20months ttc #1 so fed up

[xxdoovde]

Hi guys,

me and hubby started not trying not preventing 4 years ago then after two years of that we decided we was more than ready to start a family so started trying properly with opks. Its coming up to our 20th month of trying and i am loosing hope i am so fed up.

I went to the doctors after 18months ttc only to be turned away and told to just relax and go back when it had been two years. One week later i got rushed to hospital in an ambulance with severe abdominal pain and had to stay in. They did a scan and told me i had an ovarian cyst that had partly ruptured. I had to go back for a second scan yesterday and got told that things look to have settled down but I still don't know any answers if it is still there or not. I've got to go back again in 3 week.

I was on my af when I went to the scan and it was so hard sitting in the maternity ward watching everyone else go for scans of their babies. And to make things worse I got my af 4 days early this month even though we timed everything perfectly and really thought this was our month. I'm so down all the time I haven't stopped crying all week, hubby is really supportive but doesn't show his feelings much and I feel bad because I always vent to him because nobody else knows where ttc so he's the only one I can talk to.

Sorry for the vent im just so fed up

 

[Myshelsong]

Hey xxdoovde.
I have had a cyst rupture and it is not fun at all.

Me and Hubby have been at this since June 2011 and I can say that it is a hard road to do this alone. Or what feels like alone. If you like we have a Support group for people LTTTC #1 that you are welcome to join. We have a great set of ladies, some post regularily some every once and awhile but it is great to be surrounded by someone going through something similar sometimes. This Journey is a hard road for all of us so sometimes we all go through spouts where we need to take a break from everything 'baby', but we are always here for support.

https://babyandbump.momtastic.com/p...-1-support-group-please-share-your-story.html

I am shocked your Dr turned you away without even doing bloodwork. Are you really young, that is the only reason I could see him do that, and that is just a normal horrible thing that Drs do to young people for no reason.

How are your cycles, are you regular? Do you temp or chart or anything like that?

Good luck on your journey

 

[Taloulah]

I know how you feel! I have been trying to concieve for 32 months coming up to 33 months! It's so hard especially when everyone around you is falling pregnant. I kept nagging my doctors after a year but they wouldn't do nothing kept fobbing me off even when I spoke of my 40 day cycles and about bleeding inbeteeen periods etc! Complaing about pains etc. after a year and a half of complete nagging I went back and luckily for me I had to see a different doctor as mine was not there at the time. She gave me a 21 day blood! I phones for results and she said everything was 'normal' but they wanted a repeat so when I got the letter to take with me to have one done at the hospital on the letter it stated 'very high prolactin' so lab suggested a repeat. Got the results back from that and everything was 'normal' yeah we all no what there normal is?! I never asked anymore about it. They are in other words just rubbish. I went back again because I bled for 9 days on a period which was so unusual. Again luckily enough to have a different doctor see me. She referred me to have an ultra sound at the hospital two weeks later and my mum and I went for the scan. She said I think u may have something called PCOS she said if u want an internal scan say so I said course yes. Then she said yes you have what we call polycystic ovaries!!! Went back to the doctors to talk about the results and all she said was you do have PCO nothing more nothing less. Great so what does that actually help wid? Didn't explain didn't tell me if bad severe mild. But she said she isn't worried? Clearly there's these follicles on my ovaries and she says to me she's not worried even though I came for answers and if she is t worried why after 32 months ain't she worried? Lol. Also she won't help me, she only offered the pill to help my periods. No fertility drugs. I feel like they have control of my life!! hopefully it will happen for us all! Best of luck.

 

[xxdoovde]

Hey ladies,

Thanks so much for sharing your stories it makes it a lot easier when you hear from people going through the same thing. Ttc can be so lonely and everyone around you seems to be pregnant. I've lost touch with all my friends through ttc because I have just been too depressed to see anyone or just simply not had the time to. And it makes it worse when nobody knows what you are going through so im glad there are other ladies going through the same thing who I can reach out to.

Myshelsong, thanks I will definitely join the group!
and yes im young it took me a lot of courage to go to the doctors and when I finally did is all she said is "relax your still young it will happen"
But it is hard to relax when you've been trying for so long.
My cycles can range from anywhere between 26 days to 33 days I don't temp or anything but I've been using clearblue digital opks which show I ovulate every month.
Good luck to you and your hubby I hope you get your miracle soon.


Taloulah, 20 months has been really hard so I can't even begging to imagine what 32 months feels like. Doctors can be so useless I can't believe your doctor said that, that must of been horrible for you. Ttc can make you feel so helpless so when doctors don't even help you it makes you feel like there's no one in the world who can help you!
I'm sorry you've had such a bad time ttc and I'm praying you get the miracle you deserve very soon.


All the best ladies I am praying for us all to get that BFP very soon and I hope your journeys aren't much longer x

 

[Miss Rach]

Hi ladies...

I just wanted to say hi and you're not alone!

I've been TTC for 2.5 years and after being fobbed off by my NHS RE, being told nothing was wrong and suggesting the miscarriages were all in my head (!) I've found out I have an immune and clotting disorder!! Thanks for the wasted time - I am 37 now...(( We ended up going to Zita West and having Chicago tests which revealed the results. I am on treatment, but who knows..
This whole thing has sucked the life out of me. I've lost touch with my friends too because they all have kids and the pain is too much to bear sometimes. Do you guys feel it physically? I do...sometimes it feels like my heart is being ripped out.

Knowing there are others out there who feel like I do makes it easier though.

Do any of you go to support groups locally? I am thinking of finding something because I know no one in real life who is going through this. There should be more resources out there to help women like us...my doctor has never even mentioned any group or type of help - rubbish!!!

Fingers crossed for us all...

Rach x

 

[Pinkie3]

Hi Ladies,

I understand how you all are feeling. We have been TTC for nearly 3 years with not even a sniff of a BFP.

I am very surprised your doctors have all been so unhelpful and insensitive, this is a very hard and emotional journey for a couple. The policy is they will do tests after you have been trying for 12 months (I am assuming you are UK based?) so I don't understand why they are turning you away? We went to our doctors just after a year, we were both sent for tests - me, blood test on day 2 and day 21, the OH a SA, our results were sent back to the GP some came back a bit low so she referred us to the local fertility ward. Things went pretty slow from there but they gave us all the necessary tests and I cant fault the whole process. I had further blood tests, an HSG to check my tubes, a hysteroscopy to check my womb and further SA tests on the OH. Everything was fine with me but unfortunately I have a high FSH and the OH has a slightly below average sperm count and mobility, so our numbers are going against us. After all these test and no BFP, we were then referred for IVF, we had our first cycle back in Sept but it didn't work, we've had our follow up appointment and will try again in the New Year. So my advice is go back and tell them you want to be referred, as these tests can take a long time and there are lots of things to look at before you can move forward.

I have good days and bad days on this journey (one of my colleagues who started trying the same time as me announced today she is pregnant - with her 2nd child, that was a kick in the face) But I am pleased we've had all these tests its made me feel a little calmer knowing where we stand, and what we need to do to try and improve our chances.

Stay positive - I believe we will be parents one day, I don't know why its taking so long but once they are here just think how much they are going to be loved and looked after. My acupuncturist told me he believes people that struggle to conceive always make the best parents.

Good luck ladies, praying for some good news for you. Keep us up to date with your developments.

x