33yr ttc#2 - buddies needed!!!

[towwife14]

I have literally tried everything - wake up calls, lingerie, taking charge, getting naked, porn - you name it. I literally cannot figure out why he has 0 drive. I've even tried getting him to go to the doctor for this. If it were up to him, we would probably BD once a year , if that.

Once a week was a compromise for me because I begged for more affection for like 6 months.

Before we decided to start trying he always said he looked at sex as a way to reproduce - now that we're trying to reproduce he says it should be an accident. That definitely left me scratching my head this morning as I'm sure you could imagine. He did give in on Thursday which came as a total shock to me, so maybe the idea of not preventing is helping him.

 

[towwife14]

Also, as a side note , I've totally thought about "accidentally" feeding him Viagra. Haha jk.

 

[happycupcake]

This is unusual. And bizarre to say sex is about reproducing but then say it should be by accident if you aren't planning on having much of it, because the chances of an accidental conception are then slim. I hope ttc helps him with this

 

[towwife14]

Thank you!! I totally agree, and I truly don't understand. We both want a family really bad - we did have an "accident" last month when I was on bc and he was pulling out, but unfortunately ended in a very early miscarriage. Im estimating that I was around 4 weeks. We had a very faint bfp a week before af was supposed to start but unfortunately when I tested right before af it was a BFN. That's actually what sparked us wanting to TTC.

I'm honestly praying that trying helps him out with his sex drive.

 

[SadakoS]

I need some sex drive! Since having my lg mine has gone out the window! It just seems like so much effort 😂
Wishing this AF would hurry up and go away, my mood has been really low and I just feel like I'm constantly being a bitch without meaning to.

Glad your mum's surgery went well, Duster.

 

[SadakoS]

Well done on your promotion citrus! And don't feel bad when you accepted you were not pregnant so nothing to feel guilty about!

I found out I was pregnant last time literally 2 weeks BEFORE an in-house promotion interview, and got the job. Told them I was pregnant about 5 weeks later - my interview competition waso NOT happy 😂😂
You've got to look after you first though! Congrats!

 

[towwife14]

Hahah Sadako, I would be more than happy to share some of mine with you if I could. It causes so many problems between me and DH. Im not sure what lg is?

 

[Hopfl4bbynbr4]

I could probably share some of my sex drive lol! Dh usually calls me a nympho (in private and joking of course) because I always always want to dtd and he usually only wants it about once a week now that we're older and not spring chickens anymore lol

So yesterday I was really really excited about testing and really hopeful and convinced that it finally worked this time and I'm going to be pregnant this time. Then, last night I started cramping really bad and it has continued all day today. (when I was awake that is) I've slept most of the day away. Thankfully dh is home to keep the kids occupied because I couldn't keep my eyes open. Anyway the cramping or whatever it is feels like it's on or around my left overy area. So with this and the fact that my boob's don't hurt no where near as much as they always do, this makes me believe I'm totally out to the point where I don't even want to waste any tests and just wait for af. I'm 5dpo-ish today, could be 6dpo and I was going to test on Tuesday at 8dpo possibly 9dpo but now I'm not so sure. I'm feeling bummed about it all because we did finally have good timing.

 

[Hopfl4bbynbr4]

Tow, it also causes problems with me and dh too lol

Lg is little girl (I think)

 

[Sander]

Hi

I was looking for a group to join because my husband and I have been married for just over two years and even though I was hoping to start earlier DH has finally agreed he's ready to start TTC #1.

This is our first time officially trying and I should O on May 28, but we're starting early haha. We're both in our 20's, healthy etc but I understand it can sometimes take a long time to see a BFP. So I figured it would be nice to find some other people in the same boat to chat with while we start our journey!

 

[Hopfl4bbynbr4]

Hi, Sander. Welcome!

 

[citrusfruit]

Welcome sander, we'd be happy to have you. This is a lovely group.

When it comes to sex drive, OHs definitely outweighed mine in the early days but then I think he got so used to me saying no that he gave up, and now neither of us has much. It's sad really, I feel like we are a couple in our 50s rather than our 30s, but I don't think there is much we can do about it.

Oh Kim, try to think positive! Surely there's no way to know that early on as you probably wouldn't have implanted yet??

 

[happycupcake]

Welcome Sander

Kim, I always have cramps after ov as well, it hasn't been a sign of af or pregnancy for me since I experience them with both it would seem. Sometimes what you saw in the way of symptoms can change, every pregnancy can be completely different. Plus everyone keeps thinking they are out and then surprise us with a positive test so fingers crossed this is you, too.

I think my husband's sex drive is more than mine. He's like a tent pole on standby each day lol

 

[annio84]

Welcome Sander!

Ladies you crack me up. My DH and I seem to swap roles with our sex drive. Sometimes he wants loads and then I can't be bothered and then once he gives up I start to want it loads and he can't be bothered.

Jessy, sorry your DH is being less than supportive. My DH doesn't really get it and it takes a lot for me to convince him to behave better. I guess because there aren't many changes to see and they're never going to go through it they don't understand how big the changes are even in the very early days.

Kim, I had cramping at about 7/8dpo this month. It doesn't mean you're out!

We were hoping to get out today but she has a couple of blisters on her hands and feet that just won't scab! Grrr! My sister had her baby on friday and I've had to go see her on my own which I didn't really want to do because we were pregnant together in the first place plus grace us desperate to meet her new cousin. My new niece is gorgeous though she's called Rose Alba and she was pretty small for our family - 8lb13

 

[JessyG]

Aww Rose Alba is such a cute name. Is it her first?

Man thats a shame you had to go on your own and that you were pregnant together, must sting a bit regardless of how happy you are for her.

Anni - have you thought of any names yet? I cant help but write lists and then i annoy myself because i am soo early on and think leave it for a while!

Kim i dont think cramping after ypu ovulate is a bad thing or necessarily means you are out.

Welcome to the new girls. This group is lovely. X

 

[annio84]

It's her second, we were pregnant with our first together as well. I have been thinking about names. I like Elodie for a girl and Tristan for a boy. We really struggled to agree on Grace though. Do you have any you like? How about you Daisies?

 

[JessyG]

Ahhhh we love Elodie too. My top three just now are Elodie, Sadie and Alice. Boys we cant agree in anything except maybe Henry or Arthur.

 

[annio84]

Cute names. I also like Violet and Elijah. I'm leaning towards this baby being a girl (I know it's super early)

 

[JessyG]

Me too. I just cant imagine having a boy mostly because my OHs brother has 2 girls too. We cannot agree on boy names at all. I like Rufus alot but my OH hates it. He likes Williams, Harry, Rory (which i dont hate)

 

[JessyG]

Ps id love either a boy or girl i have no preference i would just be surprised if it was a boy. X