30 something and TTC #1 for a year

[aleja]

hi gettingbroody, australia has fairly generous IVF rebates but it will still cost about $3500-$4500 per cycle (according to FS). There is a couple of cheaper clinics which are partially covered by state but waiting lists long. my health insurance doesn't cover IVF - but it would only cover hospital stay costs if i had it.
I have been looking into clinics but i think i am going to stay with the current FS I have as he already knows our history and has done all the tests etc.

Funnily enough I am DPO14 today and can officially but i lost all hope now of a natural BFP so I will wait to the dreaded aunt flo arrives.. probably by tomorrow

Hi Truly and Cupcake! so happy to hear from you ladies, Its great to hear about the break in ttc. it will really help with feeling refreshed for the next cycle. I should take a leaf off your book and take it easy too before i start

 

[GettingBroody]

So, dh heard from his dr today about his SA and it's not good news Test showed he has a low sperm count. He goes to see his dr for a blood test on Tues and then he must go back to the FS for a second SA. To be honest I was kind of expecting it so not too upset. Just hope the FS is as fast-acting as yours Aleja if the second set of results are also bad... Bring on the professionals!

 

[aleja]

gettingbroody i am so sorry to hear that...i really wouldn't want to wish it on my worst enemy as its an absolute bummer....

on the flipside at least it gives some kind of answers hopefully your DH's second lot is much better and that the FS can give you some options too.
During my Dh's second SA they gave him a sperm dna fragmentation test (i think it is called SARCSA or something) as apparently if there is damage to sperm dna it makes it hard for spermy to stick....just something else to ask about AND worry about GL hun

 

[MrsG2010]

Hi Sarahrn! Good luck!

Hi Truly! Good to see you!

Hello Cupcake!

Hey aleja, fingers crossed!

Broody, Sorry your DH SA did not go well. Did you get the results on paper?

As for me, another negative OPK last night. DH and I talked a bit about our next steps. He still seems to be thinking it's going to happen naturally. He doesn't seem to want to go forward with fertility treatments. He still hasn't gone for his blood work and certainly not for his second SA. (First one was done back in May.) I'm giving him some time. We've had a stressful (putting it mildly) few months and I don't want to add on at this time.

Our results were all normal (even if not quite good) so I don't see why it can't happen naturally for us... soon!?

 

[GettingBroody]

Broody, Sorry your DH SA did not go well. Did you get the results on paper?

No, haven't seen the results and DH didn't think to ask for figures He's going to ask the dr for them on Tues.

MrsG, I agree there doesn't seem to be any reason it won't happen naturally if the results are clear. Could just be a little shy! I think my DH would be just like yours if the results hadn't pointed to a problem... Fx'd for you!

 

[MrsPTTC]

It's very brave of you not using opks . I had become so dependent on them that I can't imagine not using them .What's everyone else planning for ttc?

Totally know what you mean hun, this is only the 2nd cycle in 17 that I’ve not used them, but you know what I feel great! (well I did but that’s another story I’ll come to.) Much more relaxed! I do wonder if stress is causing us problems, I’m sure it can’t be good for you POAS’ing every day .

My plans are IUI if the FS agrees!

Clomid finished up Monday. so I am PC (postclomid) day 2. Have not been sleeping well, and had wicked hot flashes today. Will start checking OPK's tomorrow morning.

Sorry you’ve been having the side effects hun, just wait til the moodswings start! Have you noticed when you first started OPK’s post clomid that they got lighter? Apparently the clomid can affect them. My first few cycles I POAS’d really early and they were darker, got lighter and then darker again approaching ovulation.

Trulyoo – nice to hear from you hun! Enjoy your break!

I tried reflexology for the first time about 2 or 3 days before i think i ovulated. It was really funny. Going back again on 17th March, she said to go about every 5-6 weeks. It's all part of my try and relax and if it helps then that's all good.

We finally decided to go forward with the referral to the IVF clinic, hopefully not for IVF but they do other procedures so i thought what's the harm in going along. So waiting now for a letter for our first appointment.

Let me know how the reflexology goes, I wouldn’t mind trying it! Good luck with the referral, hope you get to move forward to the next step

Gettingbroody – so sorry to hear about DH SA hun But as long as he has there is always something they can do!

As for me, another negative OPK last night. DH and I talked a bit about our next steps. He still seems to be thinking it's going to happen naturally. He doesn't seem to want to go forward with fertility treatments. He still hasn't gone for his blood work and certainly not for his second SA. (First one was done back in May.) I'm giving him some time. We've had a stressful (putting it mildly) few months and I don't want to add on at this time.

We’re in the same boat as you MrsG, DH SA was done last May and the FS said he needed to do a second, DH refused as the hospital I am with won’t accept home samples, unlike the one we used for DH (before I was referred.) But the FS said as his sample was pretty good he wouldn’t force him to do another. But May was a long time ago and I want to get him checked again – so I’ve asked our GP for another sample bottle to take to the hospital that assessed his first SA. I would like to do this before our next FS appointment in April. Sorry your DH isn’t wanting to go forward with anything. MEN!

AFM, I have been very relaxed, no vits, no OPK’s…until today when my IRL TTC buddy has gone into labour. I’m happy and excited for them but so sad it’s not me and keep getting upset . I thought I was done with crying over TTC as I’ve been so looking forward to the FS appointment! x

 

[aleja]

hi mrsP, i am glad to hear that you are having a mostly stress free and apparatus free cycle. I say we all need them sometimes. when do you expect to OV?

It must have been hard trying to be happy for your friend but at the same time feeling terrible inside. Only ladies in our situation would understand that. it is such a conflicted feeling. I always feel ashamed of myself when these bouts of jealousy and self pity arise. One of my ttc friends is having her baby shower in March and I am dreading it. I feel awful saying it but here she is about to be a proud mummy to a little girl in May and I will most likely be starting my first IVF cycle around the same time.....unfair or what?? then again I feel grateful that I have good heath and a supportive and mostly happy existence.

Don't feel bad about the crying i think there will always be tears as long as we are in this ttc limbo. Hope you feel better soon.

 

[MrsPTTC]

Thank you aleja, . Does your friend who's shower you are going to know you are TTC? A few of my friends know & they have babies & my friend who is having her baby knows. I find it easier though they don't 'really' understand. I'm pretty sure I ovulated at the beginning of last week due to CM & CP, I'm approx 5-7 DPO. Still BD'ing for a bit just in case x

 

[Sarahrn04]

MrsP what dose of Clomid are you on?

 

[aleja]

Hi mrsp yes my friend does know we are ttc because we used to talk about it all the time. Then she got pregnant and I didn't. Lately we have just been talking about her pregnancy and hasn't asked me about how I am going which I am grateful about. I have other friends with babies who all ask me what's happening but I keep deflecting the questions. I am in no position to be telling the whole world about this IVF predicament... Not yet at least

 

[aleja]

Hope everyone is well x

 

[MrsG2010]

Looks like I'm 3DPO.

My Ovulation Chart


I don't know. I didn't keep a full chart because I wasn't sleeping well. Honestly, I don't think it really matters.

gettingbroody, did your DH get his #s?

 

[Sarahrn04]

just stopping by to say hi to all my ladies.

9 days post Clomid. Monitoring my OPK's which are getting darker but not dark enough to be positive. The research I have come upon says you should O 5-9 days after clomid....

Trying to stay positive.

 

[GettingBroody]

gettingbroody, did your DH get his #s?

Nope, totally forgot to say it to him I'm not going to chase them down now though. Think it would actually make me more stressed to know the actual figures. At the moment I'm quite relaxed about it but I think seeing the numbers would have me googling like crazy! I'll wait til the results of the 2nd SA and google then! DH went for his blood test on Tues and the dr (female) ended up doing a physical examination on him to make sure all was well in that region Poor DH, he was mortified!

 

[MrsG2010]

Hey sarah, how's it going -- any updates?

Gettingbroody, poor dh! But he went and im proud of him!

My dh... still no progress. I havent brought it up again. Im in 2ww again, we'll see how this round goes.

 

[Sarahrn04]

MrsG- No real updates. I am after clomid day 11. My OPK's got the darkest yesterday but not technically positive, and are starting to get lighter again...who knows. Next weekend will be CD28 so I will see what happens then.

 

[MrsPTTC]

Sarah, sorry for the delay, I am on 50mg. Are you getting monitored at all? Any follicle tracking to check the clomid has worked?

Bless your DH gettingbroody!

Hi :wave: to everyone else.

I hoped to return with some good news as I was starting to think I was preggo, but . I shouldn’t complain as I’ve had a good spotting month with the early ovulation, but lo and behold, CD27 the beigey CM has started today. I'm between 10-12 DPO. I’ve been feeling a bit nauseous, burning feeling in my uterus on Thursday, creamy CM, really sore boobs started last night, CP is soft, when normally it is hard at this point and when I took the dog out yesterday I saw TWO sets of magpies. I really thought my luck was in…. When I saw the spotting earlier I tested, though didn’t have much wee but BFN. I know I’m technically not out yet, but I also know my body and that it’s pre AF spotting. DH and I are going to make the FS listen to me next month, I’ve now got a pattern to my spotting which suggests progesterone to me, but last time I mentioned that he said LPD is a nonsense. I had a bit cry before, but I’m ok now, just p*ssed off x

 

[MrsPTTC]

Oh and I hit 18 months yesterday!!!

 

[GettingBroody]

Sending loads of MrsP. Fx'd the spotting stops and af doesn't make an appearance...

 

[MrsPTTC]

Thanks hun x