30 something and TTC #1 for a year

[cupcakesarah]

IUI was unsuccessful. AF arrived at lunchtime, had to stop myself from crying in the toilets when telling hubby. Also i still had 2 lessons to teach this afternoon. Cried like a baby in the car on the way home. It just felt harder this time, i really thought this might be our chance to have a baby and get that elusive BFP.

We went for a walk tonight and it made me realise that the panic i feel about not having a baby and thinking i'll never have a family are the same feelings i had before i met my hubby, i'd gone through a long time of being single and thought i'd never find anyone to love me. So i told hubby this and he said to me to look at myself now with everything that's changed since i met him and all this things i should be grateful for.

So i think we'll leave it now until at least christmas before we try any more treatments.

Feeling very depressed, how are you ladies, can someone please bring some good news to this thread soon...

 

[aleja]

cupcake, i am so sorry to hear it didn't work. what a sad day for you and your DH. Take time to grieve and look after yourselves. It's nice that you were able to communicate your feelings with your DH as it would be so much harder to go through this alone x
I totally understand your feelings of panic. it really does describe it well and I can relate to this.

unfortunately it won't be me bringing some good news right now. My natural FET cycle has been cancelled. I got the call yesterday and I was so shocked....apparently my BT and US results show that I am not ovulating this month. WTF?? The FS gave some instruction about me starting Provera in 10 days and then I will be on a Clomid cycle for the FET.

I have always ovulated although i have really long cycles. I told the FS lots of times that I ovulate late etc but suddenly because nothing is happening right now they decide to cancel. Interestingly, my FS is going overseas today so part of me thinks its just more convenient to cancel than wait it out because he won't be around to keep monitoring me. I am soooo annoyed!!

The problem is that since I did the ICSI cycle my cycles are whacked. So we have gone from male factor issues, with my fertility perfect. Now it looks like I am having ovulation problems. It is so depressing.
MrsP, looks like you are not the only one with 'raggy' ovulation now!!

Mk, yes I remember that your HSG showed the irregular shape but hopefully the saline 'dildo cam' will get to the bottom of this. When is this exam?

 

[MrsPTTC]

Aw Cupcake I'm so sorry chick I don't blame you for leaving it a few months before further treatments. Just relax and BD regularly in the meantime, that's what I'm trying to do.

Aleja, how annoying they've cancelled your cycle! sorry hun

x

 

[MrsG2010]

I'm sorry cupcake and aleja.

I had my ultrasound and blood work done yesterday morning. Somewhat frustrating. I was on 50mg of Clomid days 3-7. I had 3 follicles. 2 on my right side = 17.5, 16.0. Left side 14.7. So I asked about my lining. Thin. I never got a measurement. Apparently the ultrasound tech took a bad picture/bad measurement. But the doctor decided to wait til Monday morning to rescan me and redo my blood work. Of course I have to pay $289 everytime this happens.

I don't understand why they prescribe Clomid first if it's known to thin lining? Maybe someone can shed light on this for me. My DH thinks it's unfair we have to pay for extra ultrasounds and maybe lose the cycle if my lining's too thin when they recommended and prescribed the Clomid. Anyone have thoughts?

Nurse said thin lining doesn't mean I can't get pregnant.

Also, I didn't realize that I'm doing back to back IUIs. Obviously things aren't being explained to me properly. I would think I would have been told this at the beginning. Now I have to go 45 min away Mon morning for the re-test. Then possibly Tues and Wed for the IUIs. I'm going to have to tell work it appears. I didn't want to.

I hope hope hope hope this works.

 

[MrsPTTC]

Hi MrsG, I didn't get my lining checked before clomid either, only after I'd taken the first cycle. I do think it's unfair that they're going to charge you every time, when the tech messed it up?! $289 sounds a hell of a lot for each scan! Your follie sizes sound good though My FS did say to me even if clomid had thinned my lining there was not a lot they could do, so it doesn't sound like there's an alternative... x

 

[MrsG2010]

Mrsp. I has my lining checked when I was getting my tests done at end of last year. It was perfect. I think I would have had to go back on mon either way. So I don't think bad ultrasound pic made much of a difference. Does lining get thicker over the cycle?

 

[cupcakesarah]

MrsG hope the iui works out.

 

[GettingBroody]

Cupcake - so so sorry the iui wasnt successful. Sending loads of

Aleja - can't believe they have decided you aren't ovulating and that they need to cancel!!! If you usually ovulate later then why would they suddenly expect you to ovulate to their time frame?! You should start temping and doing opks to see if they tell a different story...!

MrsG - sorry you think you'll have to tell work when you don't want to... My periods are quite light so I worry about lining problems as well. Hope today's scan brought some good news!

MrsP and Mk8 - howdy !!!! (I agree MrsP, he's very cute!)

 

[aleja]

hey broody yes i am using OPK's at the moment but part of me is just over it..i think i will just listen to the FS and use the provera next week. There is no difference between using a medicated vs unmedicated FET but the issue is just my own feeling like my body has let me down.

MrsG, i can't believe you are cashing out $$$ each BT and US. I would ask how 'thin' is 'thin' in terms of your uterine lining. I think anything over 7cm is okay. Hopefully they will give you estrogen pills, or patches, etc if it is too thin for the IUI. You are right to be worried about a failed cycle if the uterine lining isn't perfect.
I think the lining increases in the lead up to OV. I am a bit worried about this too now as i will join the Clomid club next cycle..
GL xx

 

[MrsG2010]

Appointment done. Went well! Lining up to 7.4. Nurse told me anthing over 5-6 they are ok with. Right ovary 2 = 22.7 and 20.7. Left side= 20.6. !!! Those are good! *So I need my shot tonight at 9. Then I go back in 12 hours later for iui 1 and then next morning (36 hours) for iui 2.

Ahhhh

 

[mk8]

hi girls,

cupcake- i am so sorry to hear that iui didnt work this time. i hope you and mr cake are feeling better. some time out to relax sounds like a plan. but if you decide to seek help, maybe its an idea to see a different specialist? was your iui on the nhs? were you on specific meds? have you spoken to them about why it may not have worked? sorry to bombard you with questions but perhaps something to think about when (if) you decide to do more digging. in the meantime, enjoy chilling with mr cupcake. you deserve it. huge hug to you. Stay hopeful that it will happen!

Aleja - Any more news at all? Sorry to hear that this cycle is cancelled. If you find that you O later, can they begin this cycle again? Are you doing any alternative treatments with IVF? I hear that acupuncture is good- may be worth looking into? Good luck honey!

MrsG- so pleased to hear that the appointment went well and you can move on with the treatment. Hope you bring us some good BFP news.

MrsP- how are you doing this cycle?

Broody- how about you? Everything OK?

Gosh we need a good sprinkling of babydust on this thread- BRING IT!

 

[aleja]

GL mrsG hope your double IUI does the trick! Wow that's a lots of big follies... You could end up with twins!

Mk, no more news on my end except that I think I am going to listen to the FS.. Which is start the Provera in 10 days then wait for AF then take clomid to help me ovulate . I totally believe in all the alternative therapies but I have waited long enough I just want to start having the Frozen embryo transfers ... I can't fathom waiting yet another 2-3 months to see if my cycles regulate before trying . Especially now I know the FET can be cancelled at any time if the conditions are not right .

 

[MrsG2010]

Hey girls. I wish I had good news to share. Iui done today. 4 mil washed. She said total motile. I don't know pre-wash #, she said it didn't matter. I go back tomorrow for round 2. The iui itself was quick and painless.

Fingers super crossed!!

 

[MrsPTTC]

GL MrsG!!

MK, I'm ok chick, just dying to test now to put me out of my misery!

22 months today, woopidy doopidy! 2 years is gonna be really hard!

x

 

[MrsPTTC]

Ladies!!!!!!! What do you think??? x

 

[mk8]

Oh my god! YES!!!!!!!!!!! Woo hoo! About time one of us got sprogged up! Congrats! Iui was obviously the one for you!!!!!

 

[MrsPTTC]

Thanks MK, wasn't an iui cycle though, just normal clomid! x

 

[aleja]

MrsP omg.....!!!!!!
You did it!!!!!

What DPO are you?

MrsG, how come it's not good news? Is the post wash bad??
gL with next one

 

[MrsG2010]

holy shit mrs P My jaw just dropped! Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!

Tell us EVERYTHING!!! I knew you were doing Clomid only. You are somewhere between 6-8 months of Clomid only ? Did your DH have sperm issues? I'm sorry, I can't remember. I'm going to have to go back and refresh my memory. I'm so excited for you!


Aleja, I did not think 4 mil post wash was good. I tried talking to the nurse yesterday but she was annoying and kept saying "dont focus on the # just think happy thoughts" ---- REALLY annoying. I'm in a doctor office. I want medication information not happy thoughts mumbo jumbo. So today I get a different nurse and I'm going to ask.

DH and I are leaving in about 30 min. Wish us luck!!! MrsP - again - awesome!

 

[mk8]

Oh yes, just clomid- mind frazzled! Congrats all the same mrs p.