39 and trying to conceive:-(

[Bonnie1990]

Blue!
That must be a sight!

 

[PositiveUs]

Im on cycle 2 day 17. We did our second IUI on Mothers day so im hoping its a good sign. I have decided that TTC must be more fun for people that arent 39 and spending large amounts monthly to get pregnant. Its stressful but I have a wonderful partner and that is the biggest comfort.

So did you test? Or did you get AF??

 

[JandK]

Im on cycle 2 day 17. We did our second IUI on Mothers day so im hoping its a good sign. I have decided that TTC must be more fun for people that arent 39 and spending large amounts monthly to get pregnant. Its stressful but I have a wonderful partner and that is the biggest comfort.

So did you test? Or did you get AF??

Im waiting to test. AF isnt due till Tuesday. Still have 7 # days. Most likely testing on Monday. TTC#1. Good luck to everyone

 

[JandK]

Did anyone get a BFP this month

 

[PositiveUs]

So there are 2 good sized follicles and there is also one that is a bit oversized and one that is a bit undersized (total of 4). The undersized could grow to be the right size or not. The oversized one could be too big or not. No one can say for sure what will actually happen on retrieval day.
The problem is with my fiance now.
He doesn't want to fly to do the retrieval.
We were hoping to cryopreserve his stuff, but he put it off and put it off and now there is no time, I actually need him to be there with me to give the sample.
He says its short notice and this is a busy time for him.
The fact is, it's over a weekend and he won't miss work, so I see it as a good thing.
I think he is just scared.
He would have to fly Sunday and back Monday, so a lot of airports to deal with in a short period of time over what is supposed to be a holiday weekend.
He wants me to skip this cycle and start again in August.
He knew this could come up at any time and yet he acts suprised.
Idk what to do.

 

[PositiveUs]

He wants us to try and BD this cycle and put off the next cycle until his spermies are at the cryopreservation place so he doesn't have to fly with me, and there's no way to convert this to an iui. Also he thinks that maybe I will get more follicles with another protocol next time. They said that I should only expect 2 each cycle of mini ivf though (which is discouraging enough).
He would only have to stay 1 night and I would stay alone the other 2 nights. Maybe he's just stalling. He said he would ttc with me but isn't actually thrilled about the prospect of this becoming real. It's crazy he's so scared when there's only a 5% chance this can work. Or maybe, because its only a 5% chance, he doesn't want to waste his time. Idk.

 

[trying4four]

PositiveUS, I'd try to have a talk and see if he is just scared or if perhaps, he doesn't want to TTC as much as he's letting on. I find it hard to believe that he'd let you go through all of this just to have you cancel because he says he's busy. There has to be a reason. I hope things go well for you.

 

[PositiveUs]

Over a month ago I took him to my counselor with me (normally I see her by myself) just so that we could talk this out and he said he agrees to ttc even though he is afraid and even though he doesn't have the burning desire to be a dad. I purposely had the three of us meet so that we could really hash out this whole thing and he said "yes" and that he knows what he's getting himself into.
Since then, he admits to making this as hard as possible for me because he is afraid, hence him not getting the labwork in time for cryopreservation, and now in the 11th hour, he is caving in.
He may agree to go with me but he won't be happy about it and then I will be left to feel like I'm a real bother especially if the flight is delayed or something goes wrong.
I didn't want him to go kicking and screaming to the RE.
But you can't always get what you want.
Obviously.

 

[Bonnie1990]

What a dilemma! Why would he let you go through all you are going through and then back out? I hope he comes around for you.

 

[trying4four]

Tell him to get his butt on the plane!

 

[PositiveUs]

This is crazy.
I swear if I could just find a close guy friend that would fly with me or even meet me at the clinic Monday, I will just use their sperm!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
God!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Bonnie1990]

Can you get a donor through the clinic?

 

[PositiveUs]

Seriously I cannot do that! This is nuts. He has to be the father!
Although I could bluff and tell him that's an option and see what he does.
Maybe if he feels threatened, he will step up.

 

[Bonnie1990]

I don't know. I only mentioned it because you mention a friend. Might push in the wrong direction or the right one.

 

[PositiveUs]

I predict he's going to get super drunk tonight and tell me it's ok and not to worry, that he'll go.
Thank you soooooooooooooooooooooooooo much for all your support ladies.
I can't believe how good my sense of humor is through all of this.

 

[Bonnie1990]

Me either. I'd be flipping out right now in your shoes!

 

[PositiveUs]

It's ok.
As my fiance said in the past, it will all work out.
He will probably drink himself into oblivion tonight and maybe be in better spirits tomorrow.
Men are such scardie cats.
I can't believe it.
I've known him since we were teenagers for God's sake.

 

[PositiveUs]

Well. He agreed.
They got 3 eggs retrieved. They said they are very good size.
Today they do ICSI and tomorrow they call to tell me if any of them fertilized.
I hope they fertilize.
He flew home for work and I am alone in hotel.

 

[PositiveUs]

Retrieval is done.
They got 3 good sized eggs.
ICSI today and tomorrow we see if they fertilized.

 

[Bonnie1990]

ooh three eggies thats wonderful! and of course he came around!

please update asap on status of eggies! fx'd they are a good bunch!

how many will you transfer if they are all good?