2016 May Miracles

[Kitteh_Kat]

I'm also having headaches, but as a migraine sufferer I will gladly take these over migraines since I can't take my narcotics during pregnancy. They are annoying though! They did go away later in the second trimester with DD at least.

pink - I hope you can get your VBAC! Sounds like you've definitely thought it through, and that's fantastic that your doctor is on board with it. Are you going to skip the sweeps with this one then and try to start naturally?

Welcome back, baker - hope you get your VBAC too! FX for your scan next week!

I got shorted by raspberry tea, I don't think it did anything at all. It tasted good though and I had no problems drinking it, so I'll probably drink it again in the third trimester. Always worth a shot!

 

[Flossie_Aus]

Ladies I need some advice... Word is getting around our small town thanks to one "friend" with a big mouth. I'm 10 weeks on Monday. I had planned to wait to announce on Facebook until our 12 week scan. Now husband wants to announce now so that nobody gets butthurt over finding out our news second hand. I quite frankly thinks he cares too much about other peoples feelings, and really don't. I've given up and told him he can tell whoever he likes but I feel really paranoid about it like I'm tempting fate...

Which brings me to my second problem... Which I don't really want to talk about because I'm kind of ashamed. Im feeling really down. I'm not excited like I was. I just feel negative and anxious. I do have an anxiety disorder and had to get off my meds before TTC but this feels more like depression. Or maybe (hopefully not) instinct. I've been bedridden for two days (other, physical issues) and I just feel like I'm drowning. The pregnancy is scaring me so much that I can't even get excited anymore. I'm going to make a doctors appointment on Monday but I'm scared that they'll want to put me on antidepressants again and I don't really want to take that risk with baby. Anyone here have experience with antenatal depression or any advice? Could this pass on its own like hormones or something? So many people try so hard to have a baby and with me feeling like this right now I just feel so unworthy and ungrateful

 

[Spiffynoodles]

Flossie, I've had trouble with depression off and on for as long as I can remember. I was on antidepressants until just a few weeks ago (I could have stayed on them, because they're considered pretty safe in pregnancy, but decided that I wanted to see how I'd do without them). Most of the time, the depression passes after a little while, but while I'm in the midst of it, it really does suck. I start getting thoughts like, "Why am I having another baby? I barely handle the kids I've got!" or "Great, more sleepless nights and frustration with feedings, and more diapers." It's awful to just see the negative in everything and feel like the joy is just something other people feel. But of course when you come out of it, the joy comes back, and you remember why you're excited for your precious baby once again.

I wish I had some awesome advice, but the only thing that helps me get through it is praying and asking God to help me feel hope and happiness. If you're not religious, then I'd suggest surrounding yourself with as much positivity and reminders of the things that make you happiest. Hang in there, you WILL feel better. (See? That's the positivity, right there! )

 

[Butterfly2015]

Hi flossie I completely understand what your going through I'm bi polar type 2 and have an emotionally unstable personality disorder and suffer severe anxiety when we decided to start trying last Feb the disision to come off all my meds was terrifying I monitored my mental health very closely my family was very worried about me I always found keeping a mood diary handy to help me identify when something was wrong and help identify possible triggers after my loss in May at 13 weeks they wanted me to go back on high level meds which would have put ttc at a complete stand still but I knew what I felt was grief and perfectly natural and stood my ground what I would say is you know how you feel better then anyone and for the better part trust your instincts when I fell pregnant with my youngest son I was on meds but in a manic phase and I stopped my meds cold turkey as soon as I found out big mistake for me I fell into a deep depression very quickly almost suicidal in fact but couldn't go back on meds till 12 weeks and I was grateful I did my sons very happy and healthy I couldn't bf but that was a small price to pay for my sanity and I don't regret it I did what was best at the time for me and him if you need help from meds for your mood it's absolutely nothing to be ashamed of and you never know you could always come off them safely when you feel ready I'm very open and honest about my illnesses both mental and physical as I don't think there is anything to be ashamed of if you have any further questions I may be able to help with feel free to ask I welcome curiosity lol try the diary I found it really helped me make sense of my feelings xx

 

[N8ie]

N8ie, VBAC is vaginal birth after cesarean section!

Thanks

 

[pinkpassion]

Kitteh, no sweeps for me, I didn't know this with dd but if you're GBS+ you're at a greater risk of fetal problems and death with stretch and sweeps because the strep can make its way in there and cause problems ... so nope non for me!!!

 

[bakerh518]

Pink ohh!! In the 3rd trimester! Yes yes! My midwife was totally on board with that! I thought you meant now!


Excellent news tonight!! We were able to pick up the baby's heartbeat on our fetal monitor!!! :yippee: such a huge relief!!

When I was pregnant with my ds I contacted a nutritionist about my headaches and she said you are most definitely missing protein! I started the next day by majorly upping the protein and dumpin some of the usless sugar calories and VOLA! No more headaches for the rest of my pregnancy! I hope this is helpful to some of you ladies!!

 

[Flossie_Aus]

Thank you so much spiffy and butterfly, I'm so sorry to know that other women have felt this way, but it's also comforting that I'm not alone. Hopefully it passes soon.

 

[busytulip]

That's wonderful news baker-glad you were able to find HB

Cute scan Adriansmama!

Flossie I am so sorry you are going through this. The only advice I have is for you to keep talking...let those close to you (as well as your care provider) know how you are doing. It doesn't do any good to keep it all to yourself. A heavy load feels lighter when shared by many.

 

[sugargully]

Awesome news Baker!

I need to hurry up and get a fetal monitor. I didn't know they were sensitive enough to use at 8 weeks. I was just thinking I wish I had a scan soon bc I need some reassurance right now.

 

[hereishoping]

Sorry I have been so quiet ladies. Got quite a lot of negative stuff going on at work, DS been poorly and I am feeling a bit down too with anxiety so know how you feel Flossie.

I have a Doppler in loft but was worried about trying to use it too soon. Can't believe you can hear HB so early. Quite tempted now.

AFM I will definitely be aiming for VBAC. II really felt that I missed out on part of the labour experience last time and still to this day I wonder if the c section contributed to my inability to BF and my PND. Anyway what will be will be I guess and first thing is to get safely through first trip.

Enjoy your weekends xx

 

[bakerh518]

I am pretty sure sonline b is quite reliable after ten weeks, we heard it regularly with ds then, it is very faint right now but if you know what you are listening for and are patient you might be able to find it!

Usually this early you need to aim very low and down into your pelvis not belly, it also helps if you lay with you hips flexed so it pushes your uterus up more, some peoenhave said its better to eat first others said not to but I haven't found either one consistently better than the other, it also depends on your weight and belly fat, I thought being quite a bit heavier than I was with my ds we'd definitely not be able to get it but I was wrong! It was very faint and I had to jam the speaker to my ear but was there!!

I hope all the ladies hoping for a vbac get one!! I was very upset about having a csection due only to a breech baby! I am hoping this baby isn't as stubborn!

 

[pinkpassion]

Sugargully I've been hearing this baby since 8+6!!

 

[pinkpassion]

So there are quite a few vbac hopefuls on this thread?!

 

[Kitteh_Kat]

Even the OB couldn't find DD's heartbeat with a doppler until 16 weeks (she's such a stubborn child), so I'm not even going to try with this one until after 20 weeks again.

Glad that some ladies have been able to find heartbeats so early though!

Hope things go better for you at work, hereishoping!

 

[busytulip]

hereishoping sorry to hear that work has been stressful, hope it eases soon

 

[hereishoping]

OK angel sounds says not until 14 weeks and I couldn't pick up anything earlier when I tried.

Very different topic but was wondering if any of you ladies suffered with SPD in an earlier pregnancy? I was on crutches for final 5 weeks with DS and pretty much immobile altogether for last week. I have been regularly seeing Chiro although next appt not for a couple of weeks, but recently have started noticing back \hip pain and really worried that it could be SPD already. I know it can come worse and earlier with a second pregnancy but surely not this early???

 

[ja14]

I scheduled my early gender determination, and now I'm second guessing it! If I found out early, I wanted to know before thanksgiving.So for my scan date I would be about 15 weeks & 3 days. I know that's early, so now I'm worried what they tell us will be wrong!
Did any of you find out this early will your past babies?

 

[Gdef]

I scheduled my early gender determination, and now I'm second guessing it! If I found out early, I wanted to know before thanksgiving.So for my scan date I would be about 15 weeks & 3 days. I know that's early, so now I'm worried what they tell us will be wrong!
Did any of you find out this early will your past babies?

Yes! I found out at 13 weeks with dd1 and 14 weeks with dd2 and they were both accurate

 

[Gdef]

Can I vent for a minute, ladies? I really need some advice. So, my mil used to be my best friend. Like we did everything together (vacation, shopping, etc). Well, about 3 yrs ago things started to change and kind of "come to light". I found out that she was telling people "keep your friends close but your enemies closer" regarding me and our super close relationship.

She's been super manipulative behind my back trying to create a wedge between me and DH. Like she told DH that I was cheating on him with our family doctor who is also a very good friend of our family! DH told her that he knew that wasn't true and she needed to back the f$&@ off. We're both so incredibly tired of it. DH's only request to me was that I just be nice to his mom and his dad when we see them. His parents are divorced so we always see them separately. I also hate his dad but I won't go into that right now. If I don't like you, I can be a very harsh and cold person...so I have agreed to be nice out of love and respect for my DH.

Moving on...my mil was in the delivery room along with my mom and DH for the birth of both of our girls. At this point, and with other recent things that mil has done, I don't want mil in the room for this new baby. I just want my mom and DH. But mil is insisting that she's going to be in there! I'm so hurt bc now I have to tell my own mom that she can't be in the room since mil can't be in there. "We can't show favoritism". It really sucks bc I want my mommy! But DH and even my own mom both say that it wouldn't be right to kick mil out after she's already witnessed 2 of our babies births already. I really don't know what to do