3 failed IUIs. How do you cope?

[Strawberry13]

Ugh sucks about the migranes, is there any other painkillers they can give you that are safe? That's good you don't have to do the pio shots I heard they are no fun.

I have my consult on weds- so anxious for it! I've waited 3 months and just want to get started already. Had my day 3 work yesterday which was my first time there. it's such a nice facility, brand new and they are very efficient and professional. So I definitely feel good about our decision to go there.

 

[Maverick007]

Yay! That's exciting! I'm so glad you are getting started soon. Is it the same RE as you were seeing for the IUIs, just a different facility?

I am not aware of any other painkiller I can take besides Tylenol unfortunately I wanted to just say screw it and take ibuprofen yesterday when the pain got really bad but DH wouldn't let me (probably for the best!)

 

[baby.wish]

Strawberry, my ER is tomorrow morning at 9am. I am sooo excited and nervous. Excited as we near the end but nervous as we dont have that many follicles and RE said he wished for more but wants us to proceed any way. Gave myself the trigger shot last night no turning back now!

Maverick, I completely understand how you feel. I get hormonal migraines as well right before AF arrives. I have to actually take a prescription migraine meds for it and hard when all we can take is Tylenol. Are you able to take a higher dose of Tylenol? Another thing I find helps is ice...it numbs the area. Hope this helps.

Well I'm feeling nerrrrrvous about tomorrow really pray it all goes well and I have some Grade A's to put back in!

 

[Strawberry13]

Probably best that he told you not to take Advil or anything, better safe than sorry!

We've had our share of REs... My first RE I liked a lot but he wasn't able to figure out our problem, so we went to another RE in the spring who found our problem, but he only does iuis and not ivf. If he thinks that any point you should move on to ivf, he refers you to another clinic which is the one we're going to on Wednesday. But I'm glad we're going there now, they're the second highest rated one in the US. So expensive and hard to get into but a great reputation. Hopefully this is the right move for us!

Baby wish praying for you tomorrow and that you get lots of great eggies!!

 

[Maverick007]

woohoo babywish that's awesome! ER really snuck up, didn't it? did they tell you how many eggs they are anticipating? i am praying that you will be pleasantly surprised by what they are able to get tomorrow. if i could give you any piece of advice it would be, wait and see if you are in a lot of pain before you take the Tylenol #3 (assuming they prescribe it to you)...it made me throw up and if i had just not taken it i would've been fine, b/c that kinda ruined my day. i don't think everyone is sensitive to it but just in case you are...good luck tomorrow!!

i will try the ice thing too, i thought about that as well but decided to try heat first. i am already taking extra strength tylenol and as much as the bottle says i can safely take, so i don't know if there is more i can do. i think the nurse told me to take regular strength only but i can't imagine how bad i would have been if i'd done that.

 

[PinkPeony]

I feel you ladies with the migraines! I had a doozie a few days ago which I'm guessing was related to coming off the bcp. It coincided with my fake af. I'm really sensitive in that way too. I've generally had a low level headache ever since.

Good luck with ER Babywish!

That sonds like a great clinic Strawberry!! I think mine is really good too. Even though it's more expensive, it just gives me a bit more confidence and the experience has been really pleasant. The staff are so friendly and the cycle montoring isn't so hectic as my last place.

 

[Bma11]

Yay! That's exciting! I'm so glad you are getting started soon. Is it the same RE as you were seeing for the IUIs, just a different facility?

I am not aware of any other painkiller I can take besides Tylenol unfortunately I wanted to just say screw it and take ibuprofen yesterday when the pain got really bad but DH wouldn't let me (probably for the best!)

Maverick- in had a migraine from Wednesday morning until I went to bed Thursday night. I called the ob and they told me I could take the Tylenol 3 with a coke. (It's acetaminophen with codeine) just FYI I took one and it didnt do anything to my headache... I took another with a coke and threw up an hour later. I think the codeine made me sick.
Another girl here on bnb JLH, said she was allowed to take Advil just not in the third trimester. By no means take these without dr consent, but ask them about it!!!


LOLI JUST READ WHERE YOU HAVE TAKEN THE TYLENOL 3.
I can't believe you haven't tested yet!!! I'm do excited for you

 

[Maverick007]

lol! it seems wayyyy too early for me to test! especially since we only transferred 1. but i have been contemplating whether or not i should test the morning of my beta. i can't decide! i would be 9dp5dt on friday morning (OTD).

thanks for the tip though about the advil. i'll try and find out because honestly this is just getting crazy. i also threw up from the tylenol 3 so i will stay far away from that!

 

[Bma11]

Stay hopeful-looking forward to hearing about your scan!!

 

[Bma11]

That is the ONLY thing that kept me going while waiting. I did it every medicated and Un medicated cycle. I'm an addict. but seriously with ivf you are so used to doing SOMETHING every night that it just seems natural to POAS every day!

But everyone is different and I always tested before the beta. I always tested the day of the beta just to prepare myself and even then it still hurt when it was negative. Nothing prepares you because no matter what you'll convince yourself that the hpt just didn't pick up the hcg and the beta will. You know? But anyways! So excited. Friday will be here before you know it! I hope you have an early appointment and I hope they call you ASAP! Ill be stalking

 

[Maverick007]

Haha, I totally get it. The temptation is definitely there!!

I have an 8:15am blood draw but I'm sure they'll keep me waiting on the phone call! My boss is so nice and said I should leave work as soon as I can on Friday so I don't have to take the call at work and can be at home where if I need to, I can have a meltdown. Let's hope it won't come to that, but I thought it was cool he was being supportive. They know all about this process because it was getting too difficult to keep it secret, plus my boss is like a yenta and wants to know everything going on with everyone.

 

[baby.wish]

hahah i think i just asked the same question before reading what everyone had posted lol...sorry bout that

 

[Bma11]

That's really awesome maverick! On the upside you can be at home when you get the call and go enjoy the rest of the day being pregnant! Your boss sounds great.

 

[Maverick007]

haha no worries...i think i'm going to stick by my original feeling and just wait till the beta. it will kill me but i don't want to be disappointed unnecessarily just in case the hpt isn't sensitive enough.

 

[baby.wish]

Friday isnt too far away, its whatever you feel like doing. Are you feeling any symptoms??

 

[Maverick007]

Honestly not really. I had some AF-type cramping (very faint) the first few days after transfer, but it was not anything very noticeable. That is gone now though. The only other thing I feel is emotional. I keep fantasizing about hearing good news from the nurse and I get all teary eyed.

You guys have definitely kept me sane through this process though, it has helped so much to go through it with people who have experienced the same things.

 

[baby.wish]

Like so many on this board have said, many have no symptoms and still get their BFP. Praying you are one of them on Friday. Trust me I know about getting emotional, I have been crying at babies on tv ok...

 

[baby.wish]

Im sure some of you have read this before, I came across it on another thread and felt it was worth sharing. It made me

Thoughts on Becoming a Mother
There are women that become mothers without effort, without thought, without patience or loss and though they are good mothers and love their children, I know that I will be better.
I will be better not because of genetics, or money or that I have read more books,
but because I have struggled and toiled for this child.
I have longed and waited. I have cried and prayed.
I have endured and planned over and over again.
Like most things in life, the people who truly have appreciation are those who have struggled to attain their dreams.
I will notice everything about my child.
I will take time to watch my child sleep, explore and discover. I will marvel at this miracle every day for the rest of my life.
I will be happy when I wake in the middle of the night to the sound of my child, knowing that I can comfort, hold and feed him and that I am not waking to take another temperature, pop another pill, take another shot or cry tears of a broken dream. My dream will be crying for me.
I count myself lucky in this sense; that God has given me this insight, this special vision with which I will look upon my child that my friends will not see.
Whether I parent a child I actually give birth to or a child that God leads me to, I will not be careless with my love.
I will be a better mother for all that I have endured. I am a better wife, a better aunt, a better daughter, neighbor, friend and sister because I have known pain.
I know disillusionment as I have been betrayed by my own body, I have been tried by fire and hell many never face, yet given time, I stood tall.
I have prevailed.
I have succeeded.
I have won.
So now, when others hurt around me, I do not run from their pain in order to save myself discomfort. I see it, mourn it, and join them in theirs.
I listen.
And even though I cannot make it better, I can make it less lonely. I have learned the immerse power of another hand holding tight to mine, of other eyes that moisten as they learn to accept the harsh truth and when life is beyond hard. I have learned a compassion that only comes with walking in those shoes.
I have learned to appreciate life.
Yes I will be a wonderful mother.
~anonymous~

 

[Maverick007]

That's awesome thanks, I have never read it before.

 

[Maverick007]

Stay, I am stalking this thread just waiting to hear how your u/s went! Hope everything is good.