3 failed IUIs. How do you cope?

[PinkPeony]

Sorry to hear about everything with your doctor, Peony. I understand, I'm having one of those days too. I went in to my FS for progesterone bloodwork this morning and found out that I haven't o'd yet. This is the 2nd month that Metformin hasn't worked for me, I o'd on CD35 the first month. So it looks like trying naturally while waiting for IVF is out. It was just tough to hear. We're moving forward with IVF, but not until May/June because we figure it will be easier for me to go in for my appointments once school is out (I'm a teacher).

Thanks StayHopeful. It helps just knowing you ladies understand. Sorry to hear you didn't O yet. All the waiting around for something to happen is killer. I have a feeling I might end up on the same timeline for IVF as you. I'll keep you guys posted.

 

[ttcbaby117]

Jlh - like BMA said, the SART numbers are sometimes off because some REs will not take certain patients. I would ask your REs office if they have a certain criteria that patients must meet. Downregging is the first part of IVF, where they give you drugs to quiet your ovaries, like BCPs....once that is done you go to phase 2 where you take stimulation drugs, the downregging makes sure all of your follicles grow at the same pace and will help the Dr know when to retrieve them.

Peony - so sorry you are in limbo....could you ask for another re that might be covering your current REs patients?

Stay hopeful - sorry hun it is very frustrating when you body doesn't cooperate.

 

[PinkPeony]

Jlh - like BMA said, the SART numbers are sometimes off because some REs will not take certain patients. I would ask your REs office if they have a certain criteria that patients must meet. Downregging is the first part of IVF, where they give you drugs to quiet your ovaries, like BCPs....once that is done you go to phase 2 where you take stimulation drugs, the downregging makes sure all of your follicles grow at the same pace and will help the Dr know when to retrieve them.

Peony - so sorry you are in limbo....could you ask for another re that might be covering your current REs patients?

Stay hopeful - sorry hun it is very frustrating when you body doesn't cooperate.

I asked if someone was covering for her - one time she couldn't do my IUI so another doc subbed in. But the secretary said she hasn't set anything like that up. She sounded pretty upset and flustered having to reschedule so many appts. I'm going to call again today and see if things are more figured out.
Thanks for explaining downregging. I never understood why ppl went on bcp. Seems counterintuitive lol

 

[SashimiMimi]

Hey Pink sorry you're having a tough time. I feel like the entire city of Toronto is in a bad mood because winter just won't let up!! We get ourselves so mentally psyched up for these procedures and then when they don't happen it can be really upsetting. Are you mostly happy with your clinic and doctor? I went to the Create clinic at Bay & College and was really happy with the doctor I saw there.

 

[Sunshine24]

just wanted to share an update w my biggest supporters!!

had a blood draw again this AM, hcg level on monday was 71.5, today it's 151! my doc said they want to see it doubling every 48 hrs so they said we have an overachiever on our hands. hahahaha.

i never, ever thought i would get to this place---4 short ( but seems long! ) months ago i was dealing with a 4th iui failure and was in such a dark place--both personally and in my marriage. just believe it can happen for you, and quicker than you can ever think. i would have NEVER ever believed this could happen for me, but it did--and it will for you too. stay strong ladies!!

 

[PinkPeony]

Hey Pink sorry you're having a tough time. I feel like the entire city of Toronto is in a bad mood because winter just won't let up!! We get ourselves so mentally psyched up for these procedures and then when they don't happen it can be really upsetting. Are you mostly happy with your clinic and doctor? I went to the Create clinic at Bay & College and was really happy with the doctor I saw there.

Oh you're in Toronto! I totally agree! The weather is making me so grumpy!! enough already! I want to burn my winter coat at this point.

I'm at Bay & Dundas at lifequest. My doc is technically separate from Lifequest but I do all my monitoring there and she's just on a different floor. I am mostly happy. The monitoring can be a bit chaotic at times - there's definitely no shortage of infertile women in this city. I just have to go there during monitoring times to remind myself of that.

As an update I spoke to the secretary again this morning. Was able to reschedule my appointment for a couple weeks from now and it turns out I have a refill on my prescription so I can just pick that up without getting the doc involved. Now just waiting for my day one and they'll get me all set up for this cycle. Probably a bit of an overreaction yesterday but sometimes this all just gets to a chick ya know?

 

[SashimiMimi]

Sunshine awesome!!!!!!!!! And I can totally relate to what you said... I had my 3rd failed IUI on May 30 2012 and it was easily one of the worst days of my life. I was also in a dark place, was becoming a social recluse and also reached a rough patch in my marriage. Now my due date is just a year short of that awful day on May 19!

Pink I'm glad it all worked out with the rescheduled appointment. I don't think you were over reacting as its tough when things don't go as planned with all this, which seems to be more often than not. The monitoring at Create was also nuts and it really shows you how many couples suffer from infertility!!!

I'm glad you guys don't mind me sticking around this thread and supporting all of you. My whole journey was a life changing experience and I wish I had a thread like this when I was going through IVF! Even though it was successful and I'm now in my third trimester, I still remember what it felt like to feel hopeless when nothing was working. I really hope I never forget and always appreciate my baby boy when he arrives. I make it a point not to complain about pregnancy now and enjoy every second!

 

[PinkPeony]

Thanks so much Sashimi & Sunshine!!! You have no idea how good it is to read that right now. I'm all teary and crampy bc Af is about to arrive. I really appreciate you guys sticking around. One thing about these boards is as good as it is to chat woth ppl in the same situation it's good to hear from folks that have gone thru it and are now on the other side and that it won't be like this forever. Oy can you tell I'm PMS-ing?? Lol!

Sunshine also wanted to say that's so awesome about your BETA!! Woo hoo!! I just know you're going to have a great pregnancy.

 

[Sunshine24]

Thank YOU Pink! You have been a good support to me as well. I wont continue to bore you all with constant updates, but I will stick around for sure--cheer you ladies on and look forward to all the BFP's I KNOW are coming. Sashimi was a great support to me through this journey, she was a beacon of hope--like--If it worked for her it can work for me!!

Trying to get my first BFP was the hardest, most trying time in my life ( and it's still early days in my pregnancy so Im trying not to jinx anything ) but please just know it will happen for all of us. Stay strong!

 

[ttcbaby117]

Sunshine - that is awesome news hun! WOohoo!

AFM - I got my blood work back today....which was on cd4

FSH - 4.6
E2 - 47.6
LH - 4.1

I hope those numbers are ok because I already started down regging.

 

[Jlh1980]

Thanks everyone for the advice about SART, you know when I first sought out a clinic I don't think I ever expected it to go this far. As I'm sure most of us on here never in a million years thought we would be the one's to struggle with infertility. Anyway so because of that I didn't do much research, they do specifically say on their website that they don't deny anyone from trying ivf even if they only have a 15% chance but their numbers are about 20% lower than everyone else in the area So I think I will be switching to another clinic in the area that people we know recommended. Hopeful we will be able to be seen soon and start right away since most of the testing is already done.

So I can say Pink and stayhopeful, I'm in the same boat, feeling like this is another set back. Even thought I'm in the 2ww, I already feel like I have PMS and because its been negative for so long its hard to picture anything else. Plus its been cloudy and cold in NJ too so I feel the pain of winter......enough already

Sunshine congrats.....what an exciting time for you and you deserve it after almost 2 years of this infertility nightmare!

TTC can't wait for you to start your IVF then we can all follow you just like we did sunshine

BMA thanks for telling me how to edit my signature!!! now I don't have to type it everytime.

 

[StayHopeful]

Bma, we have done some saving but not nearly enough. We've looked into a few financial options but it looks like our income is too high to qualify, so we're most likely going to have to take out a loan to cover the difference. We would wait until we have it all saved, but we want to do our IVF cycle this summer while I'm not in school.

So sorry to hear that so many of the rest of you have been down too. It's definitely good to hear some success stories! And Sunshine, great news about your beta!

 

[Bma11]

Awesome news sunshine!!! So glad to hear they are rising!

Ttcbaby- what did you find on your google search?!?!

 

[Bma11]

Stay hopeful! I'm right there with ya. I actually couldn't save much so I banked on my income tax return and dh's to help support that and finance the rest. I too, can not wait longer and save, for endometriosis and I have my step kids all summer long.

 

[ttcbaby117]

Well it seems, your lh and FSH should be close to a 1:1 ratio. Mine were close enough so that is great. If your lh is higher than you FSH then you probably have PCOS. I don'tso thank goodness!!

For your FSH anything under 6 mean excellent. Mine was 4.6 so another thank goodness!!!! I was worried as I am 37 and of course your quality and quantity goes down with age.

Last, my E2 (estradiol) needed to be under 75 to be OK but ideally under 50, in order to stimulate successfully and it was so I am also good there.

All in all, I think they are pretty good numbers...it def. made me feel better to see that I have a good chance at getting some good eggs.

Now I know your AMH also decides on your ovarian reserve and your quality. My Dr did test it but she never told me the number, only that it was in good shape.

 

[Bma11]

Awesome!!!

My lh and FSH are always close to each other as well thank god. The only thing is my amh is at 5.5. Which is high and can indicate PCOS. :/ but oh we'll IVF will bypass everything.

Hope you feel positive & hopeful!!! I am for you

 

[Bma11]

Well well well...... I just checked my patient portal and only checked 2 of my lh and FSH labs..., I have a ton from Each u/s and blood work appointment I had... Anyways both times my LH was higher than FSH.

FSH- 3.10 LH- 4.27
FSH- 5.96 LH- 6.03

I guess my dr would have told me I had PCOS when I asked him if I had it etc... I just wonder sometimes!

 

[ttcbaby117]

Do you have cysts on your ovaries when they do ultrasounds? Do you have abnormal hair growth on your body? Are you cycles abnormal?

These are all symptoms of PCOS. You could have it but just be asymptomatic....meaning that it isn't affecting your fertility.

 

[ttcbaby117]

BMA - you AMH seems to be pretty good actually...Check this out

https://www.drmalpani.com/amh.htm

I know ppl say you should have it below 3 or around 2 for optimal...but having it higher is better than having it lower...It means you still have a ton of eggs which is awesome for IVF!

 

[Bma11]

Do you have cysts on your ovaries when they do ultrasounds? Do you have abnormal hair growth on your body? Are you cycles abnormal?

These are all symptoms of PCOS. You could have it but just be asymptomatic....meaning that it isn't affecting your fertility.

I've never had any cysts, I always have regular periods and when I do opk I always ovulate. When I can get on to Facebook via desktop I'm going to get the info that best describes the type of PCOS I think I have. It's in a document from a group...

I will look at that link you sent! Thanks. I just think yeah I have a ton of eggs BUT will they ever mature , you know?
Thanks!!!