32 ttc for 10 months now - anyone in the same boat?

[Natashaa1]

Hello,

Whisky - any sign of AF yet? glad your appointment went well, i know its fustrating but it is good news that everything is ok and normal. I'm intrigued though why is the IUI rate so low surely you'd have thought giving all those swimmers a head start would increase your chances?

Well ladies AF is due tomorrow or Friday, think i'm gonna poas tomorrow thou, i dont think i'm pregnant as my temp dropped and then did rise a bit again but i've been spotting since cd12 which is unusual for me so i dont know whats going on!!

If AF arrives tomorrow i need to go to the hospital Fri for bloods and arrange my HSG, not good as i'll be rushing around before v festival if it doesnt show till Fri i'll have to go to the hospital on Mon not good as i'll be tired! AF at a festival not good full stop with toilet situation!

Please please please let it be my month (i dont care if i cant get drunk at the v festival)!!

If no joy i'm gonna try the smep next month, just need to convince OH

 

[Natashaa1]

Quick update for you ladies AF got be yesterday! Just in time for my weekend away at V festival great campling and periods dont really mix! So this morning i have been back to the hospital for more bloods, why they cant use the ones the doctor did i'll never know!

I'm sure i'll be 2 pints lighter in blood by the end of this process! oh and where you have to go for bloods is also the antenatal clinic so was surrounded by baby bumps! Great!!

Also called to arrange my HSG, which i'm very scared about, this is next Wednesday!

Feeling ok today, was really upset yesterday and feeling very guilty and like its all my fault we cant get pregnant

Hope everyone else is ok? xx

 

[Natashaa1]

Hmmmmmm should have spell checked before i posted.......... lol sorry

 

[whiskey]

Candyx1 - welcome to the LTTC section and so sorry to hear about your loss. And please feel free to rant any time - we're all in the same boat here and are going through the same issues - it makes such a difference knowing you have a support network to get through the tough days. Is your next step for you and your OH to go to your GP and get referred?

toch1402 - it's great that you can start applying for funding soon - good to know that things will start moving (if you're not pregnant before then!)

Cooch - how are things going for you?

Hi Natashaa1 - AF got me on Thursday too! At least you can have an absolute ball at V without any guilt!
I really hope your HSG goes ok. Mines wasn't the most pleasant experience but honestly it's over in a flash and the good news is that apparently it can clear away any "bits and pieces" and make falling pregnant more likely in the following months!

So - I'm starting to put together a plan of action for BD'ing for this month - I'm thinking I'm going to try NewToAllThis's idea of investing in a syringe and inserting it as high as possible as well as maybe softcups. Anyone else thinking of trying anything new?

 

[whiskey]

Hi All,

Apologies for the upcoming rant but went to brunch yesterday and one of the girls in my group announced she was pregnant. First month of trying apparently.

I don't want to sound mean but her and her husband are not the healthiest of people and I just don't understand how it can be so easy for some people and so difficult for others!!!

IT'S SO UNFAIR!!!!!!

rant over

 

[Natashaa1]

Hey Whiskey,

I know its unfair, you're allowed to rant Sometimes i wonder if people tell little white lies??? i'm sure its not that easy for everyone.

I've also started telling myself that just because someone else is pregnant it doesn't directly effect my chances that helps a bit........... but i still find it very hard to deal with!

Sperm meets egg plan for me this month, Thursday is CD8........... Me and the OH are off to Rome on Friday can't wait

 

[loyla]

You are definitely not alone. I am 33 TTC#1 for about 14 months now. Tried PreSeed, Instead cups, fertility monitor, opk's, hsg, blood work...broke down today at 8dpo and it was a bfn. All I can say is keep your chin up, you are not alone...and if you need to vent pm me

 

[whiskey]

Natashaa1 – do you have your HSG today? If so, good luck! Hope it all goes well!!
Rome will be wonderful – and perfect timing too!

Loyla – your list is exactly the same as mine!! I’ve tried CBFM - broke the first month  - softcups, preseed, acupuncture – even the baking soda finger which was a bit scary! And nothing! At first I wasn’t too bothered about the BFNs – kept thinking I’ll definitely be pregnant by Xmas but now nothing seems certain at all. I really find it unbelievable when all the BD’ing, etc doesn’t work every month! Especially when other people make it look so easy!!
Great that all your tests are normal (like me too) Has you DH had a SA as well?

 

[Gregsprincess]

Hi all

Im 30 (31 a week on Friday) and TTC#1. We have been trying now since Christmas 2010 with absolutely nothing. Before that we weren't being careful as i stopped BC in September 2009 and we didn't use condoms and it just makes me wonder how can there not have been anything at all!!

To start with i thought maybe it was the BC pill leaving my system (i had regular cycles as soon as i stopped of 28-32 days and they have been same since) but now i'm starting to think maybe there is a problem

I never even wanted babies until i met OH and it wasn't like he persuaded me its just like a natural step and all i can think about is when will it happen. He gets so upset every month when af shows and i feel guilty telling him that it didn't happen he is also convinced that the problem is his, years ago he had an sa and was told his count was low but he was young and into partying

Ive had an u/s scan twice due to o pain but dr said everything looked perfect, we've had no other tests. Living in Cyprus we really don't know how to go about it all, there is no NHS system everything is private but where we go who knows.

Its starting to really get to me now especially when i log into facebook and people are announcing they are pregnant - a girl i worked with just announced she's having twins apparently they weren't even trying

AF is due tomorrow and i can tell she will arrive by the cramping i've had today and yesterday. Since Sunday i took IC tests and was getting such faint lines on them i assume evaps, took a FRER and got BFN worst thing about it all is this month all my symptoms were different, backache, boobs hurt, had a cold 4dpo - 7dpo, cramping and shooting pains from 6dpo and to make it worse i showing OH the tests to see so i didn't feel as crazy so he is going to be even more devastated by af than i will

Ive tried charting, monitoring CM and CP, evening primrose oil, softcups, preseed, conceive plus, laying still for 15 mins after, BD every day, every other day, twice a day......the list goes on

Sorry for the rant and i hate it as i know so many people take much longer than this but i definitely agree all your life you have it drummed in to be careful you will fall pregnant at the smell of sperm then find out that mother nature is just a b**ch

 

[cooch]

Had my first NHS appointment yesterday. Basically we have primary infertility. Next stage it to check my tubes are open and if they are I'm sure we will then move to being called 'unexplained'.

Just as well I'm doing Napro as we were given better success percentages than NHS gave me yesterday.. Following our Napro advice I have been on one prescribed drug per night, have had a trigger shot at ovulation time and have been given another drug to take on day 3 of next cycle. We've not to try until Oct, with the hope that it is only a hormonal imbalance I have and things will have evened out

 

[whiskey]

Hi Cooch – great to hear that you’ve got the ball rolling with the testing – when is your HSG? And was it Napro that prescribed the medication and trigger shot?

Gregsprincess – Any sign of AF yet? I know how you feel about always thinking about!!! Are you considering doing more testing, HSG, SA, etc? My friend went to a fertility clinic in Limassol (I’m sure they would do testing as well) – let me know if you want me to find out the details.

Well ladies, I’ve heard through the grapevine that ANOTHER friend of mine is pregnant (just married in May) and she’s organised a dinner for all our friends to get together so she can break the good news. I know it’s silly but I’ve emailed her and cancelled saying DH and I double booked ourselves. Seriously, if I’d had found out at the dinner table surrounded by everyone I think I would have had a bit of a melt down!


I’m attempting the SMEP plan this month, Conceive Plus and softcups. Starting to feel like it’s never going to happen but trying to be positive.

 

[Gregsprincess]

Hi Whiskey

Had bad cramping this morning and when checking cp there was a hint of blood so i think af is starting to show her ugly face. Thanks for the info on the Limassol clinic, i'll have a look online later and bring subject up with DF i'm thinking it may be worth having some basic tests now rather than carry on for months with nothing at least then we will have something to work from.

Sorry to hear another of your friends is pregnant can understand why you would want to cancel.

I like conceive plus never used the syringe though so might give that a go this cycle

 

[cooch]

Hey Whiskey, yeah it was Napro I got all my meds from. Seriously believe I have a better chance with Napro than NHS. SO hopefully someone else can have my place on waiting list when I get pregnant with Napro.

No idea when i will have lap and dye, first appointment is Wed next week should find out how long I need to wait.

 

[Natashaa1]

Hi All,

HSG was ok, not the nicest of things and quite painful but good news as my tubes were fine and open. OH just has to do his SA and then we should have all the results we need.

Cooch - i'm really interested to hear how things go with Napro, i'll have my 2nd FC in Nov and see what the NHS say then but am v. tempted to gove Napro a go.

Whiskey - i completely understand where you are coiming from with your friend, i must admit i would have probably done the same thing.

I'm planning on smep this month cant start at CD8 thou (thats today) as OH is doing his SA sample tomorrow morning so need good swimmers lol! i usually ovulate CD16 - 20 so dont think missing CD8 is a bit deal. In 2 minds about temping this month, were away sat - tue and so thinking the travelling and warm temp in Rome coupled with pcos may confuse my chart so might just relax and not think about it this month?? What do you think?

 

[cooch]

We were given success percentages of around 80% for Napro. Napro are looking to find problems and treat them. NHS don't do that which I find quite frustrating.

I have to say though I feel the best I have in months. Totally stress free. Possibly due to the fact that we are doing absolutely everything we possibly can and I have a lot of faith in the Napro system.

 

[lizzywiz]

Add me to the club: 32, ttc 5+ years, but I have taken breaks because I get a bit crazy about it.
I also use the CBFM. In the past I went a little crazy with charting my temps, cm, cp, etc., and the CBFM is so simple that it helps keep me balanced. I have tried a lot, but right now just EPO because it really seems to improve my CM.
We are debating an SA for my DH (I put it in another post). I have a lot of mixed feelings about it and some I am not too proud of. Basically, I am a bit afraid I will be mad at him if his SA is poor. Unfair and stupid, I know. I am trying to work it out and maybe I am wrong about myself- maybe I would be everything kind and empathetic. I hope so.
I feel a lot of jealousy, bitterness and coveting since we started on this crazy path- baby fever has not improved my personality, that is for sure.
DPO 2 today and trying not to let it consume me.

PS- I really am quite nice and cheerful! You can’t tell from my post, that is that baby fever talking

 

[cooch]

Oh lizzywiz- I was getting obsessed about it too, but I have kinda reached a calm level. I think knowing we couldn't possibly do any more really helps. I have an appointment re a lap and dye on wed- so will find out then how long the waiting list for the procedure actually is.

Other than that its a case and see what happens until next NHS appointment. I have seen a counsellor (privately- NHS wait time was 6 months!) a few times which has helped. What I counldn't really get over was the fact that its sooo unfair who is given babies and who has to go through this. But it now rarely comes into my head.

How is everyone else doing?

 

[NewToAllThis]

Just stopped by to cheer you all on. Hope everyone's doing ok x

 

[whiskey]

Hi Ladies,

I've started the SMEP plan this weekend - getting ready to get the OPKs out so gearing up for a week BD'ing! I've also been reading a really good book called "Waiting for Daisy" by Peggy Orenstein about a woman who struggles to get pregnant - it's actually very well written, I'd recommend it.

Lizzywizz - welcome! I know how hard it is not to get obsessed with TTC - I've found it quite all consuming even though I've taken my mum's advice and "kept myself busy" - enrolled in a postgraduate degree, doing driving lessons, going to the gym five times a week all on top of a full-time quite demanding job and yet here I am obsessing about it! I know how you feel about SA test as well. We found out my OH has low motility and at first I was irrationally annoyed at him but I then realised it was better for us to know so we could deal with it than be in the dark.

cooch - hope the FS appointment goes well this week and you don't have to wait too long for lap and dye test.

Gregsprincess - I just noticed that you've lost 25lb according to your slimming ticker!!! That's incredible! Congrats!

Natashaa1 - I hope you've left the thermometer behind and enjoying your break in Rome without any distractions!

NewToAllThis - thanks for popping in - how is everything going?

 

[Tnkrbell15]

Hi guys...new to the site and your thread. I have been LTTTC for 10 years...yeah, I'm one of those girls that wanted to start a family while I was young. I will be turning 29 in about 2 weeks...and the ex husband and I began trying at 18. I was diagnosed with Endo and PCOS at age 16...so as soon as we got engaged we began NPNT/TTC (didn't do too much beyond counting days.). At age 21 began going to RE and FS, with all the bells and whistles to go with it. It also made TTC difficult because the ex was in the military and was constantly getting sent for training or getting deployed. After trying everything besides IFV, I eventually gave up hope and took a break from trying...also my marriage was beginning to crumble. In 2008, the ex left for deployment and Low and behold, out of the blue I got a BFP (and it was twins). I didn't say anything to anyone, save my mother. I'm glad I didn't, because it turned out to be an ectopic pregnancy. The ex and I officially separated when he got back from Afghanistan...and I still never told him about the pregnancy.

I was blessed though...I met an amazing man during that time...one who chose to be my friend. After my divorce, I fell head over heels for that friend. I also realized why fate had not let me keep those babies...it wasn't meant to be. I still have not gone back for more treatment...and I managed to conceive last October. We were so excited. Though I was diagnosed with a blighted ovum and miscarried (at 10.5 weeks) a week later. The word devastated does not describe what we felt. I decided to wait several months before trying again...

That brings me to the present...and trying to fight away the TTC madness. AF came to visit last night...and not only am I in pain....but I recently found out not only is my fiance's SIL pregnant with #2...but my ex (who remarried 6 weeks after our divorce) is about to become a daddy with wife #2. Crappy time...but fate will have her way, and I must accept her will....I will try to improve my odds with SMEP, maybe some pre-seed or the like, and some OPKs...but in the end, I have to have faith that somewhere up there Fate/God/ whomever will know when the time is right...and pray that the 3rd time is the charm. Thanks for letting me vent.... and to all!