3 failed IUIs. How do you cope?

[Luciola]

Congratulations Sashimi, you can't imagine how happy I am for you!

 

[SashimiMimi]

Thanks Luci! It still feels so nuts to me! I had a scan yesterday and saw the heartbeat. It made it feel very real but I kept wondering how this little bean got in there!!??

 

[Maverick007]

Congrats Summer!!!

I am new to these boards. I found this thread in a desperate "google search" after my last IUI failed. I was feeling so unbelievably gutted, so I spent a few days reading all of your posts. It was like reading a novel, but brought me so much hope so for that I am forever grateful. I thought for sure this board would have fizzled out since everyone was getting BFPs, but you ladies continue to support each other. By the time I go to the end I was pleasantly surprised so many of your are still around! I am amazed and again, so hopeful after reading all of your posts. Each encouraging word spoke to me in such a dark time of despair. Thank you for that!

I'd love to join in if you ladies don't mind. I could surely use some support. I only have a few friends who have had IUI and IVF IRL that I can confide in. So, this was our 2nd failed IUI with Bravelle injections, clomid, and the trigger shot. We also did an additional timed intercourse cycle before we started IUI because my husband couldn't be available due to work or this would have been our 3rd IUI. We are technically unexplained, but my husband's sample last time was not the best although the doc. did not say anything about it, 8 million total 28% motility progression 1. After the wash the numbers went up to 68% motility and progression 2 still 8 million.

We have the green light to start another cycle of IUI, but they want us to come in for a consult to discuss next steps.

Welcome WG...just to repeat what everyone else has said, you are welcome here! Even though several of us have gone through IUI or IVF and come out the 'other side,' I for one cannot forget the years of frustration, isolation and grief that infertility brought on. I feel that, because I had a successful IVF, I have overcome it in some ways, but will never really fully forget it and it has definitely permanently shaped the way I view life! Every pregnancy is an absolute miracle and I know you will get your miracle sooner or later...if you ever need advice or support, I know these women will always lend a listening ear and understand. Good luck to you in your next steps!

 

[Maverick007]

I haven't heard from babywish in a long time but was thinking she might have been due right around now...if you check in babywish, let us know how you are doing!

Luc, how are you feeling? Any updates?

 

[Piper183]

Hi Ladies!!!

Congratulations to those who have overcome infertility & are now moms!!! We have been trying since last November after enduring a d&c in September. We are considering IUI but I wanted to know if IUIs can be done without medications.

TIA

 

[SashimiMimi]

Hi piper, my first two IUIs were done without medications. I didn't even have a trigger shot... The third one I did puregone injections with a trigger shot. My doctor started really slow and tried everything as close to being natural at first, but IVF ended up being my answer.

 

[Dini]

Hi everyone!

I haven't been around in many months, after the last failed IUI we were just drained emotionally and financially I had to get away. We took a break, then started focusing on healthier living and just taking care of us. We were planning to go back to the Dr in January for a few more IUI's then discuss IVF even though we can't afford it. We have been trying for almost 4 years now, so it seemed like our only option.

For the last week I've been expecting AF, I'm very very irregular but I always can feel it coming about 2-4 days ahead of time, so I've been waiting, and cramping off and on, and waiting. DH talked me into testing this morning so I did, with 2 wondfo's and a cheapy walmart brand and somehow...they were all

Later I had to be neurotic and go to the store and get some better tests, got FRER and CBD, but just did a CBD, and it was middle of the day, def not close to FMU, and the CBD said "Pregnant 2-3" I couldn't believe my eyes. I still can't believe it. I want to celebrate but it's too early, I'm so scared this is too good to be true, or it won't stick but I'm happy too.

How do you girls who have made it to a BFP keep from going insane until you at least hear a heartbeat or get through your first trimester?

 

[SashimiMimi]

Oh my Dini!!! That's wonderful!! Why is it that when we stop trying it actually finally works!!?? I used to go crazy with all the people who told us to just relax and have fun, but there seems to be something to it.

I just got a natural BFP after having an IVF baby last year. I was like you and just couldn't believe it. I had a scan last week and saw the heartbeat and nearly fell of my chair. All I can say is don't worry until there is actually something to worry about. I spent my entire IVF pregnancy a nervous wreck. My symptoms would come and go and of course I would worry. Just enjoy the BFP and have faith in your body and your baby. One thing I always told myself was that my problem was getting pregnant, not staying pregnant. I had a perfectly healthy pregnancy last time and have faith that I will again!

The child you are meant to have is on his or he way. Try not to worry, I know it's hard but just try to enjoy it. You waited a long time for this!

A happy and healthy 9 months to you!! Congratulations!

 

[Dini]

Thank you for your words SashimiMimi. I know I'm pregnant because it made me cry!

And congrats to you! That's so great after all you've gone through to get that BFP naturally.

I am with you in regards to going nuts over people saying relax it will happen because I don't relax well! And we did that for 2 years, just hoped it would happen. We ran out of funds so we had no choice. I thought a few weeks ago I ovulated and thought "Hmm..well might as well have some fun when I get home!" As it turns out we had bd'd two nights prior as well. I really didn't think anything would come of it, because I thought maybe I didn't actually O. Sometimes I get the pains but don't actually O, because of the PCOS and scar tissue on my ovaries the follicle doesn't always release the egg even if I produce one. I bet I've O'd on my own only half a dozen times since DH and I have been together!

And you are right, my problem was conceiving, not carrying...and my mom had no issues, no one else in my family that I am aware of every did either so I say the odds are on my side. I'm just going to try to enjoy it, and can't wait to start sharing the news!! DH has a huge family and this will be the first grandchild for both his parents and my dad. Also will be my brother's first niece or nephew and he's 41 lol, so he's past ready for it!

My cousin found out she was pregnant a few months ago, she's due in December and I was so mad at her!! She has a 9 year old she can't support, she lives off her parents and now so does her boyfriend. I had already decided I wasn't going to the holidays this winter because I couldn't stand to see her. (We are only a year apart and have had a "sibling" type rivalry all our lives). Now maybe I'll go!!

 

[summer2011]

Congrats Dini! Wonderful news!

 

[moni77]

Congrats Dini!!!

 

[Maverick007]

Congrats Dini! I *somewhat* controlled my worry by renting a doppler for a few months! You aren't supposed to use them too early on but it was a wonderful thing to have and listen to when my worry started to get the best of me. And they're fairly cheap, somewhere around $20-25 per month. Good luck to you!!

 

[Dini]

I will certainly consider that! I think I'll wait till my blood work comes back and maybe until my first appt, but I know myself, I have to know!

I talked my family doc into ordering a beta hcg and progesterone level, I had them drawn this afternoon so hoping for results by tomorrow, until then, fx'd!

 

[WillowGrace]

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Maverick--- ladies thank you for your warm welcome and kind words.

Sashimi and Dini congrats!!! I have a girl friend who had to do IVF with her first baby and unexpectedly got pregnant with her second. It does happen. What a blessing for you both.

I have been on vacation for the last few days, so I haven't been on to update, but Friday I went in for my baseline ultrasound. Everything looks good to go with starting this cycle. So I'm taking Clomid and I will do a Bravelle injection in a few days. I go back in for monitoring Friday morning to see how the follies are growing and should trigger that night for my IUI. I'm praying for healthy follies and lots of strong swimming spermies.

 

[Dini]

Willow good luck to you!!

Got my beta's back today, I think I was about 18dpo with the blood draw, and it was 405. It came from my family doc so they didn't say good or bad, but said that's a normal number with anywhere from 1day to 2wks gestational age. The NP at work said it's perfect for this phase, although to me seems a little low but at this point it means I'm definetely pregnant! Hoping to get my progesterone back tomorrow.

 

[SashimiMimi]

Dini that's great. I tested 15dpo and it was 155. I remember after IVF my first beta was 169. So no worries, everyone's number fluctuate and they can double anywhere from 30-72 hours. Yay! It's official!!

 

[moni77]

YAY!!

 

[StayHopeful]

Congrats, Dini! I definitely had a hard time with the constant worry, I had a mc when we first started ttc and then tried for a year and a half before IVF worked for us. I was pretty much a nervous wreck for the first few weeks. It took a while to gradually relax and I don't think I was really able to until I could feel the baby move and had that reassurance that he was okay. But now he's a healthy 5-month old! Just take it one day at a time and enjoy the miracle

 

[summer2011]

I feel the same way Dini. I don't think I'll ever truly relax and enjoy because I'm terrified something will go wrong when I least expect it. Just trying to take one day at a time and focus on the positive rather than negative thoughts. We can't predict the future, just enjoy the present

 

[summer2011]

So excited to see our little bambino measuring on time and heart beating away today. I was so nervous but now I'm so elated