2nd missed miscarriage

[Chalrhow]

I was just told yesterday that my baby stopped growing at 7wks 3 days i should have been 9 weeks... I had a scan 2 weeks ago and baby had a heartbeat but no heartbeat yesterday... I had exact same happen 5 months ago in april Im now waiting to miscarry I was googling yesterday and a few sites i came accross said a missed miscarriage only happens in 1 percent of pregnancys and its very rare... How can i have had 2 in 5 months There must be something am doing wrong for the baby to die at about the same stage each time !! Am totally devastated and terrified of going through another miscarriage... My m/c in april was horrific.... Im now wondering if i should have asked for a D&C... I dont know if i can cope with it all again

 

[mummymadness]

Iam so sorry for your loss now and 5 months ago .
I cannot imagine the pain you feel , But i promise it is nothing you have done wrong .. You kept healthy and tried your hardest to make baby safe and sound .
I hope it isnt too painfull , And that in time your pain heals if only a little bit . xxxxxxxxx .

 

[SJK]

I am so sorry, I was told of my mmc on 3rd april, I had a d&c, if you want to talk, pm me xxx

 

[Zoya]

very sorry for your loss.......there is nothing that you can do wrong at that early stage.........I also had 2 mc in a row..withing 4 months.(missed+chemical)...............and I know how it feels........
I just hope that you came over from this soon and think for a new start.......never give up your hope........wish you a good health we all are here for your questions, you have.sending you lots of
hope you feel better soon.

 

[todteach]

I'm so so sorry hun.

This is truley not fair.

You haven't done anything wrong darling, please remember that.

I had a missed miscarriage at three months in May.

I asked the surgeon before my d&c what i did wrong. He said nothing. He also told me that it's always the good people that he sees for miscarriages. It's never the alcoholic, or drug abuser, they go on to have fullterm babies. I explained that with my job, I do a lot of heavy lifting and pushing. I work at a daycare centre where our strollers have five heavy 2 1/2 to 3 year olds in them: we go for hour long walks. He said this isn't the reason, you are able to do pushing like this. You will end up hurting yourself before you even come close to hurting your baby.

You haven't done anything to hurt your baby; you did everything right.
I'm so sorry that you're going through this right now, it's not fair. I'm sending you big .

 

[JemmaD]

im so sorry about your loss hunny i found out the same things on friday after there was no heart beat found the week befor, i went home to misscarry by myself and was in so much pain over the weekend and thought it had all happened by its self but had to have d&c on tuesday, im so glad i did now, its not any thing you have done wrong so dont blame your self hunny email me if you need a chat xxxxxx

 

[buffycat]

i am so so sorry that this is happened, it really is unfair

please take care...and we're here if you need us......

luv & hugs

 

[cleckner04]

I'm sorry for your loss. I lost my baby with a MMC as well at the end of August. My thoughts are with you.

 

[Hevz]

I'm sorry for your losses babe

I'm no expert but I think they're not as rare as you may think....there are quite a lot of ladies on this forum who have had similar problems to you I'm afraid. Have a little read through some of the other threads and you may feel less alone sweetie


Good luck next time....I will keep my fingers crossed for you

 

[tillymum]

My heart truly is going out to you right now, I am so sorry to hear you have gone through this twice. I had a missed mc in May and like you saw the heartbeat 2 weeks previous, I could not imagine going through a mmc again.... I just want to give you a big hug and wish I cold to make it all better!

I originally opted to let it all happen naturally but a few days later phoned them to have a D&C (ERPC) as I was so stressed and worried, and I'm glad I made that decision.

I just recently had a 2nd mc too at 6 weeks but my mmc in May is still the one that haunts me.

Maybe speak to your doctor and see if they can offer some advise.

Big hugs

 

[HkLiz]

I'm so sorry for your loss

 

[keldac]

I'm so sorry.
I had a mmc, then went on to have 2 complete miscarriages. I opted for a D&C the first time - given the choice I would have done it the next two rather than go through it naturally.
After 3 miscarriages I was in utter despair, but after more heartache (see signature) we got there in the end.
Don't give up hope and take care xxx

 

[Loo]

I am sorry for your loss sweetheart. I had a missed mc at 12+ weeks, having seen the heart beat look fab at 9 weeks, so I know how truly devastating it is.

Choose whatever treatment method feels right for you. I had medical management but then had retained products and had to have a d+c, and despite the complications, I would do the same again. But thats just me!

I found no solice in the statistics either. For me I read only a few % miscarry and then chances of retained products only a few %....I was screaming 'why me?? what have i done??' But thats just the anger phase of bereavement and it does pass. None of us have done anything wrong, it just happens.

Lots of hugs and hope everything goes ok x

 

[chrissie33]

Hey hun, so sorry to hear of your loss. I know who you are feeling, I have just come back from hospital after having medical management for another mc- blighted ovum this time that required medical management. I had a mmc at 12+ weeks and had medical management then a complete mc and now a blighted ovum also requiring medical management. It isnt fair and your feelings of anger and bewilderment are completely normal. Having no children yet, i have been through the despair of wondering why me and is there something wrong with me but I believe that my time will come, as will yours, we just need to give ourselves a little time to heal. If you ever need to talk, pm me anytime xx

 

[Lazy Leo]

So so sorry xx

 

[jk28]

Hi there, I'm so sorry for your losses & understand how you're feeling after suffering 2 mmc's also, (1 @ 11wks & 1 @ 9wks, however babies had both died at around 6/7wks)!! I had a D&C for both, but did wait approx 10 days with each to see if I would mc naturally. There's no words than can make this better for you, but just wanted to say sorry & you're not alone.

Take care
Love Jayne x

 

[cerilou]

Hi

I am so, so sorry for your loss. I had a mc in July this year, fell pregnant straight away and had a 2nd mc in August. I know how despondent you feel and the grief is overwhelming.

Please don't blame yourself for this. I spoke to my gp last week who was lovely. She said that when the pregnancy ended as early as it did for me (6 weeks for both), it's just the bodies way of dealing with a non viable pregnancy. I know that's probably not want you want to hear right now but sometimes it's our body doing it's job.

Give yourself some time to grieve for your loss. Pamper yourself, do whatever you need to do to get you through this.

I am thinking of you. If you want to chat, pm me.

 

[Chalrhow]

Thanks for everyones replies, its over now, i started to miscarry monday night, i had a scan this morning and everything has gone im relieved that i dont need surgery but devastated this has happened again.

 

[cerilou]

I am so sorry. I am thinking of you. I know how lonely you feel. It DOES get easier, I promise but I know you're going through hell at the moment.

Sending you lots of

 

[NickyNix]

I'm so sorry to hear your sad news

I am having my first mmc as I type......
I was 8+4 and was told on Tuesday at a scan that my baby had no heartbeat and that it had died 2 weeks before. It only measured in at 6 weeks old and because of this I was told that I have to go back next Tuesday for another scan.
I have been bleeding since last Friday but started passing clots last night and all day today - hiddeous and I have been in so much pain. I hope I'm not sounding like a drama queen but if I had had the option and if I knew then what I know now I would opt for the D&C. If it does happen naturally, just stay as strong as you possibly can and make sure you are with someone.
For me (my opinion only), it's added more trauma to the whole process. It's hard enough having to deal with the loss of your baby without having to deal with this too.

Stay strong hun and I am so sorry