27 TTC #1 looking for a buddy

[lol2811]

I was thinking about it but I am scared. It is starting to really get to me though.

 

[DrGomps]

TTC is a stressful process...are you scared that you may have some fertility issues??? 6 months still by any standards is not alot and there is no reason to believe that you or DH have any problems. But clomid gave me the kick I needed.

 

[lol2811]

Well I'm certain I am ovulating so there is at least that. I think I am my own worst enemy in that I just can't relax about it which can obviously have an effect.

I'm the sort of person that stresses about things easily anyway and I tend to get quite down about things. I know 6 months is nothing compared to how long some ladies have been waiting on here but I'm just not coping with it very well. I've just found out aswell that anoth friend thinks she might be pregnant and she only stopped the pill in January. I'm obviously really happy for her but can't help but feel extremely jealous at the same time. It is taking over my life and I just don't know how to relax about it. I was hoping that if the doc would at least do some initial tests and confirm that everything is ok that I might at least relax enough to let it happen. I just don't know anymore.

 

[TraceC]

Ha Hi all, I'm 27 and TTC #1 too. Would love to Buddy up with any or all ! ! ! On Month 5 of TTC. We'll all get there....just have to be patient (as hard as that can be )

 

[DrGomps]

Charlotte, I agree that you are definitely ovulating...you have nice temp shifts and peaks on the cbfm. Its hard to see people who just "fall" pregnant! How many cycles have you been charting/cbfm? have you tested again? It could be something to do with DH and thats a relatively easy thing to test.

 

[DrGomps]

Hi Trace, what CD are you on? I see that you are down under...always wanted to go there...maybe when my bean is older.

 

[TraceC]

Hi on CD 2 AF showed up yesterday. New I didn't have it in the bag this past cycle, as I have been pretty sick, but hopeful for this month. Bring on a Dec Baby

 

[DrGomps]

Trace, do you chart bbt, use OPKs? Sorry to hear the got you.

 

[TraceC]

At the moment all I'm doing is charting my most fertile days. Thinking I will start OPKs this month or next if I don't get the BFP. DH doesn't like the idea, only cause of it becoming a bit to "clinical" for his liking. He is very supportive, but doesn't want it to be a job rather than enjoying a bit of BDing and then just happening to get a BFP. Am also thinking about temping, but I live in QLD so its very hot here one day then quite cool the next, so not sure how it would go, plus I get out of bed at different hrs as I sometimes do night work. Will just see how it all goes and take it in my stride. Its gotta happen sooner or later...I'd prefer sooner though

 

[DrGomps]

Trace, I love the idea of it just "happening" but there is a very small window of opportunity each month to catch that egg, being over 25 our chances of conceiving are a mere 20% if the BD is timed right...if not its even less. outside temp shouldn't effect your BBT too much, it may work...as long as its the same time each day and you have at least 3 hours of sleep prior...but there are ways to make adjustments. And the nice thing is you at least know your ovulating and when...how long are your cycles? The cycle I conceived I actually went skiing for the first time during implantation and fell alot!! THought it wouldn't be my cycle...but sure enough... 9DPO. I used OPKs, preseed, softcups, bbt charting and clomid.

 

[lol2811]

Been charting for 6 months now. Haven't tested again just don't want to see another bfn. My temp is still above the coverline but has been declining for the past few days so expecting it to fully drop tomorrow.

Hi trace welcome.

 

[DrGomps]

Fx'ed your temp stays high charlotte, it ain't over till its over!! will you test if there is no tomorrow?

 

[TraceC]

Thanks for that. Yeah might by some OPKs and a Basal Therm in a few days and start giving them ago.I use Concieve + at the moment, but I think I will order Preseed as that seems to be the favourite My cycle is 25 days and pretty much has come like clockwork. Wow I didn't realise my chances were that low being over 25...yikes! I knew that my clock was starting to tick though. To make matters worse, another friend announced she was pregnant today, 3rd pregnancy too. Why is that everyone around you seems so fertile and can fall preggers at the drop of a hat...but when it comes to catching the egg on purpose its darn near impossible....?

 

[lol2811]

Well temp has dropped abit more, still not below coverline yet but that is def where it is heading. It makes me think even more that I ov'd on CD14 like my CBFM said rather than on CD12 like my temps said.

I did test this morning but as predicted BFN. If i did ov on CD 14 my temp will fully drop tomorrow and then AF will show up on Wednesday. Once she shows DH has said we should make a doctors appointment just to go and have a chat as it is getting me so down.

I know what you mean Trace, people all around me seem to be so fertile.

 

[Ladyzara]

Hi girls sorry been a very sad weekend!! sorry about your BFN keep your fingers crossed it still might happen!

Andrea i hope you hear that little heart beat soon it will be fine!! oh so exciting!

so i had my appointment, they are now saying that my DH has lazy sperm even though last time we were told there was nothing wrong! the FS said that it's not impossible to fall pregnant wityh his mobility but unlikely to happen! so as you can imagine my heart sank!!!! they have now said that the next step is IVF, there is a long waiting list and they only do 300 couples a year and you only get one shot!

We're gonna keep trying and pray that it happens soon, i have bought him suppliments and changed our diets so heres to hoping!! x

 

[DrGomps]

Trace, sorry to hear about all your friends..I mean not sorry that they are pregnant...but I know how it feels. I had to endure two baby showers and 4 pregnancy announcements before I got my

Charlotte, I think its great you are going to the doctor...I think it will make you feel better.
Fx'ed you don't have to and the which doesn't show up..to me I also think you may only be 12 DPO. If you tested with an IC they are unlikely to work that early...so don't get too down!!

Ladyzara...sorry to hear about your DH lazy I am assuming you have NHS, thats nice that they at least do IVF...and I know loads of people that it worked for the first time. In the US IVF is almost always private. Even if you have insurance the insurance usually doesn't want to help you get pregnant because more medical bills!

 

[DrGomps]

Oh and my scan is tomorrow!! So excited and nervous!! Praying for a strong heartbeat!! Grow little bean!! Grow!!

I feel like ever since last week's scan that I have been pulling back and trying to detach myself....in case something goes wrong, I am so terrified!!! I know rationally there is no reason to think anything is wrong as I had met all the milestones so far...this just seems like such a huge milestone. And I know the chance of mc is much lower after the heartbeat is seen. I even got this pregnancy journal that I havent started filling out yet in case this isn't a viable pregnancy.

 

[DrGomps]

I wish I could tell you ladies that all the stress and worry ends once you conceive.

 

[lol2811]

You will be fine Andrea, I am so excited for you and there is not much waiting now before you get to hear that little beating heart!!!

I know it is possible that I am only 12/13 dpo so guess there is still a chance but I am remaining realistic in the signt of the steady decline of my temps. Just have to see what tomorrow brings and go from there.

So sorry to hear of your news ladyzara, keep trying though as miracles do happen and you could be that lucky one!!!

 

[DrGomps]

is there anyway to jumpstart the sperm so they are less lazy??? LOL.