30 something and TTC #1 for a year

[mk8]

Hello ladies

Sorry I've not been around. Haven't been feeling well. Guess the nasty weather here isn't helping. Been off sick at home last week. Ugh.

Aleja- good luck with the results of the interview. I always dissect everything after and feel bad but you just never know. Hope alls well in terms of TTC. Hoping the biopsy thingy works for you.

Mrsg- I'm so sorry. This journey isn't easy. I think we started TTC around the same time. Are you having a follow up appointment with your fs? Thinking if you.

Broody and mrs p- so glad the scans are good and you're pregnancies are going so well. You ladies been well throughout? Any funky symptoms or words if wisdom for when the rest of us reach where you ladies are?

Brassy- hope you're doing ok.

Hope everybody is in a happy place.

 

[MrsG2010]

Hey girls thanks for the words of support. I think I had my day of tears when the first bad IUI happened. AF was met with "yeah well I knew that it didnt work" attitude. So surprisingly Ive been Ok.

However, I expect I'll be feeling blue soon enough. I mentioned a couple months back that DH and I have been discussing moving to Maryland. His entire family lives there. It happens to be a perk that Maryland has an IVF mandate for insurance. I've been googling my heart out but there's so much mumbo jumbo and insurance loopholes that it's hard to really understand. But as of right now, it looks like our assisted conception journey is on hold until we move, get new jobs, and get new insurance.

Believe me I'm aware that I'll likely be 33 by the time that happens. I REALLY wanted more than 1. I'm hoping I can "squeeze" in 2 before 35. But if I can't.... then I hope we're blessed with one. I'm an only child, however, and I always hated it.

The only thing that could change.... I was reading a low sperm count thread on bnb. And one of the ladies mentioned her DH got a bad tooth removed and his sperm count went way up. I think DH has an infected tooth as well. I'm thinking if he gets his tooth fixed, we wait a few months and do a new SA. If that looks good, maybe we'll try another IUI before we move. Otherwise, I dont want to spend more $$$ on useless IUIs.

I will call FS today and let them know IUI didnt work. My guess is they'll want DH to come in for an SA. And my guess is he won't want to go yet. See above tooth infection theory.

That's my story for now. I'll let you guys know what FS says. And I'll write a proper post later checking in w/ you ladies. But it looks like I'm here for the long haul. And I hope I'm here by myself and all you lovely ladies move on to preggo boards.

 

[mk8]

Thanks mrs G but I hope NONE of us will be here soon and migrate over to the pregnancy boards by Christmas! Come on Santa! We have all been good girls.

I understand the panic about turning 33 soon hun, I do next year. There's a possibility that we can still have 2 before 35 but if not, we can be older yummy mummies. My mum had me at 36, another friend had her third at 36/37, sil had hers at 36, colleague had hers at 40. All healthy!

Your plan sounds good. Would you also like to consider injections with iui? I've heard success rates are much higher. That's what my fs recommended to me. Less issues with the lining too apparently and cheaper than ivf. Another friend also swears by the gluten free diet helping. I started it but fell off the bandwagon so need to get back on. Maybe also keeping the tummy warm as that helps according to tcm.

Oh the stuff we do eh?

Hang in there mrs g, we have to believe it will happen!

 

[MrsPTTC]

Thanks mk! I've had it pretty good so far though my back is giving me a bit of bother - pillow between the legs during the night seems to help, & ginger biscuits to help with the nausea, oh & using a hair bobble on your jeans to delay buying maternity clothes! Sorry to hear you've been poorly, was it that horrible sickness bug that's been going round?

Ah mrsG, moving states to get IVF? Amazing the things that need to be done in the crazy world of TTC! And the tooth thing and the - WOW! Hope it works Hun!

Both of you - I NEVER use the preggo boards! Feel so much more at home in TTC. Seriously you're better off staying where you are - but with a baby on board of course! I'm keeping check until you all get your BFP's and I know it will happen!

X

 

[MrsG2010]

Thanks girls. To clarify though we are not moving for ivf. We were moving anyway. But now it doesn't make sense to pay out of pocket if there's a chance we'll be able to get some insurance help. I really hope we do. Maryland is one of only 14 states with an insurance mandate.

Called nurse yesterday. I sort of feel like she's on auto pilot. She's like ready to start another IUI cycle? And I'm like well I'm concerned the sperm count was so low. And then it seemed she looked down at the file. Why not look before you call me? It doesn't give me much confidence. Anyway, it may not matter. I may not be going there anymore. Do you girls ever feel like they are lacking individual attention?

 

[aleja]

Hi girls
MrsG yes sometimes it does feel like the nurses are on autopilot , asking whether we want another cycle as if its something to be taken lightly.
Your relocation plans may be just what you need just for a fresh start .
The tooth ache theory is interesting ... I'd love to hear if it works for your FS

Mk where are you up to in your plans? I really hope a Christmas BFP is around the corner but I remember thinking the same thing last year !

Re: age dilemma. I am turning 35 in November and its quite scary . Having said that my FS assured me that my ovaries are not suddenly going to rapidly decline . So you girls have plenty of time to squeeze in a couple of babies x

 

[MrsG2010]

Thanks Aleja. I don't know why I'm so nervous about 35. You're right. But I started this right around turning 30. So it seemed light years away at the time.

The infection from tooth is interesting! I can't think of any reason why dh went from acceptable numbers in July to not acceptable in October. On the thread I was reading one woman got a bfp after dh had dental work done. Another woman had improved counts.

It's worth a try. He needs to get his tooth fixed anyway! If you guys notice my dh procrastinates on his own health!

I think while I'm in waiting mode, I'll go back to real ttc. Maybe I'll chart again. My new doctor may like to see them. Haha

 

[mk8]

Mrs g, yup, some of those nurses are crap! I was disgusted with the fs I saw on the Nhs (state healthcare). All of them had been great but the last one I saw who delivered my results said "bloods normal, tubes normal, uterus normal, sperm normal, all normal! So no questions. We are done". Literally. Well clearly something's not normal! She said "well you're unexplained, about 30% of people are". Yeah... And?!? So I asked what does that mean (ie where do we go) and she said "well by unexplained, it means we cannot explain it" in a really condescending way. I wanted to throttle her. I wasn't there fit the helluva it! What are my options?!?

I went to see my private specialist and they were much better (well I am paying). Mrs g, can you perhaps get a second opinion? Discuss other options like iui with other meds? It will happen. It will for all of us!

Oh, what were your charts like?

Aleja, any news re the job? How's TTC going at the mo?

As for me, I'm trying to chill! I'm chilling and going to enjoy Christmas. That and pray that God blesses hubby and I. It's been do stressful this journey and I feel I need to relax ya know?

 

[aleja]

hi girls,
MrsG my DH procrastinates all the time about his health. I don't think he has had a dental check up in years I think! that is terrible I know but for someone who has very low sperm count, now I will be bugging him to get his teeth cleaned at the very least!!!!

MK I can't believe how rude your previous doctor was......its like you were making a transaction or something....I hate the unexplained excuse...i don't really believe it ..it may just mean they haven't done all the tests to work out what's causing it.

My job interview: well i haven't heard anything yet but I spoke to a colleague who works in the same organisation. She told me that I will not be able to claim maternity pay until I have done 12 months at the agency. this is a worry to me ...i mean it may take me another 12 months to even fall pregnant but I will be very upset (and financially screwed!!) if I dont have maternity pay (the public service in Australia is very generous)...so now I don't know whether I would take the job anyway (even though I'd love to !)....ah the dilemmas , nothing can be simple in the life of Aleja

PS the witch arrived today so my final frozen transfer cycle starts

 

[GettingBroody]

Hey girls,
Just checking in to send you all some and

 

[mk8]

Hi girls

Quick one as on my phone and bnb keeps logging me out!

Aleja, good luck with your frozen cycle Hun. You doing anything diff?

Broody, wow check out the little one! Looks like a baby now! How you feeling? You showing at all or way too early?

 

[GettingBroody]

Hi mk8! I'm feeling mostly great thank god. Tired and a bit nauseous some days but no throwing up so yay! Also really gone off lots of meats, make my stomach heave so avoiding them as much as possible! Tiny tiny bump but not that anyone would notice and sometimes I wonder if it's just bloat!

Girls, been meaning to say - I have an untouched menopur in my fridge if it's any good to anyone? The government covers our meds so it didn't cost me a penny but it seems a waste to just throw it away... If anyone needs it you are more than welcome to it....?

 

[MrsPTTC]

Hi girls! Hope everyone is ok. Broody I was the same with meat, but more the raw meat, it was turning my stomach when cooking with it, and I then had difficulty eating it cooked! But it subsided after a few weeks x

 

[aleja]

Hi gals it has been a little quiet around here lately ��
I hope everyone is well

Broody and mrs P boo to morning sickness however I secretly can't wait to have symptoms one day !

Mk what's happening with you ?

Me: I don't think I got the job after all as I didn't hear back from them . Oh well that solved my dilemma .
I am not doing anything different in this next cycle except using 2 embys and I also started taking aspirin . my FS rang me to tell me the results from my Endo biopsy . I tested negative for natural killer (NK) cells but apparently my endometrium was "out of phase" . This means that the sample was taken on Day 22 of my cycle but the Endo was like I was on day 17 !!!??!!
I didn't even know this was possible! It's a type of luteal phase disorder ( just what I need!)
The treatment for this is clomid which I'm using this cycle .

 

[GettingBroody]

Aleja, I've never heard of that either! Fx'd the clomid does the trick and your bfp is just around the corner!!!

 

[brassy]

Hello everyone!
Girls, sorry I have been MIA. I am not feeling my best. After the last AF I was feeling kind of depressed. And although he showed to be ok so far, DH has started not feeling very well about our continuous failures. This time we got away for a weekend and I ovulated while away, so I am hoping that having been somewhat relaxed might have helped....And then we got back and at 2dpo I got another patch of EWCM took a test and it was positive. I was sure I ovulated the first time, had ovulation pains, got a temp rise and a negative opk the following day. And then I felt that I was ovulating again within 48 hours. I am sure my dr won't believe this. Pure hubby. He had a minor procedure done on a mole that day and he was in pain and we had to bd again after so many days on a row....I am 7dp first ovulation today and I am not sure when to take a progesterone test....

Anyways, Aleja I hope that clomid fixes that issue with your endometrium. I didn't know that in endo biopsies they could assess in such detail the endo state. When they did mine after the polypectomy they assessed whether it was in pre or post ovulation state...
I hope everyone else is doing well!

 

[Sarahrn04]

hi girls! sorry I haven't been posting in awhile, I have been checking in, but have been busy, and pretty depressed the last few months.

So I tested early. I am 12d/po and my HCG trigger shot. I've read a lot of places that the HCG is out of your system after 10 days....so anyway We got a today!!!!! I'm going to wait a few more days and test again to be sure, but at this point we are cautiously optimistic!

Congrats to those who have found their sticky beans, and baby dust to those who are still ttc.

 

[GettingBroody]

Sarah!!!!! That's fantastic!! CONGRATULATIONS!!!! Am so thrilled for you! I would think the trigger shot should be well gone by now. I think mine was gone by about 7dpo. When is your EDD? Tell us all!!!!

 

[mk8]

Hi ladies

Sorry I've been a bit quiet but my phone connection is rubbish and its not easy logging online. I've been well. I'm really looking forward to Christmas! Trying to stay mellow. Not quite working. Haha. Plan is to try to chill until then!

Broody,how's your pregnancy going now Hun? Feeling good? When's your next scan/docs appt. we are always so focused on TTC that I don't really get what happens after getting the bfp! Hope you're doing well. How many people have you told?

Mrs p,how are you doing? Second tri is easier i hear. Is it true? Gearing up to Christmas? So exciting. Next yr you will have another little person to celebrate with. You're def going to keep the gender a surprise right? Do you have an inkling of what you will be having, aside from a gorgeous baby of course!

Aleja, sorry about the job but sounds like its for the best given the maternity benefits. I'm sorry to year you have a luteal phase issue but I'm also glad that they have "figured out" what the issue could be. Great news about the nk cells! Ive heard that lp is easy to fix. I hope clomid does the trick, otherwise I've read in my TTC books that taking progesterone suppositories post o can help. Do you have light periods? I've heard that raspberries help make a nice thick lining to nourish an implanting baby! I'm wishing you the best of luck Hun. Keep us posted if you can. Come on embie! STICK!

Brassy, I'm sorry you're feeling low. TTC can be such an emotional roller coaster, but it makes us all stronger and hopefully closer with our other halves. Keep the faith. It will happen. Whilst we all hope these things happen naturally, we are lucky to be born in a period where science can give us a helping hand. Stay positive and relaxed (which I know is virtually impossible). Hopefully your break away helped.

Sarah, my goodness! CONGRATS! Well done you guys. I've read that hcg trigger should be out by 12 days too so this is def your bfp! Have you booked to see the doc? We're you doing iui or just on meds to help ovulation? Has your doc prescribed progesterone? Such great news for this thread! Hoping for many more wonderful bfp Christmas pressies! Try to enjoy this Sarah. Stay positive. I have a good feeling about this one.

 

[Sarahrn04]

this was a cloimd cycle. I was on 150mg this time, but did not do IUI cause they said my lining was not optimal. So we just did it the old fashion way We were going to take a break after this cycle, so this is absolutely fantastic! We are being cautiously optimistic however. With our MC in June, and the thinner lining I am not quite ready to be 100%. I think I will have my blood drawn later this week to really confirm, then it's smooth sailing from there.


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