36 almost 37 ttc baby number 2 with PCOS - Going back in time

[Sianylw]

Hi all,

I’m 36 nearly 37. Was diagnosed with PCOS around 11 years ago. I was on this site around 10 years ago now when I experienced the same struggles to have my son who is now an amazing 9 year old little man.

I’ve been ttc with a new partner whom is 13 years younger than me. We have been trying for over a year and I’ve been referred to see the obgyn. Drs were meant to refer me 3 months ago and didn’t do it! I’m so concerned that time is not on my side anymore plus the pcos and not ovulating. It just takes me back to the endless stresses of infertility and how that affects me emotionally again. My partner has no children as of yet, but is desperate to have one. I’d always said that as long as I had one I would be happy and then bam life changes! It’s just disheartening to be back in the place that nearly tore me apart all those years ago. Think I just needed the vent with those who understand. Good luck everyone, wishing you all the best on your journeys xx

 

[Bevziibubble]

Hi and welcome back

Good luck

 

[Sianylw]

Thank you

 

[joannejames]

Hey,
I’m in the same boat so feel your pain!

I was with my ex partner for 7 years and we started trying for a baby. Unfortunately I suffered 3 early miscarriages with him plus a chemical.
We broke up and I resigned myself to the fact I would probably not have children as time was getting on etc, however fast forward 4 years and I met my new partner.
He already has an 8 year old son who is lovely and seeing him be such a great dad got the ovaries twitching, thus here I am again

I’m also 36, 37 in December and so don’t want to wait to conceive but I promised myself i would be more relaxed and what will be will be blah blah.. yeah right! Here I am obsessing over every twinge in the tww and driving myself crazy, it’s only really been 3 cycles I’m currently 12 dpo.

I’m sure it will happen for you it took me and my ex over a year to conceive before and then there it is when you least expect it, so keep trying!

 

[Sianylw]

Hey,
I’m in the same boat so feel your pain!

I was with my ex partner for 7 years and we started trying for a baby. Unfortunately I suffered 3 early miscarriages with him plus a chemical.
We broke up and I resigned myself to the fact I would probably not have children as time was getting on etc, however fast forward 4 years and I met my new partner.
He already has an 8 year old son who is lovely and seeing him be such a great dad got the ovaries twitching, thus here I am again

I’m also 36, 37 in December and so don’t want to wait to conceive but I promised myself i would be more relaxed and what will be will be blah blah.. yeah right! Here I am obsessing over every twinge in the tww and driving myself crazy, it’s only really been 3 cycles I’m currently 12 dpo.

I’m sure it will happen for you it took me and my ex over a year to conceive before and then there it is when you least expect it, so keep trying!

Hi Joanne,

Thanks for your message...really hope your TWW has a positive outcome. Life certainly throws some curve balls along the way doesn't it!
Sorry for your losses. Wishing you lots of baby dust on your journey xx

 

[Rebaby]

Welcome back!

I'm back after a loooong break from B&B too and similar age - I'll be 36 later this year.

I have an almost 9 year old and almost 11 year old and I'm ttc with a new partner. I have pcos too although I've never struggled to conceive but my problem is *staying* pregnant - I've had one miscarriage, two mmc's and a molar pregnancy. My most recent loss was in Feb with my new partner and it really knocked me for six, but we're about to start ttc again now. He's 9 years older than me so I know time isn't on our side but I am trying to stay optimistic about our chances, although the thought of another miscarriage terrifies me.

Anyway, just wanted to say that I totally get where you're coming from when you say you never expected to be back in this position again. My ex had a vasectomy a few years back so I really thought my baby days were well and truly over!

So you're definitely not alone

 

[Bevziibubble]

Welcome back and good luck

 

[Sianylw]

Welcome back!

I'm back after a loooong break from B&B too and similar age - I'll be 36 later this year.

I have an almost 9 year old and almost 11 year old and I'm ttc with a new partner. I have pcos too although I've never struggled to conceive but my problem is *staying* pregnant - I've had one miscarriage, two mmc's and a molar pregnancy. My most recent loss was in Feb with my new partner and it really knocked me for six, but we're about to start ttc again now. He's 9 years older than me so I know time isn't on our side but I am trying to stay optimistic about our chances, although the thought of another miscarriage terrifies me.

Anyway, just wanted to say that I totally get where you're coming from when you say you never expected to be back in this position again. My ex had a vasectomy a few years back so I really thought my baby days were well and truly over!

So you're definitely not alone

Thank you! Life does like to throw a number of curveballs doesn’t it! My new partner of almost 2 years is 13 years younger than I am but is desperate for a family of his own. I’ve battled a bit with it as I would like more children but after the struggles with having my first I think I’d sort of resigned myself to the fact that I wouldn’t put myself through the heartache of trying again!

fast forward almost 10 years and I’m back here again but this time age doesn’t really seem to be on my side. I really do think my issues are with ovulation. I’ve lost two stone over the last 6 months hoping it would help. My periods have been pretty regular averaging at about 31-33 days. Some months are really heavy others not so much! Been referred back to a fertility specialist but they messed up my referral and didn’t send it so I was waiting for 3 months thinking I hadn’t heard anything due to COVID but wasn’t even on the list!
I’ve taken it into my own hands again as I did many years ago and tried taking a soy iso cycle this month (apparently nature’s alternative to clomid) I did this on the cycle I caught with my first child so I’m hoping it may help induce ovulation! Currently on CD-8 and still bleeding so hoping to start O-testing early next week!

Sorry to hear about your losses hun and really hope we both get some positive news before the nightmare of 2020 is over! Xx

 

[Rebaby]

Thank you! Life does like to throw a number of curveballs doesn’t it! My new partner of almost 2 years is 13 years younger than I am but is desperate for a family of his own. I’ve battled a bit with it as I would like more children but after the struggles with having my first I think I’d sort of resigned myself to the fact that I wouldn’t put myself through the heartache of trying again!

fast forward almost 10 years and I’m back here again but this time age doesn’t really seem to be on my side. I really do think my issues are with ovulation. I’ve lost two stone over the last 6 months hoping it would help. My periods have been pretty regular averaging at about 31-33 days. Some months are really heavy others not so much! Been referred back to a fertility specialist but they messed up my referral and didn’t send it so I was waiting for 3 months thinking I hadn’t heard anything due to COVID but wasn’t even on the list!
I’ve taken it into my own hands again as I did many years ago and tried taking a soy iso cycle this month (apparently nature’s alternative to clomid) I did this on the cycle I caught with my first child so I’m hoping it may help induce ovulation! Currently on CD-8 and still bleeding so hoping to start O-testing early next week!

Sorry to hear about your losses hun and really hope we both get some positive news before the nightmare of 2020 is over! Xx

Thank you. I hope the soy iso helps- I'll keep everything crossed for you!

 

[nmv]

Hey ladies! Have you tried the Keto diet???

I have PCOS too, and just turned 37 a couple weeks ago. I've been using the Keto diet to regulate my hormones, and it hasdefinitely worked!! My cycles are finally regular, after struggling with annovulation and crazy long cycles since I was a teen.

Brief back story...
At 32, I had tracked my basal temp, cm, ovulation tests, cervix position, and every other fertility sign you could imagine. I tried, herbs, teas, acupuncture, fertility massage, castor oil abdominal wraps, guaifenesin, evening primrose oil... then Clomid... just everything!
No baby...

The doctors FINALLY tested me for PCOS (something I had actually asked several different doctors to do, but they just wouldn't for some reason) and they gave me Metformin. The second month I was on it, I got pregnant with my DD!

A diabetic drug is what did the trick! So us PCOS ladies have bodies that are insulin resistant. We react to sugary and high carb diets with wonky hormone levels (and all the crap that comes with it).

After I had DD, I decided to see how Keto affected my hormones, so I had them checked after 3 months of eating this way. To my complete shock, they we're 100% normal... as if PCOS never happened!

TRY IT!!!
It would definitely give you an edge! I hope you guys get your BFPs very soon!

 

[caz & bob]

fx

 

[Sianylw]

Well this cycle is turning out to be mare! 2.5 weeks of heavy bleeding pain and clots tmi sorry!

ended up with a bartholins cyst which become really swollen! Pain!!! Ended up on a load of antibiotics and queried sending me to hospital to get it drained surgically but luckily it burst! Meds to stop the bleeding as started feeling really unwell.... loads of non fertile days on digital opk!!! But today I got a flashing smiley on the clear blue digi.... hoping that it’s not a fluke! I’m on CD 22 now! So may ovulate really late.

anyone use the digi tests?? How long do you normally get smiley faces for before a peak! Used to using the cheapies so not used the digis before??
Wish this referral would hurry up xxx

 

[Bevziibubble]

I'm so sorry it is so rough on you

 

[Sianylw]

Thank you xx

 

[Sianylw]

2 days of smiley face opks and darker lines on cheapies!! Really hoping my body is doing something!!

 

[Bevziibubble]

Fingers crossed!

 

[Sianylw]

getting a little frustrated... 3 days of flashing smilies. Lines were getting darker on cheapie opks now gone lighter again?
Digi still flashing smiley. On CD 21 /22 now which would be normal for me to ovulate late if at all with PCOS I’m just worried I’m having a surge that won’t amount to anything again! Close to losing the will. How do others get on with digis compared to cheapies? Thanks

 

[nmv]

Interesting! Hopefully this strong surge will knock a good egg outta there!

I O'd on CD24 when I got pregnant with my daughter! Girl, give up sugar immediately! I know I sound repetitive, but seriously! It'll give you the absolute best chance of ovulating and implanting, but if it doesn't work out this cycle, it REALLY boosts your chances for your next cycle!

I've been limiting carbs for a little over 4 months, and I've had 4 perfectly normal cycles, ranging from 29-32 days!

 

[Kiwiberry]

@Sianylw Following!!
@nmv Great idea on the sugar, I'm actually going to try this after I'm done with AF. Partly because I know that this actually works. When I lost weight before I had my son and was really thin, my cycles went to a perfect 28 days. AF also was a lot lighter. I'm excited to get back there again.

 

[Sianylw]

day 4 of flashing smileys and negative Cheapie opks