2015 vs 2016 Muddled and Mixed

[xstitcher87]

Hello everyone!

To cut a long story short, originally, Hubby and I set a TTC date of August 2016, then it became April 2016, now it looks more like a 'whenever we take our next overseas trip' date.

This could be as early as November 2015!! On the one hand I am super excited, I didn't think Hubby was interested in TTC sooner. He's shown more interest than he ever has before.

But as excited as I am, I am also terrified! I have never been pregnant before, we've always been fairly careful with BC (Pill + Condoms, although recently just Pill). My family history is terrible, my mum had trouble conceiving, my sister has been diagnosed with a condition that makes her infertile (though it is possible with treatment and probably IVF), my other sister has had 2 miscarriages (1 at 12 weeks, the other at 7 weeks).

I am terrified that sort of thing will happen to me. I start worrying and thinking "what if I can't have kids", "what if I miscarry, that would be devastating", "what if I never get to go overseas again", "what if we don't have enough money". But at the same time, wanting to have a baby in my arms is like a physical ache that never goes away!

I also have endometrial polyps and am waiting on a specialist appointment so I can book my hysteroscopy and removal. Which would hopefully be over and done with in the first half of this year (waiting times in my area are ridiculous). So now I'm questioning, should we go with possibly November 2015? Or stick with our original date?

Why are these sorts of grown up decisions so difficult?! In November I will be turning 28 and it will be our 10 year anniversary of being together (married nearly a year)...seems like a really symbolic months to start our TTC #1 journey. I am so excited, but scared that things won't work out or we'll have chosen the "wrong time".

Hopefully this makes sense and doesn't sound too rambly or weird!

 

[EmmySocks]

I don't really have any suggestions but i sympathise with the worrying thing. i do the same but as neither of us have ever tried before you just can't know if there are going to be problems. It might be fine

You mentioned worrying about money - everyone says a baby costs as much as you want it to but maybe aim to build up some savings as a safety net?

I think November sounds like a good date but it's got to be up to you and your hubby. We've set our date provisionally, but we both accept it may change nearer the time if we're not ready. Have a chat with yours and see how he feels. If you're thinking about it i doubt it could be too much of 'the wrong time'.

Good luck xxx

 

[xstitcher87]

Thanks Emmy Socks!

My husband is soooo wonderful I am truly a lucky woman. He is so practical and not a worrier at all, so we balance each other out! He isn't worried about money at all, and is definitely in the 'they cost as much as you want' camp. We're also pretty good with money, but I worry anyway, lol. We've kind of fallen into the decision and it feels right. I had a moment the other morning walking to the bus stop and started thinking that if we did conceive in November that Christmas after next we'd be celebrating with a new baby. I felt, calm, and not worried.

As my husband puts it, "you've always made the right major life decisions, no reason to think this one is wrong, you chose me and that was a pretty good decision" <----hard to argue when he's being cute like that!

We have discussed it multiple times over the last few weeks. We've definitely decided to TTC on our next overseas trip! So, now I just need to pull my brain away from babies and focus on finishing my Masters and get my husband through police college, both will be done in the next 12 weeks!!

It looks like our trip will most probably be in February/March or March/April 2016 as we'll have more leave then. But, for me, that means I will have to go to my GP possibly in November anyway to adjust some medication I'm on. I'm currently on meds for Blood Pressure issues (genetic) that aren't safe for pregnancy, so I would have to go and swap them for ones that are and give them a month or two to make sure they're working.

I still haven't heard from the specialist but I have a GP appointment on Monday about my polyps. Hopefully she can help move the specialist along. I'll also be asking her about when I should change my meds up, a month before, 3 months etc So once we've booked our trip I can book my appointments with her!

I am so excited I think I'm going to set aside a small amount of money each week for the pregnancy/baby expenses.

I notice you're TTC'ing in 2016 too, YAY!!