35 and over and ltttc for baby #2 for over 2.5yrs!

And hello period! Its light but here...so now can go ahead and get my MMR done and hsg. Disappointed but not surprised xx Definitely explains this mornings outburst. So that's me done for a couple of months probably, going to ring this afternoon for my blood test results, hopefully they will be in and I'll find out if I need 2 MMRs or just 1. If its 1 then I'll just miss 1 cycle. Time will tell.

Once I get paid at the end of the month I'm going to look at doing Reflexology or Acupuncture, has anyone tried either?

UPDATE: Won't be getting my blood test results for Rubella today, the surgery is closed so will have to wait til tomorrow afternoon. Very handy!!
 
Cookie I meant to reply to you last night. I tried acupuncture for about 4/5 mths Jan - May last year. TBH it didn't do much for me but helped me chill. I stopped when I was told I needed the cyst removed. And it was costly for no clear results.
 
I thought if it helps me relax its worth a shot...but I dunno. My friend has just started Reflexology, she is trying to conceive her first.

Just called the doctors and I have no Rubella immunity, but they've booked me in this afternoon to have the first jab, but its likely that I'll have to have the second in a month. If I had some immunity then they'd just need to top it up, but as I have none it looks like I'll have to have 2. Not ideal really, feel abit upset that I have to stop trying for 2 months, but nothing I can do, I need to have it done...with measles etc becoming more common with parents choosing not to vaccinate, its not worth the risk...if I did get pregnant then it would cause real problems.

Oh well, least I'm getting it done quickly.

Also called to book my hsg, so I hope its not a big wait for the appointment.

x
 
Definitely worth waiting and getting the jabs.
Being really ill and pregnant just isn't fun and very frightening esp when someone is gambling with the risks of what they need to give you to save your life against the risk to your baby. While they would never tell you that filling someone with tamiflu and a bundle of antibiotics has to have been a weigh up of risks. And 2 chest xrays which I did question the safely off to get told "we worry more in 1st and 2nd tri we'll put a lead apron over your bump"
 
Yeh apparently big chance of birth defects if rubella is caught in the first 16 weeks, but still a chance throughout the pregnancy. Next jab is booked for 11th March, and will be able to start trying again after the 8th April, but obviously will depend on where I am in my cycle.
 
Hello all and new ladies. Just dropping by to say hello. Feeling very down about things lately. I'm on day 35 of my cycle. This is the second cycle that was completely screwy. I don't know what's going on. Last month was 37 days. I thought it was a one off. I never have two super long cycles. Maybe once a year I'll get one. I can't think of anything that could be causing it other than still needing to lose a ton of weight. This is the 4 cycle after taking one month of clomid. I wouldn't think that would be causing the craziness. I don't know. I'm so frustrated and distraught. I'm glad I haven't reached the super angry bitter stage because I never wanted to be like that, but after almost 3 years of wanting another, any little thing is causing me to get super emotional and cry. And I feel like I don't have anyone for support. This is an awful feeling.
 
Cookie - I can't believe you have no immunity to Rubella! That is so crazy.... I had no idea you could lose it!! I'm so glad they caught it though and although it sucks that you have to postpone TTC, the time will go by quickly I'm sure and then you can relax and not worry about having to deal with that later on which would be super scary!!

Braven - Lovely to hear from you but I'm sorry you are feeling so down. Even though you are having a break from TTC just now we are always around to talk to so don't feel alone. It's been over 3 years now for us and so I understand the despair you feel... It's strange about your long cycles... I've never taken Clomid so not too sure about all the side effects but was it a monitored cycle? How is your weight loss going? FX after this cycle things will get back to normal. Maybe the exercise and possibly a change in your diet could be causing the longer cycles but honestly I don't know.... Big hugs though! Keep motivated to lose weight and who knows that BFP could take you by surprise!!! :hugs:

Tommy - when is your appt again re. your iron levels? I'm hoping it's soon... Any sign of AF yet? :hugs:

Lanet - how are you doing? I remember you saying you were expecting babes to make their appearance around your daughter's birthday.... any signs of things! I hope you are doing ok, I can only imagine how uncomfortable you must be just now but the end is in sight and before you know it you will have your 2 much wanted special babies :hugs: I'm thinking of you!

A big hello to everyone else!!

Nothing much to report from me.... My appt is scheduled for Monday at the clinic so long lonely drive there and back as DH is away for the week. Everything is terrible timing this month so once we know when they will do the IUI he has to fly over to the city we're doing it in from where he is working.... Not ideal...I almost wish we had held off this month, especially with everything going on with moving, but at the same time I just couldn't handle waiting another month when we have finally got to this point... so we will see what happens. So far I feel ok on the Femara so hoping that continues! Anyway better go but hugs to everyone!! :hugs:
 
Braven sorry your feeling down, the 3 year barrier is a tough one, as Orchard says keep popping in we are hear to listen and support. I wonder if stress is upsetting your cycles. I would have thought loosing weight would help but the stress associated with it could be making them longer.
Are you having a true break or NTNP?

Lanet I'll check your post elsewhere hug hope you are hanging on.

Orchard is your scan on CD10? With me they checked Cd10, 12, 14, before triggering. I'd need to check back but I certainly had more than one scan.

AFM see the blood Doc on the 27th so 2 and bit weeks. AF is doing the round the globe rally before visiting me, I'm on week 7 and don't think I've ovulated. My boobs aren't tender but the last time I ditched the caffine they weren't tender either. I'm sad enough to now hope she stays away a little longer, then as soon as blood doc gives the ok I'm beyond CD40 so no further delay. (Tommyg something is bound to go wrong with that plan lol)
 
Hope Lanet doesn't mind me sharing here her waters have gone, babies are on their way.
 
Oh how exciting for Lanet! Hope the birth goes well!

Tommy we're NTNP. Weight loss isn't going great, trying to ramp it back up but finding it difficult to get motivated. The loss I had didn't do anything for my cycles.

I'm a raging PMS factory right now. Can't stop focusing on the negative. A friend sent me a picture of a friend of hers ultrasounds and it set me off.
 
Braven it will happen for you, and it's happened before so no reason it can't happen again. Friend sending ultrasounds is a bit please engage brain before sendings scan pics.
 
Thanks Whiteorchid...wish I could relax completely but because I have to have my progesterone checked this cycle and next cycle, I need some sort of idea when ovulation is happening and as my cycles vary I'm going to either guess with cm or use opks. I'd much prefer to forget about it completely for 2 cycles, but no can do. Still I'm sure I will be more relaxed as there will be no chance of baby making. Good luck with your appointment, I really hope the IUI works for you. I said to hubby can we try IVF, he didn't even stop to think about it, just said no...not that I expected a yes but still a maybe or a slight hesitation before saying no would have been nice.

Brave - I'm a fellow dieter and have been doing it for over a year now, for a good 6 months I didn't really lose, was my own doing, I just wasn't trying. I've lost 2 and a half stone which is 35 lbs and have another either 14 lbs or 21 lbs to lose...I say either because I'm not sure of where I want to be. I want to lose the 14 lbs by the time I have my next fertility appointment in June so better get my butt in gear. What eating plan are you following? I keep carbs low, too many carbs and I gain. Its hard, but try and think of a goal, something that is happening this year to focus yourself on. As I said mine is my fertilty appointment, but also hope to go on holiday in June. The friend sending an ultrasound is completely insensitive...I dont know if its that people are stupid, or if they honestly think that because you already have a child this kind of thing doesn't hurt you, and that we don't get upset. I definitely think thats part of it.

tommyg - Ah I really do feel your frustration, long cycles really suck!! Last year when I had a 60 odd day cycle I was almost pulling my hair out, just kept waiting and waiting to ovulate and finally did at cd 40 odd. Used to be normal for me to have one period every 3 months, and I wasn't so fussed back then as was way before I was thinking about babies, but now I pretty much go crazy when it happens.

Good luck lanet!

I shall still be skulking around despite not trying, obviously having my blood tests and then hsg when I eventually get the appointment so will let you know how those go. Decided to try a couple of things that are supposed to help PCOS, the first is cinnamon, apparently it can help insulin resistance and weightloss, so going to have a cup every morning (says to put it with hot water and honey) apparently gets your motabalism moving and your digestive system working better. Also brocolli is really good for PCOS, so when I go shopping later I'm buying lots. Will try and have it most days...not the biggest fan of it so probably shouldn't overdo it, otherwise I won't even be able to look at it.

That's it for me, just going to focus on weightloss...just to point out how quickly I gain, I went out Saturday night, weighed myself and had gained 4 lbs! Ridiculous! Then had a meal out Sunday, so by Monday I was 5 lbs heavier. So have been so strict since and I think I'm back to where I started, official weigh in is tonight. Makes me think that going out is not worth, but don't want to be boring and avoid all social situations. Hubby wants to go out to dinner next Friday (our son is going to stay with his grandparents) so thought we'd have a date night but now I'm thinking is it worth it?! Oh well, he wants Thai and it will be a nice meal, so will just have to fix the damage after.

Almost the weekend! Hooray!! x
 
Cookie not heard of the cinnamon one but anything is worth a go. Spearmint is also supposed to help so again can't see how those would do any harm.
It's almost impossible for people to gain a pound of fat over night. That involves eating 3500 calories more than you've burned. Most likely your retaining water. Watch what you are eating during the week and it will drop off might even bee time of month.
That said for a while in my late teens early 20's I'd be lighter on a Friday morning than on a Monday. Basically I was gaining a pound or so at the weekend and dropping it during the week.
 
Might be water, its taken me all week to lose it again, I weighed myself this morning and looks like I'm back where I started last Thursday, I think its the fact that one night out sets me back for the whole week as anything I gain I then spend the rest of the week losing. Still hopefully with a good few weeks under my belt I will see the scales going down and hopefully by the time we start trying again my cycles will be even better and hopefully will have increased my chances of conceiving. Definitely got my diet mojo back, feeling determined. :)
 
I started a diet too a couple of weeks ago!! it's the first time I've ever been on a diet and whilst I don't have loads and loads to lose, my weight has slowly crept up since returning to work after maternity leave. So I'm aiming to lose a stone.

I am trying the 5:2 diet ad this is my second week, which is going a lot easier than my first! So we shall see how it pans out.

I don't know whether it will help us conceive or not (as it male infertility we are dealing with)but it cant hurt. I read a quote (from Claire from Steps!) the other day in the paper. She said she was trying for another baby and her motivation to lose weight was "I want another baby more than I want cake!" which is definitely true and good motivation for me!

Cookie - I think its good for you to have something else to focus on too. I'm sure you'll do great with it - love the sound of your diet mojo!! would say try mot to weigh yourself too often though. Little things really can make the smallest of differences, like Tommy says. Best to consider an overall trend.

Excited to hear news from Lanet!

And I'm still waiting to ov....im CD15 today - normally ov on CD16 so would have expected a positive opk by now but not yet, so for some reason my ov is going to be a bit later than normal this month - keeping with a plan of BDing every other day until the positive appears and then nail it!
 
Bex - not to sound like a complete loser but Claire from Steps is pretty much my idol. She has battled her weight over the years, lost and then gained and when I watched the documentary about her losing weight for her wedding, at the time I was doing the same and could so relate to her. Now I look at her and she's lost the weight and kept it off and I think if she can do it I can too. Years ago she was trying for another baby, so she's obviously struggling just like we are...feel like writing her a fan letter!!! lol I do weigh myself too much, I've become obsessed, I took the battery out of my scales and threw it in the bin so that I'd stop just to find another battery in the kitchen drawer and put it in the scales. I think I'm going to have to throw this one aswell as I have no self control. I have 1 official weigh in per week at Slimming World, I shouldn't be using my own scales. I tried he 5:2 diet but couldn't stick to it, but I've done a few strict diets (Cambridge twice and Slim and Save one - all of which allow you to have around 500/600 kcals) and I just can't do anything strict anymore, not even just 2 days a week. Its like torture!!!

Best of luck for this cycle Bex, hope you get your positive opk very soon. Opks are my nemesis...whether I get a positive is very hit and miss, used to get positives no problem, but sometimes don't and I'll be testing 2/3 times a day. Blood test confirmed ovulation though so its weird.

Oh and I noticed we have been trying for number 2 for around the same amount of time. xx
 
Hello everyone! How are you all today?

Cookie - can I ask why DH is so against any treatment? I remember a year or so ago DH wasn't really on board with fertility treatment either but suddenly one day he was ok with it... Probably cause the issue is with him. Maybe he'll come round to it if he has more info on it.... That's what I found with DH... once we actually spoke about it a bit more and I told him more about it he wasn't so scared I think. Anyway good luck with that and good luck with the weight loss. I still have 10lbs to lose that I haven't been able to since I had DS no matter what I do... It's never easy but it's great that you are so motivated and have already lost so much!! Good luck with the diet! If you aren't a huge fan of Broccoli try it in soup - I love Broccoli Soup and you can add lots of things to it :) And as for the weight gain put your scales away if it's that hard for you to resist and stick to your weekly weigh in's at Slimming World :)
PS LOL about Claire from Steps - you should write to her, you might even get a reply!! ;)

Braven - I agree with Cookie about the scan pic.... Honestly I just think unless you have experienced it you just do not get it. My sis is a bit like that.... She doesn't mean to upset anyone or be insensitive but she just doesn't get it and she doesn't understand how crushing it is to hear time and time again about who is now pregnant.... esp. for my SIL who has no children due to infertility.

Bex - if you can keep :sex: up for every 2 days then you should have things covered!! I hope you O soon - good luck!!!

A big hello to everyone else! Waiting patiently to hear from Lanet - I hope all is ok and she is just cherishing her time with her 2 babies :)

AFM: So far ok on the Femara although had a few hot flashes/flushes toady while out and about. Weirdly though I have some pain in my lower left side... I hope all is ok cause it's definitely way too early to be ovulating as only on Day 6!
 
Honestly, the friend who sent it to me went through secondary infertility too. She tried for her second for 2 years and went through treatments. Now she has 4 total children. I can't be angry at her though because she's going through a lot. She has a 2 month old in the nicu who is going to be there for quite some time longer. She doesn't need to be worrying about what might or might not offend me. I just have to deal with it and move on I guess.
 
B raven did I read that right, your friend who sent a scan pic has a 2 mth old in intensive care??? Was she baby dancing the second it was out? OMG I'd have thought that they would have had better things to worry about. Rant none of us know how we'd react in that situation.

Orchard it is maybe your ovaries responding to the femara. Fingers crossed for you.

Lanet hope all is okay, thinking about you hugs.

Hugs to everyone else.
 

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