3 failed IUIs. How do you cope?

[PinkPeony]

Aw sweet name Mav! Mine are Fiona & Violet. what is your due date? I've had a c section booked for April 30th.

 

[Maverick007]

Aw sweet name Mav! Mine are Fiona & Violet. what is your due date? I've had a c section booked for April 30th.

aww, love those names! so cute. wow april 30, so soon! that's awesome though. i am due on april 24. she is head down so we're hoping she stays that way!

 

[StayHopeful]

TTCMoon, I had a very hard time when I first heard that the doctor was recommending IVF. But once we made the decision to go ahead with it, it was like a weight was lifted off my shoulders. We had a plan, the doctor was confident with it, and it gave us so much better odds than IUIs did. It's definitely a tough thing to hear, though, and we're all here for you!

AFM, our little guy decided to surprise us on Monday! My water broke on Sunday night (about an hour after DH and I had decided that we were too tired and would pack the hospital bags the next evening...) so we threw things in suitcases and headed to the hospital. DS was born on Monday morning and we got home from the hopsital on Wednesday. It's been a crazy week!

 

[moni77]

Congrats stay!! and thanks for all the well wishes! couple days to go...

 

[Maverick007]

StayHopeful that's amazing! Congrats!!! I hope you and the beebee are doing well!!!!

 

[PinkPeony]

Wow! Congratulations Stay!!

 

[ttcmoon]

WoW!!!Congratulations Stay! I am so happy for you.
How is your health now and how is the baby. My all wishes to new parents.
Thanks for giving me some hope!

 

[baby.wish]

Congrats Stay!! Awesome news! Hope you and LO are doing well.
Maverick can't believe you and PinkPeony are so close now!! Its crazy how fast time flies.
My 20 week scan is this Thurs and I am just so nervous. I don't know why I just pray everything is ok so far!

 

[Maverick007]

Congrats Stay!! Awesome news! Hope you and LO are doing well.
Maverick can't believe you and PinkPeony are so close now!! Its crazy how fast time flies.
My 20 week scan is this Thurs and I am just so nervous. I don't know why I just pray everything is ok so far!

I was so nervous too! but just have faith that all is well...i can't wait to hear how it goes!!

 

[ttcmoon]

baby.wish - wish you all the very best for your 20 week scan!

 

[StayHopeful]

GL with your 20-week scan, baby.wish!

Baby and I are doing well so far. It's been a huge adjustment, especially BFing. It's exhausting having to do it every few hours and it's kind of overwhelming never being able to take a break. I did take him to a BFing support group today and when they weighed him, he'd lost 3oz since last Friday. They suggested longer feedings and supplementing with pumped milk, which I started trying this afternoon. The whole process of feeding him, supplementing him, and pumping him took an hour and a half. Which means I have an hour before I have to do the whole thing again. So just feeling pretty overwhelmed by everything... I'm recovering well from labor and delivery, still a little sore but I'm moving around almost like normal. I still have a lot of swelling in my feet and ankles, they said that can last up to three weeks so hopefully it will go down soon.

 

[Maverick007]

GL with your 20-week scan, baby.wish!

Baby and I are doing well so far. It's been a huge adjustment, especially BFing. It's exhausting having to do it every few hours and it's kind of overwhelming never being able to take a break. I did take him to a BFing support group today and when they weighed him, he'd lost 3oz since last Friday. They suggested longer feedings and supplementing with pumped milk, which I started trying this afternoon. The whole process of feeding him, supplementing him, and pumping him took an hour and a half. Which means I have an hour before I have to do the whole thing again. So just feeling pretty overwhelmed by everything... I'm recovering well from labor and delivery, still a little sore but I'm moving around almost like normal. I still have a lot of swelling in my feet and ankles, they said that can last up to three weeks so hopefully it will go down soon.

Hang in there girl, it sounds like you are doing a wonderful job and those first few weeks/months are no joke! So happy for you that it sounds like you are both healthy. We are here to listen if you need us! Congrats again

 

[StayHopeful]

Thanks, Mav! I decided not to do the pumping and supplementing, he's getting full off just the nursing so I'm just going to talk to the pediatrician on Friday. Some days are just exhausting and completely overwhelming, and it doesn't help that your hormones are all over the place. But other days, like today, go pretty well. And I guess I feel guilty if I complain because of everything I went through to get here... One day at a time I guess.

How is everyone else doing?

 

[baby.wish]

Complain away Stay thats what we are here for. We all know what you went through to get the LO but we also all know that motherhood is not easy especially the first few months. Its an adjustment and one day we will all relate to the same way you feel. We are here to listen!

20 week scan went well, we didnt find out the gender we are going to keep it a surprise! I'm not sure how i'll go another 4 months without knowing but will have to try!!

 

[StayHopeful]

Wow, baby.wish, that's awesome that you're keeping it surprise! There's no way I could have done that, I was so impatient to find out. I can't wait to hear when your LO makes his/her appearance and glad everything else looked good with the scan.

 

[Maverick007]

how are you ladies doing? just checking in!

babywish i also admire your patience in not finding out the gender! i was way too impatient to find out. i'm so happy for you that everything looked great though at your scan.

i am down to 3 weeks and change before the due date so i'm getting excited/nervous/really uncomfortable! i can't wait until we meet this little one.

 

[StayHopeful]

Wow Mav, you're almost there! So exciting!

DS isn't sleeping for very long at a time so I'm just exhausted. Also started cutting out dairy today because I think it might bother his stomach.

 

[PinkPeony]

Mav I'm right behind you girl! I'm sooo uncomfortable now and I can't handle doing much at all. I am really ready to meet my girls now. Have you got everything ready in the nursery? Bags packed? I still have a couple things to get this weekend but we're basically done.

Stay - sounds colicky?... I've heard switching to soy formula can really help, and sometimes it just seems like something they grow out of. Hope you can start getting some sleep soon!

 

[Maverick007]

That doesn't sound fun Stay, I had a friend who did the same thing and it helped a lot. I hope it works for you. Every little bit of sleep makes a huge difference! Have you noticed your son looks more like one of you than the other? I can't wait to see who our daughter resembles more.

Pink that's awesome that you are so close as well... I am nervous about the uncertainty of everything that's for sure. I'm basically packed and our nursery is 95% done so I feel fairly prepared! And we finally got the car seat installed which was harder than we anticipated...haha.

 

[StayHopeful]

Mav, we'll see about the dairy. He kept spitting up and threw up twice last night so we took him in to see the pediatrician this morning, he said it's most likely just reflux. There's meds that can help with it but they're hesitant to start him on meds unless he really needs them since there can be side effects, and he gained 9 oz since Monday so he's clearly still getting enough! I'm going to take him back in Wed to make sure he's still gaining weight and then go from there. The doctor said dairy most likely won't make a difference but since I've already started cutting it out to see if it makes a difference in 4-5 days, if not go ahead and add it back in.

The waiting game is hard! The uncertainty can certainly be nerve wracking. It's good that you have everything ready to go, though. One thing we were going to do before DS got here, but ended up doing afterwards, was to go to a local fire station and have them check to make sure we installed the car seat correctly. I was glad we did too because there were a few things we needed to change and some of the info the hospital had given us about his seat was actually not the safest. Do you have any nursing bras or nursing tanks? I would bring a few to the hospital. If they give you a nursing gown, it's great for BFing but not so great for modesty... It helped me to have a tank underneath. I didn't worry about pants though. I'd brought some, but I didn't need them. And I ended up sending DH home to get a skirt for me to wear home, I wasn't ready to wear pants yet.