33yr ttc#2 - buddies needed!!!

[ladders]

So got a bd in last night and hopefully again tonight meaning o -3 o -1 and o day. Hope that's enough!
Pg I think you have great timing too, I think we all think we could have done better but still have a good chance

How's everyone doing in the tww?

 

[happycupcake]

I'm sure that's fine, Ladders

Thanks, Sander. I have clearer lines today although it's hard to see after uploading them. Definitely there though, and on the wider IC strip. FRER is blank though but they aren't as sensitive so hopefully they will show something soon

 

[PG5K]

I've already said he has to BD tonight! Haha

That's sounding good cupcake!

 

[curiousowl]

Timing sounds good ladders!

 

[Sander]

Yup can see them clearly today too cupcake. And agree that FRER's aren't as good - so dumb considering how much they cost.

Am around 5dpo today. Haven't noticed much except feeling more out of it - but I'm still coming out of a cold. Also I've been having a lot more cm this month where normally I'm pretty dry. Last month I noticed an increase as well but not as much as this month. But I think I've been more hydrated so that could be it; too early to tell anything at this point I'm sure. Have to give it a few more days at least. Not getting my hopes up this month - our timing was fine, cm was very good, but I dunno - I guess I'm tired of the disappointment so I'm just like meh this time around.

 

[Alligator]

Ladies, quick question for you. I'm relatively new to TTC (we were lucky and fell pregnant quickly, although we MC, I didn't really have a chance to buy OPKs/temp/etc, but I'm on top of it now!). This may be a little delicate but...how do you check your CM? Is it just what you observe in your undies or do you actually dig right in and check (haha sorry for the image).

 

[Sander]

Alligator - nothing is sacred with TTC haha. If you insert your clean index finger up your vagina you can usually get a sample of cm, reaching up to your cervix is where you'll get the best sample - it's usually within reach and feels like a nub. Depending on where you are in your cycle it will be hard (like the tip of your nose) or soft (like your lips).

 

[Alligator]

Thanks sander!! I'll (maybe I'm squeamish) give that a shot if I need some more signs or info!

 

[happycupcake]

Sometimes waiting after a good old poo helps with checking cm. I don't check mine all the time as I'm prone to cystitis so I mostly avoid going in to check except for around ovulation. If I see more on the tissue or undies then I note it down in Fertility Friend

 

[ladders]

Question ladies, how long does everyone bd for? I got my pos opk weds lunch and bd weds and Thurs. Is it worth it tonight? So would be over 48 hours after pos opk?

 

[happycupcake]

Yes I would say it's worth it. You can ovulate up to three days after a positive OPK. Everyone is different, though, I usually ovulate on the same day or the day after a positive OPK. I also usually keep at it from when af buggers off until a day after I'm confident I ovulated. Every day or every other day, sometimes different, depends on what my bladder is up to

 

[curiousowl]

Question ladies, how long does everyone bd for? I got my pos opk weds lunch and bd weds and Thurs. Is it worth it tonight? So would be over 48 hours after pos opk?

I would probably do it tonight and then call it good.

 

[ladders]

Thanks ladies i think I will as cervix is still open and although not as clear I still have some ewcm

 

[Sander]

Yeah if you still have EWCM I'd go for it until it goes away cause you never know

 

[ladders]

So managed a last bd yesterday and realised we have pretty much done smep!
Relived to be in the tea with you ladies! How is everyone?

 

[curiousowl]

Things are good here! Currently 9dpo (I just checked I thought I was 8, so that's exciting, haha) Nothing much to report. I had some one sided cramping/pinching yesterday but I had that last month too so it means nothing. My TWW is super boring now that I don't temp, progesterone gives me all the symptoms so symptom spotting is useless, and I'm not testing early. Plus DH is leaving tomorrow on a business trip for the week and was gone part of this week so I've been mostly focused on keeping DD alive. Also, her sleep has been terrible since she's been sick so just trying to survive. I do feel like I might be catching her cold so that sucks. I hope not. Not feeling at all positive about this cycle but just gotta wait it out.

 

[Sander]

7dpo over here. Not much to report, feeling same as you curious - not super positive about this cycle. Just have to wait and see

 

[happycupcake]

10 or 11dpo today, had a number of faint ICs and my temp shot back up today but ICs were fainter today so I feel like giving up because this clearly isn't happening, again. Sixth cycle in a row this has happened, I have lost the will to bother so I won't be bothering my GP with this because I don't think I can keep doing this

 

[PG5K]

I'm sorry to hear this month's not going well again cupcake.
Do you need a little break for your own sanity? The amount of people who have gone "sod it for a while!" and ended up pregnant.

TTC is so hard on your body and mind. I've set myself a little holiday goal. If I'm pregnant then we'll book to go away at Christmas and if by Christmas I'm not then we'll go away for oh birthday in May. It's giving me another focus.

We're here if you still want to carry on too

 

[ladders]

Please don't give up cupcake, if things are going the same way it doesn't mean your not meant to have another baby it means you need help. You won't be bothering your gp, you and your family have paid your national insurance all your working life, that help is entitled to you and deserved! There is obviously something not working and that potentially could be simply fixed with professional help/guidance?! You deserve that help so you must 100% get that if needed! We are in this together! we started this journey together and there's no way I'm letting you give up! Your not stopping till that mini cupcake is baking safely!!!!!!! Xxxxxxxx