for your loss gem. I hope you get some answers and better luck going forward.

 

[fluffet521]

Thank you all for your kind words. I went back to work yesterday and broke down in tears the moment I entered my classroom. Everyone was telling me to go home, but I pulled through. But it just seems so weird to proceed with life as normal when it feels like my life has stopped. I did call a high risk doctor. They said they will call within a week to get information, then we will go in for an hour consultation. I am not sure if they are seeing us bc we already know I am high risk due to my bicornurate uterus, or bc of our path with IVF. But either way I will share any information I can with you ladies, and maybe it will help us all. Who knows! Thinking of you all and sending healing hugs to all.

Gem, I totally understand what you're going through. It's as if everyone else who knows about your loss has moved on with their lives, but you haven't and it doesn't feel like you ever will. It is very hard right now, but with time it will get better, I promise. Everyone grieves differently, so take as long as you need, and don't let anyone tell you when you should "be over it". You're in my thoughts and prayers, and please do keep us updated.

 

[girlinyork]

I had three losses before my DD - one a mmc, one a chemical and one at 5+4. No reasons found for them and I've got a healthy and gorgeous baby girl who was born after the losses with a straightforward pregnancy. It can and does happen all the time

 

[Mrs Reineke]

Thank you for sharing girlinyork. Did you do anything different when you got pregnant with your daughter? Did you take anything while ttc or during pregnancy?

 

[DBZ34]

Hi Ladies. to you all. This is such a hard journey as it is and pregnancy loss just makes it that much harder.

I hope you all don't mind me joining. I could use the encouragement. I'm Ella and I'm TTC#1. I've been trying for over 3 years now and I've had 4 mc's. I have to say, after the second mc, I was just glad I could get pregnant again, seeing as my first mc was 2 years before then and no sign of a BFP between them. Though, being so close and falling down at the finish line was pretty devastating. But, my heart just breaks every time I have another one.

They've all been early mc's, before 6 weeks, and it is so so hard to try again without that fear of 'what if I lose another baby?' But I keep telling myself that if I don't try, I won't succeed and then I will never experience pregnancy and having a baby. So, I'm soldiering on.

I had just started recurrent mc testing before I moved out of the country and back to the US, so now I have to start all over again....finding a doctor, rehashing my history, getting more tests done. I'm just hoping that at the end of it all, we find out why I'm having so many early losses. But, I am trying in the mean time, hoping that we will have a sticky bean sometime soon.

 

[girlinyork]

Thank you for sharing girlinyork. Did you do anything different when you got pregnant with your daughter? Did you take anything while ttc or during pregnancy?

I took 1000mg agnus castus from Cycle day 1 til ovulation and baby aspirin when I got a bfp but that's about it. Not sure for certain if either of those things made a difference x

 

[fluffet521]

Hi Ladies. to you all. This is such a hard journey as it is and pregnancy loss just makes it that much harder.

I hope you all don't mind me joining. I could use the encouragement. I'm Ella and I'm TTC#1. I've been trying for over 3 years now and I've had 4 mc's. I have to say, after the second mc, I was just glad I could get pregnant again, seeing as my first mc was 2 years before then and no sign of a BFP between them. Though, being so close and falling down at the finish line was pretty devastating. But, my heart just breaks every time I have another one.

They've all been early mc's, before 6 weeks, and it is so so hard to try again without that fear of 'what if I lose another baby?' But I keep telling myself that if I don't try, I won't succeed and then I will never experience pregnancy and having a baby. So, I'm soldiering on.

I had just started recurrent mc testing before I moved out of the country and back to the US, so now I have to start all over again....finding a doctor, rehashing my history, getting more tests done. I'm just hoping that at the end of it all, we find out why I'm having so many early losses. But, I am trying in the mean time, hoping that we will have a sticky bean sometime soon.

Ella, to you too, dear. I'm so sorry to hear about what you've gone through and can only imagine how tough your journey has been. However, I love your positive attitude! I especially love the "if I don't try, I won't succeed and then I will never experience pregnancy and having a baby. So, I'm soldiering on." It takes a ton of inner strength to have an outlook like that. Even though I don't know you, I am proud of you for that.

Sending prayers, hugs and encouragement to you! Thank you for sharing - you inspired me!

 

[Mrs Reineke]

Welcome DBZ34. I am so sorry for your losses. 2 has been horrible for me, I can't imagine 4. I'm so glad you are pushing on and doing your best to stay positive considering. Have you had any testing done and if so what came of that?

 

[cutieq]

Just posting an update. My bloodwork came back and my progesterone level was 13.8, which they said is "low" @5fpo. I have been prescribed 200mg prometrium to be taken twice a day. fingers crossed this fixes things!

 

[fluffet521]

I have my FX for you, cutieq!!!

I LOVE your avi pic, btw!

 

[cutieq]

I have my FX for you, cutieq!!!

I LOVE your avi pic, btw!

Thanks! Some people want world peace. I want us all to get pregnant!

 

[fluffet521]

And I love you for that!!!

 

[melfy77]

So sorry for all of your losses

Just wanted to share a positive story

I had two miscarriages before DD1; first one was a chemical pregnancy and the other was a natural miscarriage and 6w5d after seeing heartbeat, but hcg was rising slowly so kinda saw that one coming...

Anyway I went to a recurrent pregnancy loss clinic and they put me on progesterone as soon as I got my bfp with DD1.

I got pregnant with DD2 when she was 3 months old and they did the same thing.

Progesterone is really one of those ''can't hurt might help thing''. I was also taking low dose aspirin since I have Protein C deficency, which makes me more susceptible to blood clots when I'm pregnant.

Don't give up

 

[Mrs Reineke]

Yay cutieq!!!! I'm sooooo excited for you!!! I think this will do it for you!!

melfy77 thank you so much for sharing your story with us. It means a lot.

 

[cutieq]

So sorry for all of your losses

Just wanted to share a positive story

I had two miscarriages before DD1; first one was a chemical pregnancy and the other was a natural miscarriage and 6w5d after seeing heartbeat, but hcg was rising slowly so kinda saw that one coming...

Anyway I went to a recurrent pregnancy loss clinic and they put me on progesterone as soon as I got my bfp with DD1.

I got pregnant with DD2 when she was 3 months old and they did the same thing.

Progesterone is really one of those ''can't hurt might help thing''. I was also taking low dose aspirin since I have Protein C defiency, which makes me more susceptible to blood clots when I'm pregnant.

Don't give up

thnx for sharing. I love hearing the positive stories!