3 failed IUIs. How do you cope?

[Strawberry13]

Yay mav, 13 that's great! Can't wait to hear the fertilization report. Sorry about the sickness, hopefully it doesn't last much longer. Keep us posted when you hear from them tomorrow.

 

[StayHopeful]

Maverick, 13 is awesome! Sorry to hear about the sickness. Hopefully your pain stays manageable and you don't have to take any other pain medications. One thing I found that helped a lot was laying with a heating pad on my stomach. Since your eggies are safely in the lab, it's fine to put a bit of heat on your stomach right now.

Baby.wish, I agree, the women on here are amazing. This is such a supportive thread.

 

[Mrs. T]

Maverick007, do you remember what your AFC was on your day 3 u/s?

I just read they expected 7 at ER for you so I am wondering how many you started with. Congratulations on 13! It gives me hope.

They only saw 6 on day 3 for me so I am hoping they see more next week. Maybe they are hard to see cause my ovaries are always hard to find.

 

[Maverick007]

mrs T, i think i started with 10 antral follicles but all throughout the process, it only seemed 6 were growing...i was stressed about it as well b/c they kind of acted like i did not have that many and they were small and growing slowly, but all along my E2 levels were great and rising at a good pace. at my last sono, they said i had 10 follies total, with 7 mature. at ER i ended up with 13 follies and 9 mature...so as so many of the women here say, try not to take the results of the early scans to heart b/c things change more times than not.

i just got the fert. report today and although i had 9 mature, only 6 of those 9 were mature enough for ICSI which is what we had planned to do due to my DH's sperm counts/quality. 5 out of the 6 fertilized which we are told is great! so we are relieved and will hear tomorrow whether they want a day 3 or 5 transfer. thank you all so much for your support, it has helped me more than you know!

 

[PinkPeony]

Wow! That's awesome Mav!! Congrats on your 5 embies!! We're doing ICSI too. I've heard that before about the follicles developing. I think it's easy to get really hung up on all this data they keep updating you with. I'm going to try so hard not to let it get to me - i mean ultimately it's out of your control so it's best to just go with the flow, but AS IF that's so easy to do right?

 

[Strawberry13]

Mav congrats on your 5 embies... If the drs are happy then you should definitely be happy! Have you been feeling better than yesterday?

Pink how are you feeling? Only one more week till stims right?

Mrs t, are you doing ivf right now also?

 

[StayHopeful]

5 is great Mav, congrats! How many are you planning on transferring?

 

[PinkPeony]

Mav congrats on your 5 embies... If the drs are happy then you should definitely be happy! Have you been feeling better than yesterday?

Pink how are you feeling? Only one more week till stims right?

Mrs t, are you doing ivf right now also?

Yup! Starting soon! I'm taking my last BC pill tonight which is a relief. I feel like a crazy bitch the past few days! I'm blaming the pills lol!

This morning I had my endo biopsy. Extremely uncomfortable but it was over pretty quick. The doc said it can help my chances by 20% so if that's true it's worth it. Did everyone else do that with your cycles?

 

[Maverick007]

pink- yes it is def easier said than done to not get wrapped up in the numbers and what is "normal" but i agree, it's totally out of our control so i am finding it easier to just stay as positive as i can and be happy with what we get...although i will admit i will be disappointed if we don't have any left to freeze. yay for stopping the BCPs soon!! i'm sure that's going to be a relief...do you have an official start date for stims or will they need to clear you first w/ a sono?

stay, when is your next beta? how have you been feeling so far? any symptoms yet? to answer your question i think if we can get a very high quality embryo we want to only transfer 1...but the RE recommends with so-so quality that you transfer 2 which makes us nervous. we will have to see what happens.

i'm feeling a lot better from yesterday and felt good enough to go to a baseball game last night which i had unfortunately planned way in advance for our anniversary not knowing ER would fall on that day. just did a lot of resting today though.

how is everybody else doing? strawberry do you test monday?

 

[Maverick007]

all 5 embryos are doing great and are grade A! we are so relieved! they want to do a day 5 transfer so weds. morning.

 

[Strawberry13]

all 5 embryos are doing great and are grade A! we are so relieved! they want to do a day 5 transfer so weds. morning.

Awesome news! Are you going to take off from work at all this week to relax? Does that mean you're likely going to do only one then? I think that would be my preference too.

I'm supposed to go for a beta Monday morning but I think I'm gonna skip and just test myself either tomorrow or Tuesday. If by some act of god I get a + I'll go for a beta at that point.

 

[StayHopeful]

Maverick, good news about your embryos! Sounds like things are going well and Wednesday will be here before you know it, then you'll be PUPO! DH and I were unsure about transferring 1 vs. 2 so we decided to just trust the doctor. With grade A embryos, you should have a great one to transfer and a few more to freeze!

Pink, hooray for being done with bcp! I hope the stims don't have as bad of side effects for you.

Strawberry, keep us posted. We're rooting for you and we're here for you no matter what the test says. and

AFM, my clinic only does the first beta and then a follow-up one, so I don't have anything else until my first scan on the 12th. Time is going by so slowly! I am tired a lot and bloated, so my clothes are a little snug. I've had some nausea too, but it's been better ghe past few days which actually makes me really nervous. The nurse at my RE's office said its nothing to worry about, but I can't help it. I'll feel so much better when I see my LO's heartbeat. I'm further along than I was when I mc last time and last time they weren't monitoring my hormone levels or giving me supplements, so I keep telling myself this time is different.

Oh yeah, weird dreams! The last few nights I've had super weird dreams! And any fried or sweet foods sound icky to me, so I've been eating pretty healthily.

 

[Mrs. T]

Mav congrats on your 5 embies... If the drs are happy then you should definitely be happy! Have you been feeling better than yesterday?

Pink how are you feeling? Only one more week till stims right?

Mrs t, are you doing ivf right now also?

Well I am hoping we get that far. I am on CD9. I started the bcp on CD5. My CD3 U/S only showed 6 antral follies, which is low for me. During my IUI cycles I always had around 13 or 14. But apparently this cycle all my B/W looks great so I am confused by the low AFC. I am hoping that it was simply because the U/S tech had a hard time finding my ovaries. They are in weird spots. So I am hoping some were just hiding. I was told to start the pill anyways and come back for another scan next week. I am praying for a higher AFC next week. I don't know what day I am going though. I have to wait for them to call me.

Good luck on your beta!

 

[Maverick007]

Definitely hoping for a miracle Strawberry, let us know what happens....I don't blame you though for wanting to skip the beta.

Stay, those sound like pregnancy symptoms to me! don't worry if the nausea isn't constant, i've heard that is quite normal for it to come and go. i know you will be just counting the days until your u/s though!

Pink so glad you're done w/ BCPs! Now on to the fun stuff. heh. only kidding.

Mrs T, it seems very difficult for them to locate all the follies sometimes. Because it's in 2D a lot of them sometimes are behind others and just not visible on the screen. Also some follies can contain more than one egg.

Our 5 embryos are still staying strong and still graded A this morning, thank god! The nurse said they do not take them out of the incubator on day 4 so we won't get an update tomorrow morning but we will be told a transfer time today or tomorrow. I can't wait. I do plan to take Wednesday off work and then try to work from home on Thursday so I can have two full days to just lie down and be still (most of the work I do involves reading off a computer screen so it's not physically demanding but I still think it might be best to stay home one extra day if i can). We do only want to transfer 1 assuming the quality is great.

 

[Strawberry13]

Mrs t I'm not too sure about any of that but it sounds like from mavericks situation that they really don't know until the day of your ER. Does your dr seemed concerned about the count at all?

Question for pink and maverick- did you do/are you planning on doing icsi and why? Can I ask what your strict morph #s are? Reason I ask is that DHs dr told him that we won't need to do icsi based on his #s and they only do it when the morph is below 1% or something. But it seems like if that's what is what is keeping us from getting preggo that we should be doing icsi, right? I dunno I guess I'll ask more at my appt next week.

Maverick how are you feeling today? All set for Wednesday?!

 

[Maverick007]

i will check his last SA when i get home and let you know, i can't remember what the #s were offhand...i know they have improved since his varicocele was corrected but don't think they ever got great.

we did ICSI and it was b/c the RE said his counts/morph were "borderline". she said that depending on the sperm that particular day, they might be good enough, they might not, so to be on the safe side she recommended we do ICSI to avoid making a last minute decision.

i am feeling okay today, thanks for asking. have a bit of sharp pains occasionally in the area where my ovaries are but it's tolerable.

 

[Bma11]

Mav congrats on your 5 embies... If the drs are happy then you should definitely be happy! Have you been feeling better than yesterday?

Pink how are you feeling? Only one more week till stims right?

Mrs t, are you doing ivf right now also?

Yup! Starting soon! I'm taking my last BC pill tonight which is a relief. I feel like a crazy bitch the past few days! I'm blaming the pills lol!

This morning I had my endo biopsy. Extremely uncomfortable but it was over pretty quick. The doc said it can help my chances by 20% so if that's true it's worth it. Did everyone else do that with your cycles?

I asked about it and when I did my laparoscopy they did that..

 

[PinkPeony]

Mrs t I'm not too sure about any of that but it sounds like from mavericks situation that they really don't know until the day of your ER. Does your dr seemed concerned about the count at all?

Question for pink and maverick- did you do/are you planning on doing icsi and why? Can I ask what your strict morph #s are? Reason I ask is that DHs dr told him that we won't need to do icsi based on his #s and they only do it when the morph is below 1% or something. But it seems like if that's what is what is keeping us from getting preggo that we should be doing icsi, right? I dunno I guess I'll ask more at my appt next week.

Maverick how are you feeling today? All set for Wednesday?!

We are doing ICSI but DH's count and motility are low so that's why. His morph is something like 15% so actually that aspect is OK. The doc said that if we end up with a randomly awesome sample we might be able to do a half ICSI/half regular IVF. I don't expect that to be the case so just assuming we'll be all ICSI. Maybe you can do half/half?

That's great news about the embryos Mav!

Mrs T - I know I've had clomid cycles where I had new follies popping up unexpectedly. It really can depend on the u/s tech. Once I had one where a student was assisting so she was trying to teach her while doing the ultrasound. Boy was that thorough! Wouldn't you know it was a different report from the day before.

Great to read your update Stayhopeful. It all sounds very healthy and good.

 

[Bma11]

Maverick- I am sooooo excited for you!!! I think taking another day off is a great idea! You deserve to anyway!!!

Strawberry- the beta will show a positive before an hpt most of the time. What if you get a false negative on the hpt??!?! This is what I'd be thinking, if I got a negative I'd be like oh yeah but I still could be prego. Anyways- you obviously are way stronger than me!

Oh I know you didn't ask me but I wanted to let you know that my DH has NO sperm issues. He's perfect and RE was never concerned with him. With that being said the package we bought for ivf has assisted hatching and icsi in the price. So they did icsi on every single one! I've heard of some RE letting them fertilize naturally and then do icsi on a few as well.

Stay hopeful- can you believe I'm having twins and my nausea is minimal! It scared me too and I would just want ms. And when I'd get ms I wouldn't complain. but now it doesn't happen when I brush my teeth anymore and I'm just gagging when I smell gross stuff. And it is not all the time either. It used to bother me but week after week when I'd see the babies, I knew all was fine. You'll get there

 

[Strawberry13]

Thanks gals for the insight! When we meet with the doctor next week I'm going to try to get as much info as I can on icsi vs regular and the pros and cons so we can make the best decision... I like the half and half idea but not sure if this place does it. Bma- I didn't take a hpt yet (seeing one line usually just gets me depressed) but my temp went down this morning so I can safely assume she's on her way, if for some reason it goes up again tomorrow I'll probably test at that point.

Glad you pregnant ladies are doing well... I think id be the same as you wishing for nausea lol! It's crazy what ttc does to our fragile minds...