32 ttc for 10 months now - anyone in the same boat?

[whiskey]

Hi Ladies,

I just thought I'd post a little update on this thread. Well, I'm back in TWW limbo at the moment - due to text next Sunday....my impatience has got the better of me and I've actually made an appointment with a Fertility Specialist for a week on Monday so if I'm disappointed on Sunday, I know I'm moving on to the next step straight away - helps me feel like I'm moving forward.

How is everyone else doing? xx

 

[cooch]

Hi Whiskey, I'm 32 and have been ttc for 11 months. We are seeing specialists partly because we are paying in for it - to been seen by Napro. Also my GP referred me quite quickly so by the time I will have my 1st NHS appointment it will be exactly 1 yr. I know for my chart and cycles and tel consultation with Napro that even if I got preg right now a mc is likely- they can tell that just from certain symptoms. You should have a look into it as it has made me feel as though I am doing all I can.

 

[cooch]

You're not on you're own. The helplessness is a horrible feeling. I didn't know I was such a control freak till this came up and its something I can't control at all.

I have now been totally open with family and friends about what is happening and how I feel and they have all shut up. At last.

Ah well. First cycle of CBFM and I got my first high today. Yay (but boo- I'm just not in the mood for BD)

I soo get the control freak thing- as its your own body you would think we could control it- it is frustrating.

 

[Natashaa1]

My update - Well OH and I have had our first FS appointment. Just to let you know, and i dont know if this is the same in all areas but before you even see the consultant a nurse weights and measures you to get your BMI. There was a couple in front of us and they got turned away because his BMI i was too high to even be seen!! Needless to say he was not happy and swearing and stormed out and she was crying!

I know that they always tell you as a woman to get to a healthy weight but didnt realise they can turn you away if OH is over weight! Thankfully we are both in the normal range!

So from here on there are more tests for me - more bloods, swabs and a HSG and OH SA and then a return appointment in 3 months.

Today is 5dpo so i'm hoping for my BFP before i have to have anymore test!

Goodluck and baby dust

 

[whiskey]

Hi Natashaa1 - that's an awful story. I can't imagine how gutted that couple must have felt! This whole ttc gig is pretty unforgiving.....

Have you had hsg, SA, etc before? And how funny - I'm 6DPO so we're practically on the same cycle! Fingers crossed we get our BFPs and don't need to go ahead with any more testing!

I had all the tests done a couple of months ago so I'm hoping they won't ask me to do it again...we're working in HK so going private and I'm hoping we can get some treatment starting next month fingers crossed - I'm so darn impatient!

Cooch - is your appointment with the FS next month? Have you had any tests yet? Really hope it goes well. x

 

[Natashaa1]

Hi Whiskey, no haven't had any of the tests done so a bit nervous about it all to be honest.

Going to the GP tomorrow for routine swabs. Well today my temp dipped and now FF has changed my def ovulation into a cross hatch so not sure if i have or haven't ovulated this month!

Not having a very good day to be honest, seriously wondering if i want to subject myself to all these tests, annoyed with OH as hes been away (from last wed) and not here to talk to (irrational annoyed but annoyed all the same) and now he's back tomorrow but has invited his folks to stay so tonight (whilst hes not here) i'm left cleaning, washing beds and food shopping! When all i want to do is cry!

 

[whiskey]

Oh Natashaa1 – that’s rubbish!! Your OH better give you some TLC when he gets back – especially for looking after his folks when he’s away!

I had all the tests done quite early on – six months ago – and I found it actually helped because I felt like we were moving forward. We found out that I have mild PCOS and my OH has a motility count of 50% which is the low range of normal. The HSG was the only one that wasn’t very pleasant but they do say that the couple of months after the HSG you’re more likely to fall pregnant because your little tubes are cleaned out so maybe you’ll be one of the lucky ones.

I’m counting down to testing (this Sunday) and to our FS appointment (next Monday) – can’t stand the waiting!!! Now dreaming of IUI twins! How great would that be?! A ready made family in one swoop!

Have you told anyone you’re TTC? I’ve only told my mum (who is aghast that I’m already considering fertility treatment) I don’t feel comfortable telling anyone else – I don’t want to be constantly asked how it’s going especially when it’s not going anywhere! x

 

[NewToAllThis]

Don't give up hope girls, I got my yesterday.
Praying for a sticky bean this time.

Keeping everything crossed for you all. You can do it

 

[whiskey]

NewToAllThis - that is wonderful news!!!!!! Congratulations!!! Any tips would be greatly appreciated!!

 

[NewToAllThis]

To be honest, the list of things I did this month is quite short - a holiday is top of that list although I really didn't go until the day of O so all the in preparation had already been done.

1) We DTD on cd 4,6,8,9, & 11 with my first CBFM peak on cd11 (so O'd probably on cd12). This for us is more sex earlier on in my cycle, we usually start around cd8.

2) I have been using Conceive Plus for a couple of months, but this month invested in a syringe and inserted it as high as possible just before sex EVERY time we DTD.

3) I had had a cold for a week or so before I went away (don't know if that has any relevance but I've heard of people saying they'd been ill before they got their bfp).

4) I got plenty of rest whilst away - lots of midday siesta's and slept an awful lot - DH struggled to wake me a couple of times in the afternoon - I was that sleepy

5) Made DH withdraw soon after finishing - someone on another thread said it can kill sperm off if your OH stays inside afterwards so thought it was worth a try.

Oh and DIDN'T put my legs up the headboard at all - couldn't be bothered this month.

I have tried everything I could think of over the last 12 months and I mean everything.

I pray for each and every one of you to get your bfps soon - I waited a year and I know how extremely hard it is - I simply cannot believe that it has happened for me I just hope that this time, it goes well.

 

[toch1402]

Hi Whiskey,

I was 32 and had been trying for 10 months but now 33 and been trying for 14 months! The wait is rubbish isn't it! I really recommend pushing for general tests to either put your mind at rest or to give you some direction. We were able to have all general tests early (8 months) as I have endo but it was my OH SA that put a large spanner in the works as we found out he has a very, very low sperm count and now ICSI is our only option. So we are waiting to apply for NHS funding.

to all!

 

[Natashaa1]

Newtoallthis - Massive congrats on your BFP that is such good news

Whiskey- My Mum and Sister and my OH Mum know but thats it. I told my Sister when i was diagnosed with pcos as it runs in familys and she had some symptons aswell shes been tested and confirmed as having it also. My OH's told his Mum, i guess he needed someone to talk to, he's been so great support me i think he needed a bit of support himself it turns out it took them 5 years to concieve, so she has been a great help and really understands what i'm going through!

I have twins in the family, My Grandma is a twin and she had 2 sets of (boy/girl) twins so i would totally love twins

I had a cry last night, another friend announched she was expected on facebook and i know they had only just started trying. Just feels unfair............ funny though when someone on here (like Newtoallthis) announces they got their BFP it fills me with hope!

Fingers crossed and luck to everyone i'm 8dpo (please, please let this be my month)

 

[Imaan]

I am 34 and have been ttc for 84 months >> 7 years

 

[whiskey]

Thanks for taking the time to list your actions NewToAllThis! Made me giggle when you mentioned the legs up on the headboard move! I usually do that too – My OH just puts up with me! Hope all goes well for you.

Toch1402 – I just had my 32nd birthday a couple of weeks ago – I’d always imagined I’d be pregnant by my 32nd but alas no! Sorry to hear about your OH’s SA – how long will it take for funding?

Imaan – sorry to hear about your wait. Have you had all the tests, etc? What’s the next step for you?

Hi Natashaa1 – it’s great that you’ve got family around you supporting you – my mum has been great but she really doesn’t see what the fuss is about “It’ll happen when it happens” etc, etc.

I totally know how you feel re: announcements on Facebook. Once of my good friends told me she was pregnant and I keep putting off catching up with her as I know it will be hard – I’ve booked in a lunch with her a few days after my FS appointment so at least I’m hoping I will feel positive that things are moving……

I’m 7DPO at the moment – thinking of testing on Sunday before my appointment. When are you thinking of testing? Will keep my fingers crossed for you!

 

[Imaan]

Thanks for taking the time to list your actions NewToAllThis! Made me giggle when you mentioned the legs up on the headboard move! I usually do that too – My OH just puts up with me! Hope all goes well for you.

Toch1402 – I just had my 32nd birthday a couple of weeks ago – I’d always imagined I’d be pregnant by my 32nd but alas no! Sorry to hear about your OH’s SA – how long will it take for funding?

Imaan – sorry to hear about your wait. Have you had all the tests, etc? What’s the next step for you?

Hi Natashaa1 – it’s great that you’ve got family around you supporting you – my mum has been great but she really doesn’t see what the fuss is about “It’ll happen when it happens” etc, etc.

I totally know how you feel re: announcements on Facebook. Once of my good friends told me she was pregnant and I keep putting off catching up with her as I know it will be hard – I’ve booked in a lunch with her a few days after my FS appointment so at least I’m hoping I will feel positive that things are moving……

I’m 7DPO at the moment – thinking of testing on Sunday before my appointment. When are you thinking of testing? Will keep my fingers crossed for you!

Thank you I have had all the tests... it's due to slight male factor. I've been waiting to begin IUI for the past 9 months. I'm scheduled to start next month. The waiting could drive anyone to insanity!

 

[Natashaa1]

Thanks for taking the time to list your actions NewToAllThis! Made me giggle when you mentioned the legs up on the headboard move! I usually do that too – My OH just puts up with me! Hope all goes well for you.

Toch1402 – I just had my 32nd birthday a couple of weeks ago – I’d always imagined I’d be pregnant by my 32nd but alas no! Sorry to hear about your OH’s SA – how long will it take for funding?

Imaan – sorry to hear about your wait. Have you had all the tests, etc? What’s the next step for you?

Hi Natashaa1 – it’s great that you’ve got family around you supporting you – my mum has been great but she really doesn’t see what the fuss is about “It’ll happen when it happens” etc, etc.

I totally know how you feel re: announcements on Facebook. Once of my good friends told me she was pregnant and I keep putting off catching up with her as I know it will be hard – I’ve booked in a lunch with her a few days after my FS appointment so at least I’m hoping I will feel positive that things are moving……

I’m 7DPO at the moment – thinking of testing on Sunday before my appointment. When are you thinking of testing? Will keep my fingers crossed for you!

I try really hard not to tesy each month and usually dont bother testing early by LP is 16 days, this month however i'm off to the V festival on the day AF is due so need to know but will leave it till Thursday to test! My fingers are crossed for you too

 

[whiskey]

Hi Ladies,

I had my FS appointment today and thought I'd give you an update. He did another scan to check ovaries, etc and looked through all our bloodwork and SA tests - he said they look perfectly normal and usually he recommends a couple TTC for 18 months before going on to intervention. Being the impatient person I am, we've compromised - if we've had no luck by Xmas then we're going to go move on to IUI. He really put us off IUI at the moment as he said it would only have about 16% chance of success - the same as if we just tried on our own.
So, AF is due on Friday but already know this month is out - looking to September 1st now for our next chance and really at a loss with what else to try! Any tips would be appreciated!

 

[toch1402]

Hi Whiskey,

Well done for being assertive! It is good to have a plan of action and it's great that all looks good with SA and scans etc. I expect you are feeling really positive. It was a really good idea to plan to meet your pregnant friend after your appointment and now you can meet her knowing that you have a plan. Isn't it funny the little things we do to keep ourselves sane.

I also always wanted to have a child before I was 30 but due to circumstance (partner who didn't feel ready - he is a couple of years younger) we didn't start trying till 32 - now it seems like it is taking forever. We can apply for funding in Oct / Nov so hopefully will be able to do ICSI in the New Year. If not, then we are going to do it privately. We are actively trying in the meantime but tbh there is not much point as sperm numbers are so low and non-motile. Knowing that does take the excitement out of it but it also takes the 'hoping and waiting and disapointment' out of the month.

Hi Imaan - hope you are well! How exciting with the IUI starting next month - that is great news!

Natashaa1 - enjoy V!

x

 

[FrenchyMummy]

I am 31 and we have been trying for a year now, I am not in the restless stage as yet, but definitely in the "a bit worried about it" section! My father in Law keeps on pestering us for grandchildren, but OH doesn't want to tell him we are having problems or that's all FiL will talk about for months: last thing we need is somebody else worrying over it!
I am on vit B complex as I have a short LP, and so far it seems to do the trick. This month we are trying SMEP for the 3rd time, so hopefully it'll be our month, or we will go to the GP next month with all my charts.
Pffff, and to think that for the last 10 years I was worrying about getting pregnant and now it is the other way round!!
Anyway, fingers crossed for all of us!

 

[Candyx1]

Hello Ladies ..
first time for me in this section and this one sounds just what I am thinking... I'm 31 and 32 is just a couple of months away, we have been trying for a year, first month I fell and lost at 5.5 weeks .. thought it would just happen again but still nothing , let alone knowing if it would stay this time ... absolutely fed up, considering that I may have a problem and maybe time to visit the GP ! feel like a failure and every time we have been out together we get asked when will we be having a baby ? like everyone is thinking its about time ... so hard to think oh maybe this isn't our future and should we be planning life a different way ... ahhh you all know what I mean xxx rant rant