3 failed IUIs. How do you cope?

Welcome Orchid! We would love for you to join us...very sorry to hear you just had another failed IUI cycle. It doesn't ever seem to get easier to see that BFN each month. Several of us are either starting IVF or about to.
 
I'm starting to get really nervous. I took my last BCP on Sunday night and still no AF. I'm supposed to start stims on Friday but not if AF hasn't come yet...
 
Sorry I don't know anything about this... Did you ask your dr? The worst that could happen is you just start stims a few days later right?
 
Orchid-- Welcome! I'm sorry you are here ( you know what I mean!) but happy you found us.

This board got me through the hardest time in my life and saw me through to the other side. I truly believe it made a difference in my ability to feel relaxed and calm after I gave up on IUIs and went to IVF. Just one year ago at this time I was beginning what would be a long road of 5 failed IUIs and some very dark days....and now one year later I'm pregnant.

Like you I was VERY frustrated and upset that after all the IUIs it had come to IVF. But once I wrapped my head around it and started the process, it was not as bad I as had imagined. In a weird way it brought my husband and I closer than ever and I'm happy to say we're waiting for our little one to arrive this November because of that very process.

Infertility is not as easy road to travel, in fact, it's the hardest thing I think any of us will ever go through. But remember, you are not alone and you are in good hands with these doctors. Sooner or later you WILL have your BFP and in the meantime we are all here to cheer you on.

Be good to yourself, stay positive if you can, and know your happy ending is closer than you think.

Please feel free to reach out to me privately if you need anything.

xoxo
 
Hi Ladies....I am on my 4th IUI cycle...10dpo today. I'm testing out my Ovidrel trigger & hope to see two lines soon! I had a Chemical Pregnancy on our 2nd IUI cycle.
It's difficult to see the time go by. It's been 1.5 years since we started trying. And since then so many of our friends have gotten pregnant & are pregnant & its so difficult some days for me.
 
Just found out today my 4th IUI failed! :( the only answer I get is "everything looks great" It's obviously not "great" I spoke to the nurse today and she did give me somewhat of an answer she said I have a luteal phase defect. My progesterone drops quickly after ovulation.
 
Chris, I'm so sorry to hear... :(
I get the same answer except there is no defect of issue.
Were you on progesterone? Looks like you were on IUI#3..maybe you can ask for more. How long is your luteal phase?
 
Chris, I'm so sorry to hear... :(
I get the same answer except there is no defect of issue.
Were you on progesterone? Looks like you were on IUI#3..maybe you can ask for more. How long is your luteal phase?



Thanks :( This was IUI#4 that failed. I was on progesterone and estrogen, but they started me on it a week after IUI because my levels dropped low. They told me next time around they will give it to me right after IUI.
My luteal phase is usually anywhere between 14-16 days
 
Stay: did the doctor say you can't start stims without AF? When I did IVF and took BCPy clinic said I may or may not get AF and we would proceed either way. I know it is so annoying when there are setbacks like cysts and AF not showing up, but these doctors make sure everything is perfect before proceeding. IVF is a huge investment and you want to know that everything is set before going forward. You'll get there and you are in hoo hands.

Orchid, Barbkins, Chris: I'm so sorry to hear about failed IUIs. This thread has been such a great support for those going through LTTTC and assisted conception. But it seems at the height of or frustration, one of these treatments finally work. I'll never know why one day it just finally works, but it does. And it will for you. It's the not knowing when which is the hard part. All the women in here have been in the same situation at one point of another, myself included. But we are seeing some BFPs roll in and even a couple babies!

Something that always made me feel better during all my fails was that my SIL went through 3 years LTTTC and 4 IUIs. She had a support group like this online and eventually every single lady got a bfp. Some just took longer than others.
 
Hi Ladies....I am on my 4th IUI cycle...10dpo today. I'm testing out my Ovidrel trigger & hope to see two lines soon! I had a Chemical Pregnancy on our 2nd IUI cycle.
It's difficult to see the time go by. It's been 1.5 years since we started trying. And since then so many of our friends have gotten pregnant & are pregnant & its so difficult some days for me.


I hope this IUI works for you! :flower:
 
Stay: did the doctor say you can't start stims without AF? When I did IVF and took BCPy clinic said I may or may not get AF and we would proceed either way. I know it is so annoying when there are setbacks like cysts and AF not showing up, but these doctors make sure everything is perfect before proceeding. IVF is a huge investment and you want to know that everything is set before going forward. You'll get there and you are in hoo hands.

Orchid, Barbkins, Chris: I'm so sorry to hear about failed IUIs. This thread has been such a great support for those going through LTTTC and assisted conception. But it seems at the height of or frustration, one of these treatments finally work. I'll never know why one day it just finally works, but it does. And it will for you. It's the not knowing when which is the hard part. All the women in here have been in the same situation at one point of another, myself included. But we are seeing some BFPs roll in and even a couple babies!

Something that always made me feel better during all my fails was that my SIL went through 3 years LTTTC and 4 IUIs. She had a support group like this online and eventually every single lady got a bfp. Some just took longer than others.



Thanks, its the fear of not knowing that kills me. Each month it's a stab in my heart.
 
Thank you ladies for your comforting words.. Congratulations Sunshine! I agree in a weird way infertility has brought my dh and I together in way I never thought possible. The stress of not getting pregnant initially caused havoc on our relationship, but with every failed cycle a new depth to our relationship was created. He truly is my lifesaver, my rock and just about the only reason i am sane but it was hard to see him so devastated with this last iui. But I guess that's how the universe works, when one is weak - the other a little stronger. I'm soo looking forward to IVF. I feel so beaten up by the past failures it's nice to get a break from the appts to re-group, RE-energize for the greatest leap in faith I am about to take. In the meantime, I get one month to lose a few pounds put on by the treatments, and I plan on doing everything I've been restricting myself, kinda exciting. :)
 
So sorry to hear about the failed IUIs, ladies. :hugs:

I called the nurse at the FS this morning and she said I can't start stims until AF gets here. Today I've been cramping all day, but still no sign of any bleeding. I went to acupuncture this afternoon so hopefully that will get things moving. I wasn't scheduled to start stims until tomorrow night, so hopefully AF will show up before that. I just can't stop stressing about it.:nope:
 
Chris I'm so sorry to hear your last iui failed. It just seems to never get easier 😢 hopefully the progesterone will help next cycle....

Barbkins I hope this is the month for you!!

Stay if you're cramping that means its just around the corner right? It's so hard but try to trust that the drs know what they're doing. I know it's not as easy as just relaxing but try to have faith in their process.

Oculi keep us posted on how your scan goes on Tuesday!!

In terms of all of the frustration, I know that nothing makes this better but sometimes I get hope from looking at the bfp announcement board, there are always stories of girls who have tried for years and something finally works for them! And of course lots of positive stories on this board too :)
 
Thanks ladies! I hope my time comes soon. I'm 11dpo and my test is stark white. I gotta say I'm not feeling very confident anymore.
 
FX for you, barbi!

AF came this morning, whew! It's a light flow, but the nurse said that's fine and I'm clear to start my stims tonight.
 
FX for you, barbi!

AF came this morning, whew! It's a light flow, but the nurse said that's fine and I'm clear to start my stims tonight.
Yay good luck!!

Barb you may not be out yet... Fx that AF doesn't show this weekend!
 
Thanks for the well wishes!! I'm just so hopeful and nervous. Really nervous about tmr morning.
 
Barbikins, I hope AF has not shown up!! Fingers crossed.

How is everybody else doing today? Strawberry, when do you test?? Are you having any symptoms yet?

Stay, so relieved AF showed, good luck!

I just started my cycle so I spoke to the ART nurse and am starting BCPs on Wednesday. If everything goes smoothly, I'll be done w/ those by the 17th and on to stims by the 20th! I am getting nervous but more excited than nervous, it just feels like it's going to move so quickly. She talked about some things I'm not familiar with at all with like antagon protocol and progesterone vaginal suppositories vs. IM injections. I'm like, sorry, what is that? I guess I'm not as knowledgeable about all this as I thought I was. :P
 

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