3 failed IUIs. How do you cope?

[PinkPeony]

Yeah that is frustrating. I think the estrogen tells them what's going on behind the scenes with the follicles. For example on day 4 when I went in they saw only 3 follicles and they were teeny tiny, (less than 1.0) so they were a bit concerned but then my blood results came back later that day and my estrogen level was pretty high so they could tell I would get more than just the 3 follicles and that they were growing. Also toward the end of stimming my estrogen started to plateau - like it was only increasing by relatively small amounts so they knew that meant it's time to trigger.

 

[Maverick007]

yeah, pink is correct. that's what i was told as well - that as long as the number is rising substantially each time, that tells them things are growing, even if the scan shows that things are still small.

good luck tomorrow, pink!! excited for you!

how is everyone else doing? babywish, when is your official test date? are you thinking of testing early? is anyone else close to testing?

 

[Strawberry13]

Ohh that makes much more sense thanks guys.

I've got my work cut out for me this week, gotta figure out the situation w my insurance and all my meds (I may actually get a lot covered fingers crossed!) and then my ivf class in Thursday. I'm gonna be "that girl" that has a million questions and is taking notes on her notepad. Oh well, it's a big deal ya know?

Pink have your heard anything about your embies? They're all still cooking?

 

[PinkPeony]

Yes as of yesterday morning they are. There were 6x 9 cells. Today they just leave them be and I won't get a call, so I gotta wait till tomorrow when I'm there for the transfer to find out how they fared since then.

Totally be that girl! I wish I had been. If I hadn't had my DH there as a back-up I would have been so confused about the shots when it was time to do them. He's a very calm and logical type so he remembered everything and talked me through it the first couple times.

 

[Maverick007]

Strawberry, that's awesome you're getting started! I know the nurses prefer you to ask a ton of questions rather than be confused since so much money and time is on the line. Everything crossed for a bfp for you!!

 

[Strawberry13]

Thanks guys! Mav when is your scan, next week? Pink are you going to transfer one or 2?

Btw I told my parents that we were starting ivf this month the other day. My mom was so nervous for me and when I said that the doctors would prefer we only transfer one embryo she was like, no you gotta put at least 2 in and was freaking out. Lol it's just funny how far medical technology had come bc it used to be that it was normal that people would put 3 or 4 in!

 

[PinkPeony]

I'm putting 2 in. I may waver on it tomorrow if all the embabies are kickass.... but I think DH and I in our hearts are ready for twins {if we should be so lucky}. Where do you live Strawberry? Seems like the clinics in Canada still push for 2, but I know in the UK they really discourage it.
I know what you mean though - I found myself in all my mindless googling on a really old thread on another board with women doing IVF in like 2006 I think. They were all putting back 3 and 4. And they meds doses seemed a lot higher too.

 

[Maverick007]

Your mom sounds like mine!! My mom really really wants me to have twins, she was almost pressuring me to transfer two. I just kept telling her she was crazy and she finally dropped it. It just wasn't what we felt was right for us. She already has 4 grandchildren too, so I don't know I think she's just got baby fever!

Our first scan is next week, a week from this Weds. I cannot wait! Crazy as it sounds, I still don't really believe it's true so hearing a heartbeat will be a good turning point.

 

[Strawberry13]

Yay so excited to hear about your scan next week! Yes our moms are very similar, mine has been anxiously awaiting grandchildren since we all graduated college but hasn't gotten any yet. Hopefully soon though... Pink I live in NYC and it seems like a lot of clinics here are promoting just 1 if the quality is great. If the quality isn't great then they say 2.

 

[SashimiMimi]

Just want to send tons of positive vibes out there to everyone in their IVF cycles and in the TWW!

It was a year ago today I did my retrieval so I can really relate to the nervous emotions out there. I remember really wanting twins but in hindsight I'm glad I had a single. I think having gone through a long period of infertility made OH and I very nervous first time parents. So we found the newborn phase especially hard as our baby has been rather high maintainance. He wants to be held all the time and only sleeps with me or on me. I had a lot of breastfeeding difficulties in the beginning and don't have enough family close by for support, so I don't know how I would have done it with 2.
But twins are a blessing and anyone who has them is very lucky! I hope you ladies don't mind me still posting in here. I keep checking back to hear about everyone's progress!

 

[baby.wish]

Hi Guys,

Wow so much has been happening on the threads. DH and I went away for the weekend.

Strawberry so glad you are finally starting the IVF process, trust me when I say its exciting and nerve wracking all at once.

Mrs. T, glad you are going to proceed as scheduled

Pinkpeony good luck on transfer tomorrow!!! So exciting. Like you said my clinic believes in putting two back in so must be a Canada thing hahaha.

Maverick, thanks for asking about me I have my beta tomorrow. All weekend I was going to do a HPT and each time i'd chicken out. Don't think I can do it may just have to wait since i've waited this long. My DH thinks I'm crazy cuz each day i'd say ok i'm gonna do it and then wouldnt. I just didn't wanna to feel down if it was not positive and then the weekend would be ruined for both of us.
Please ladies pray for me today I'm just soooo nervous.

 

[Maverick007]

babywish- aahh! tomorrow, wow, i didn't realize it was so quick! haha, quick to me right, but to you it has been an eternity. praying for you to have a bfp and just to be at peace about the test tomorrow. hoping hoping hoping!

 

[Strawberry13]

Babywish saying prayers for you tomorrow at your test. I would be so nervous too but just think there will be more options in a worse case scenario. Hoping for peace and positive news

 

[Mrs. T]

I am back to them threatening to cancel again! Folicle count went from 23 yesterday to 37 today but my estrogen only went from 3233 yesterday to 3280 today. Not as big of an increase as they hoped. They are worried it may drop and if my blood test doesn't come back satisfactory tomorrow than they will cancel. I feel like I am teetering on the edge of insanity with every U/S and B/W. I am so ready to do this. It is so frustrating.

 

[Maverick007]

I am back to them threatening to cancel again! Folicle count went from 23 yesterday to 37 today but my estrogen only went from 3233 yesterday to 3280 today. Not as big of an increase as they hoped. They are worried it may drop and if my blood test doesn't come back satisfactory tomorrow than they will cancel. I feel like I am teetering on the edge of insanity with every U/S and B/W. I am so ready to do this. It is so frustrating.

Ugh, I pray that doesn't happen. It would seem that as long as you had a sufficient number of mature follicles (or close to mature) you would be okay...

 

[PinkPeony]

Babywish & Mrs T - sending out prayers for both of you and keeping everything crossed. Hope everything works out for you guys. The uncertainty in all this is so tough.

 

[PinkPeony]

Just want to send tons of positive vibes out there to everyone in their IVF cycles and in the TWW!

It was a year ago today I did my retrieval so I can really relate to the nervous emotions out there. I remember really wanting twins but in hindsight I'm glad I had a single. I think having gone through a long period of infertility made OH and I very nervous first time parents. So we found the newborn phase especially hard as our baby has been rather high maintainance. He wants to be held all the time and only sleeps with me or on me. I had a lot of breastfeeding difficulties in the beginning and don't have enough family close by for support, so I don't know how I would have done it with 2.
But twins are a blessing and anyone who has them is very lucky! I hope you ladies don't mind me still posting in here. I keep checking back to hear about everyone's progress!

Thanks Sashimi! I don't mind, I love it when you post! This is your thread girl! I know in reality it's probably a bit of a pain that LO will only sleep with you or on you, but that sounds so adorable to me. Lol! Give him some snuggles for me.

 

[Strawberry13]

Ugh mrs t I'm so sorry. Hoping for a better report tomorrow...

 

[StayHopeful]

Mrs. T, GL! I hope that tomorrow's scan brings better news.

Strawberry, so exciting that you're getting underway!

Baby.wish, GOOD LUCK TOMORROW!!!

Pink, GL with your transfer tomorrow! Compared to ER, I thought ET was a breeze. And then you'll be PUPO

Maverick, hearing the heartbeat definitely helps. But then you just worry until you hear it again... I think all the infertility makes us nervous wrecks in the first trimester. I just had a scan on Friday and I'm already anxious again.

 

[Strawberry13]

Lots of stuff happening today- baby wish sending positive vibes your way.

Pink- good luck at the transfer, rest up after and let those little guys make themselves at home

Mrs t keep us posted on what they say, praying for positive news.