3 failed IUIs. How do you cope?

[Luciola]

Nicedips Can't wait to hear more updates from you! It's gonna be successful!

I had a tough Sunday morning as I just learnt that 3 ladies I know were pregnant
But I am hopeful that our turn will be here soon...
And, I wanted to show-off my signature! (you can only edit it after 5 posts, so this is done!)

 

[ttcmoon]

luciola - I am sorry dear.Many ladies I know are pregnant, some are staying in same apartment and I need to face them every now and then.It's tough.
Here I got BFN with my 3rd IUI (2nd in 2013) after numerous (I lost count) clomid cycles.I do not know if its ever going to happen.
May I join you all?How many IUI's you tried before moving to IVF?

 

[Luciola]

Moon, Welcome! You are near-ish to me!

I have tried 3 IUI and will do a 4th - the last round before IVF. My RE said we could definitely carry on with IUIs. However I feel like our issue is "unexplained" and we don't want to wait (as we want more than 1 baby but hubby is getting less younger), so we decide that IVF may be the best strategy.

I totally understand you when you say that you wonder "if it's ever going to happen"! I keep asking myself the same question, I cry for it pretty often to be honest... But life goes on, I just pray that we will be lucky soon. My husband holds me and says to me it IS going to happen. We have no choice but to believe in love, and believe it can really conquer all.

 

[Nicedips]

I have bad news they got 10 eggs and 6 were mature
None of them fertilized. DH count was very good, 86mil so they said no need for icsi. His count dropped dramatically later. Have follow up with the doctor for next steps.

 

[ttcmoon]

Moon, Welcome! You are near-ish to me!

I have tried 3 IUI and will do a 4th - the last round before IVF. My RE said we could definitely carry on with IUIs. However I feel like our issue is "unexplained" and we don't want to wait (as we want more than 1 baby but hubby is getting less younger), so we decide that IVF may be the best strategy.

I totally understand you when you say that you wonder "if it's ever going to happen"! I keep asking myself the same question, I cry for it pretty often to be honest... But life goes on, I just pray that we will be lucky soon. My husband holds me and says to me it IS going to happen. We have no choice but to believe in love, and believe it can really conquer all.

Thanks Luci for your support.We are struggling to have our 1st one.And after 2 miscarriages and no success for such a long time I really feel left out.We do not have money as of now so I am thinking of talking about IVF after 2 more IUI cycles as per our initial plan.
I wonder if hubbies low morphology preventing us from getting pregnant or may be my PCOS.I have seen plenty of PCOS ladies getting pregnant with IUI.So I am keeping the hope up.I will keep you in my prayers so you too get a rainbow soon.
Yes this Will happen...and very soon!FX'd.

 

[ttcmoon]

I have bad news they got 10 eggs and 6 were mature
None of them fertilized. DH count was very good, 86mil so they said no need for icsi. His count dropped dramatically later. Have follow up with the doctor for next steps.

I am so sorry for you dear.What will be the next strategy?Sorry I did not had an IVF, though we are planning for one.

 

[PinkPeony]

I have bad news they got 10 eggs and 6 were mature
None of them fertilized. DH count was very good, 86mil so they said no need for icsi. His count dropped dramatically later. Have follow up with the doctor for next steps.

Massive massive Nicedips. I'm always so amazed how unpredictable ivf can be. Just when everything is looking great, one thing just trips everything up. I hope your doc has some answers and I'm sure they'll have some ideas for next time. I know in my case, my doc thinks we had an issue with fertilisation all this time... Something was stopping the sperm from getting into the egg I guess. We had to do icsi bc of low count, but maybe that will be your ticket.
Anyway, do something nice for yourself. A glass of wine and a special treat.

 

[Maverick007]

Nicedips, noooo. I'm so sorry. I'll be keeping you in my prayers...hang in there.

 

[PinkPeony]

luciola - I am sorry dear.Many ladies I know are pregnant, some are staying in same apartment and I need to face them every now and then.It's tough.
Here I got BFN with my 3rd IUI (2nd in 2013) after numerous (I lost count) clomid cycles.I do not know if its ever going to happen.
May I join you all?How many IUI's you tried before moving to IVF?

Welcome ttcmoon. Sorry to hear about your failed IUI cycles. I know how tough it is to keep getting bfn's. I did 5 before moving on to IVF.

 

[Bma11]

So sorry nice dips. & prayers

 

[Maverick007]

hi ttcmoon! welcome, though i'm sorry for the reason you're here. i know it felt hopeless for me many times throughout the IUI cycles and even though i'm glad i did them, it was still tough to feel that disappointment month after month, especially after 4.5 yrs we had already tried naturally without success. i ended up doing just 4 IUIs before moving to IVF w/ ICSI.

i wish you all the best! you have found a good place for support.

 

[Strawberry13]

Ttc moon I'm similar to the other girls on here in that I did 5 iuis before ivf... Even though there was nothing glaringly wrong with either of is iuis didn't do the trick. But I hope this next one is it for you and you won't have to move on to ivf! And if you do move to ivf eventually I hope you see all of the great success stories on here with ivf and it gives you some hope.

Nicedips ugh I'm so so sorry. I remember feeling so devastated when getting the news that only a few of my eggs were mature. But everyone always says that ivf is diagnostic in terms of them being able to figure stuff out that they couldn't before. Maybe you have a fertilization problem? I know you said your DHs count is good, is his morphology and motility good too or is it borderline? Either way I hope the doctors give you some answers soon and you're able to move on to a protocol that works better for you. Sending lots of hugs in the meantime.

Bma- how are you doing? Haven't heard from you in a while.

 

[ttcmoon]

Maverick and strawberry,thanks for the support.I am glad that I joined this thread and got similar iui failure stories.

 

[Nicedips]

Thanks for the kind words! I had so much hope this cycle, It hurts I cannot do anything, cannot control my life. I am just focusing on next steps, meeting Re next week. I dont know if its to early, thought about adoption too. DH just brushed it off on this thought.

 

[Maverick007]

Thanks for the kind words! I had so much hope this cycle, It hurts I cannot do anything, cannot control my life. I am just focusing on next steps, meeting Re next week. I dont know if its to early, thought about adoption too. DH just brushed it off on this thought.

it's definitely understandable to feel helpless in this situation...we are so dependent on the doctors to find the answers for us. i'm hoping against hope that this cycle will show them what's going on and why fertilization didn't happen...keep us posted and just take good care of yourself in the meantime, you definitely deserve a break from this rollercoaster for a little bit.

 

[StayHopeful]

Welcome, ttcmoon. So sorry to hear about your last failed IUI. Feeling like it's never going to happen is completely understandable DH and I did 3 IUIs before IVF. We had unexplained infertility and the doctor actually recommended IVF after just 2 IUIs, but we decided to go ahead and give one more a try before committing to the financial increase of IVF. It turns out that IVF was what we needed, though.

Nicedips, so sorry to hear about your fertilization report! I hope the doctor can give you some answers about a better plan for next time.

 

[tlm]

Hi girls! I haven't posted on is thread in a while but it caught my eye again and I thought I would drop a line. My story was we tried for 2.5 years, did everything under the sun diagnostically (hsg, lap, SA) and the only thing that was awry was I had stage 3 endometriosis. After clearing that up we did 4 iui cycles, all with no luck! We moved on to ivf and I didn't respond the way I should have with stimming and only had 3 eggs retrieved out of the 10 they saw on u/s. all 3 of those eggs fertilized and two were great quality and one was lesser, we put all 3 back and 2 took!!! I have beautiful 6 month old twin boys!! I was so devastated at my egg retrieval to only have 3 eggs to work with, but like everyone says you only need one!!! Never lose hope!!

Good luck!!

 

[SashimiMimi]

Hey TLM!! Hope you and the boys are well!

 

[March312]

Hi ladies- hope I can join. Dh and I just failed our 3rd iui. (Af hasnt arrived yet,but all hpts are bfn). So frustrated! I think we are moving on to an injectables/iui cycle at least 1 or2 before moving on to IVF. I have PCOS and dh has below average count and motility. This 3rd iui his count was 8 mil and motility was 44%. I had two follicles 20 & 18mm. I am hoping that the injectables give us a better shot at conceiving, although if the issue is the sperm then it won't really make a difference I guess. Good luck to everyone !

 

[March312]

Hi girls! I haven't posted on is thread in a while but it caught my eye again and I thought I would drop a line. My story was we tried for 2.5 years, did everything under the sun diagnostically (hsg, lap, SA) and the only thing that was awry was I had stage 3 endometriosis. After clearing that up we did 4 iui cycles, all with no luck! We moved on to ivf and I didn't respond the way I should have with stimming and only had 3 eggs retrieved out of the 10 they saw on u/s. all 3 of those eggs fertilized and two were great quality and one was lesser, we put all 3 back and 2 took!!! I have beautiful 6 month old twin boys!! I was so devastated at my egg retrieval to only have 3 eggs to work with, but like everyone says you only need one!!! Never lose hope!!

Good luck!!

That's a great story & gives me hope! Thank you!