39 and trying to conceive:-(

[jennleigh]

I am 39 and have been trying to conceive for the past year and 7 months. I recently just got into a specialist and so far everything looks "normal". I am going back this week to start clomid.
I have noticed the last few days I have been having brown discharge and it's a week and a half before my next period. Also, I woke up out of a sleep last night with horrible cramps and indigestion. Is this something I should be worried about? Getting frustrated!

 

[Blythe]

Hi I'm 39 too and have been trying for well over a year now.....I'm 40 soon so it would have been lovely to get a positive before then. We will see. I have only had bloods done....what other tests did they do for you? Perhaps it's implantation bleeding?

 

[jennleigh]

We did blood work and the dye test to make sure nothing is blocking my tubes and so far everything is good. My husband has also been checked and it's good on his end too. It seems like in the last 3 months EVERYONE has become pregnant in my circle...makes it a bit more frustrating. It's funny how we spend all these years trying not to get pregnant and now when we want to its not "easy"
I've had this spotting before but it was always heavier and at that time my doctor said it might be a "wonky" egg. This time it's lighter but not getting my hopes up.

 

[gretarose]

Hi ladies,
I'm 38 in September and been trying for over a year...had my blood test done and everything ok. It's proving difficult to get my husband to go for his tests as its a bad time for him with losing his job/having little money/esteem low etc... so I'm trying to be patient but its hard. Its lovely to chat and read your stories.
All the best with everything x

 

[Blythe]

Yes you are right....all those years being careful not to get pregnant and now....NOTHING! Every day there seems to be a new pregnancy announcement....I might be exaggerating a bit but does feel like that sometimes....at least everything has checked as normal and now it's just a case of luck and timing....it is tiring though and the 2ww month after month is beginning to take its toll. I cannot seem to stop obsessing!

 

[drsquid]

i just turned 39. this is cycle 4 of trying. im single so.. it is all iui. first cycle i did unmedicated, 2nd and 3rd with femara (like clomid) this cycle i got out the big guns and im using injectible meds. fingers crossed for all of us.. and yeah it is frustrating, for some reason fb has started showing me when friends comment on new babies of their friends.. ie peoplei dont even know

 

[jennleigh]

I know what it feels like. We have had 5 close friends tell us they are expecting in the last 3 months. We go tomorrow for our "next step" which I think is clomid. We'll see how that goes. It is so frustrating when you think you're doing everything right and still nothing. I am still spotting which I don't find incouraging either. Trying not to obess about it and people telling you to doesn't help either. I think that's the difference between woman and men is that we think about it constantly because it's us that are dealing with it daily and people as us about it not them.
Greta, my husband wasn't too keen on it either but the doctor said before they do anything invasive they make sure they check him first too. The first time he did it (yes, he has to do it twice...lol) it came back slightly low so he went back 3 months later and it was completely normal.
Hopefully one or all of us will have good news soon

 

[gettinginfo]

Hi Ladies,

I am 38, will be 39 in May. We tried for about 5 or 6 months before I went to see an RE. He did a transvaginal ultrasound and saw that I had fibroids...the bad kind(submucosal). I have to say that I was really in shock but here I am after having a myomectomy(surgery to remove fibroids) in January and starting my first TTC since the surgery. I think you are all wise to get checked out soon and do all that you can to increase your odds. I wish you all much luck!

BTW, I know what you mean by EVERYONE announcing they are pregnant. I have about 5 close friends who have either just recently delivered or recently announced they are pregnant. I long for the day I get to do that!!

 

[jennleigh]

So today we went to the specialist and she said evrything still looked " fine" but she said I'm running out of time and it wasnt on my side. I'm going to try clomid for the next few months and then last option is ivf. I'm hoping we do it naturally and not pay 10,000 but will do if it means having a baby. Scary thing is nothing is 100%. Left appt feeling not so optimistic.

 

[AltaMom]

Hi Ladies. I'm 39, TTC#2. This is cycle # 16 for us, and my last cycle to concevie and deliver before I turn 40. Our DS was conceived first try, but I had Chorioamnionitis (infection of the placenta) when he was born. My blood work is all normal, but a HSG shows that I only have my right tube working, and it has a 6 cm cyst on it. We are starting another round of clommid, and have enough for 3 months. If I don't get a BFP I think IVF is our next step. We'll see how it all goes .. ugh!

 

[drsquid]

welli just discovered at my iui yesterday that the freaking sperm was no good. nice.. sigh. kept asking the doc from the first round for a count and he kept saying it isnt needed because the sperm banks knew what they are doing etc.. progression of 1.. ie the sperm just sit there and wiggle. 10,000 spent to find out that a 150 test the first round could have found i needed a dif donor. so so pissed. the sperm bank is being good about it but the doc better give me a few free rounds. im still lkinda hopeful for this round because i had a zillion ripe eggs. fingers crossed

 

[trying4four]

Hi Ladies
I'm 39 as well, TTC #4.
Currently on cycle #3 and will be testing around the 16th-20th depending on how long I can hold out for.
to everyone!!

 

[trying4four]

welli just discovered at my iui yesterday that the freaking sperm was no good. nice.. sigh. kept asking the doc from the first round for a count and he kept saying it isnt needed because the sperm banks knew what they are doing etc.. progression of 1.. ie the sperm just sit there and wiggle. 10,000 spent to find out that a 150 test the first round could have found i needed a dif donor. so so pissed. the sperm bank is being good about it but the doc better give me a few free rounds. im still lkinda hopeful for this round because i had a zillion ripe eggs. fingers crossed

Oh my goodness!! So sorry that happened!
FX'd for you!!

 

[Casper72]

Hi everyone. I'm 39 and confirmed today that 2nd IUI failed. I am healthy, husband's numbers are great after vas reversal. There's no reason, after 9 months of trying, and two IUIs why I am not pregnant yet. I am so sad today I am barely holding it together here at work. I want to go home and cry.

I totally understand what all of you are going through. It is SO HARD!

 

[jennleigh]

I know. I started my period today. I will start clomid tomorrow. I told my husband that I am going to have to try and not stress about this and other things as I think it does effect your body significantly.
I'M sorry that it didn't work for you. It's like every month gets harder and harder. I feel like a ticking time bomb.

Let's pray this is our month

 

[SabrinaKat]

please don't give up hope, youngsters -- had an mc at 41 and the cycle we were going to try IVF, at age 43, got pregnant naturally and LO was born in early February (see picture) and is very healthy, happy and just perfect -- I'd recommend all the tests (for both) just to make sure that everything is ok -- such as thyroid, iron levels, etc... and having a history of PCOS and erratic cycles, NEVER thought I'd have children --

best wishes

 

[jennleigh]

Thanks that does make me hopeful. I have been tested and everything is good. I've also done a dye test and had a couple fibroids but nothing, she said, to be concerned about. My husband has been tested and he's good too. I guess it's just w waiting game. We said we would try clomid for the next 4 to 6 months and then do IVF after that. I'm scared I might miss my window.
Your baby is beautiful and congrats

 

[Taurus8484]

Reading everyone's comments on here makes me feel like Im not alone. Been trying to get pregnant for the last 7 months, Im 38, my husband is 37. Had all the blood tests and my husbands sperm count was good, just nothing happening. And yes, all my friends and family keep announcing they are pregnant, and I am really happy for them, but Im also so very very jealous. Feels good to be able to actually say it and know that people on here understand what I mean.

 

[jennleigh]

You're not alone. I try to keep a brave face but I'm losing it slowly. Just wish something good would come our way.

 

[Taurus8484]

Hope no one gets offended by this question, but I have no CM. None at all!!!! I dont know if it is because of my age or not, so curious as to whether anyone else 38+ has this problem or if its me and thats a contributing reason for no BFP????