Ghost
Mother of one :)
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I think from the week I had my baby I've missed being pregnant. I put it just down to hormones but three months on and I still get pangs of jealousy when I see a pregnant woman. It's so bad that when a character on tv recently had a baby I started crying on the way home where I missed my pregnancy . I miss knowing there's a life inside me , growing , the kicking and bonding with my bump . I feel like I'm just a saggy mess now. I've always had depression but when I was pregnant I felt whole like this was what I was made for .
I had always convinced myself I was unable to get pregnant so much that when I found out I was pregnant I thought it must of been an error , even at hospital I thought I must just have pains not be about to give birth and was always wairing for something to ho wrong. I feel like I missed out by being convinced something bad was going to happen .
I also feel down that my birth didn't go to plan . I had every intention of beginning the birth at home , with massages and my excercise ball. But when I was five days overdue my blood pressure shot up and they decided to induce . It took three inductions before I went into labour properly ( having just had contractions that lasted a few hrs that stopped when it wore off ) I managed til I was 4cms before I was ok to go into the labour sweet and try gas and air which did nothing , so when the midwife said he was back to back and that I should try an epidural if I was in that much pain , I accepted it at half four in morning . Zack arrived at 8pm by forceps which I barely remember as my eyes kept closing where I was exhausted . I remember them putting him on me and me asking my mum to hold him as the episiotomy they did had tore to a 3rd degree tear, and I could feel every stich and was terrified I'd drop him with all the jumping I was making . They took me into surgery to stitch me and I didn't truly hold my boy until ten .
I feel like I failed when I hear stories of my friends who went through labour in three hours , with no forceps and just have gas and air .
What can I do ?, I'm so happy to have my baby but I feel like my heart breaks when I see my pregnant photos because I want it so bad again.
I had always convinced myself I was unable to get pregnant so much that when I found out I was pregnant I thought it must of been an error , even at hospital I thought I must just have pains not be about to give birth and was always wairing for something to ho wrong. I feel like I missed out by being convinced something bad was going to happen .
I also feel down that my birth didn't go to plan . I had every intention of beginning the birth at home , with massages and my excercise ball. But when I was five days overdue my blood pressure shot up and they decided to induce . It took three inductions before I went into labour properly ( having just had contractions that lasted a few hrs that stopped when it wore off ) I managed til I was 4cms before I was ok to go into the labour sweet and try gas and air which did nothing , so when the midwife said he was back to back and that I should try an epidural if I was in that much pain , I accepted it at half four in morning . Zack arrived at 8pm by forceps which I barely remember as my eyes kept closing where I was exhausted . I remember them putting him on me and me asking my mum to hold him as the episiotomy they did had tore to a 3rd degree tear, and I could feel every stich and was terrified I'd drop him with all the jumping I was making . They took me into surgery to stitch me and I didn't truly hold my boy until ten .
I feel like I failed when I hear stories of my friends who went through labour in three hours , with no forceps and just have gas and air .
What can I do ?, I'm so happy to have my baby but I feel like my heart breaks when I see my pregnant photos because I want it so bad again.