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[KaylaCakes]

Welcome Kayla! Yes, many of us if not most of us are in that catagory. And I know that there are also many that are using a few different forms of help with TTC. Please join us!

Thanks! I just don't want to feel so alone... I already feel like a freak of nature with the doctor being so negatibve about ttc and being MO. Its almost like people think we "have no right", but a crackhead living on Gov. Asst. does? crazy...

 

[EmmyReece]

Thanks! I just don't want to feel so alone... I already feel like a freak of nature with the doctor being so negatibve about ttc and being MO. Its almost like people think we "have no right", but a crackhead living on Gov. Asst. does? crazy...

I'm classed as morbidly obese too

Thankfully my dr is brilliant and is putting us forward for any help that we might need.

Please don't feel like a freak of nature, just because we're bigger, doesn't mean we're any less entitled to want a family and babies of our own

 

[andella95]

anyone on this thread considered 'obese' or 'morbidly obese'? such ugly words... and ttc? using clomid? IUI? etc?

I conceived my son naturally, first month we tried at age 30, weighing 250 lbs - I'm 5'7", so that's very close to the "morbid" category. I got pregnant a second time first month trying as well in January 2009, but had a mmc at nearly 13 weeks in March 2009. Haven't been able to conceive since then, and I am afraid to go to a doc about it since my weight is so high. I definitely feel some shame, and very alone....

Unfortunately, the media likes to blow statistics out of proportion, and it seems that even many doctors rely on media reports instead of common sense. I am one class away from getting my Bachelor of Science in Health Education, and one thing I've learned through epidemiology courses is to really read studies that use statistics carefully. The vast majority of even morbidly obese women won't have problems TTC and the chances of complications during pregnancy aren't that much higher than for any other women.

I see a lot of "normal" weight women freak out when diagnosed with gestational diabetes or pre-eclampsia or whatever and say, "But I'm not fat!" without realizing that being fat isn't the cause of every single disease and/or pregnancy complication in the news, and that not every fat person has a lot of medical issues. (I've been overweight my whole life, have great blood glucose & insulin response, bp was 112/78 yesterday, and my cholesterol is good as well...)

.....as for my medical situation right now...I'm feeling a lot better. I honestly think it's my gallbladder but the doctor thinks it's an ovarian cyst, so I have an ultrasound today at 2:15 - I'm planning to tell the US tech about my problems TTC and hopefully they'll provide information regarding if my problem could be massive fibroids or something. I know that they technically can cause infertility, and I know I have them, but most of them aren't supposed to be a problem, so we'll see.

Oh, and the doctor wanted a clean catch for a urine sample and they wanted to cath me, and they couldn't find the right hole. OMG I was so embarrassed. I just kept thinking that there was too much fat to find my urethra. Finally found it, after painfully poking other sensitive areas, lol.

 

[KaylaCakes]

anyone on this thread considered 'obese' or 'morbidly obese'? such ugly words... and ttc? using clomid? IUI? etc?

I conceived my son naturally, first month we tried at age 30, weighing 250 lbs - I'm 5'7", so that's very close to the "morbid" category. I got pregnant a second time first month trying as well in January 2009, but had a mmc at nearly 13 weeks in March 2009. Haven't been able to conceive since then, and I am afraid to go to a doc about it since my weight is so high. I definitely feel some shame, and very alone....

Unfortunately, the media likes to blow statistics out of proportion, and it seems that even many doctors rely on media reports instead of common sense. I am one class away from getting my Bachelor of Science in Health Education, and one thing I've learned through epidemiology courses is to really read studies that use statistics carefully. The vast majority of even morbidly obese women won't have problems TTC and the chances of complications during pregnancy aren't that much higher than for any other women.

I see a lot of "normal" weight women freak out when diagnosed with gestational diabetes or pre-eclampsia or whatever and say, "But I'm not fat!" without realizing that being fat isn't the cause of every single disease and/or pregnancy complication in the news, and that not every fat person has a lot of medical issues. (I've been overweight my whole life, have great blood glucose & insulin response, bp was 112/78 yesterday, and my cholesterol is good as well...)

.....as for my medical situation right now...I'm feeling a lot better. I honestly think it's my gallbladder but the doctor thinks it's an ovarian cyst, so I have an ultrasound today at 2:15 - I'm planning to tell the US tech about my problems TTC and hopefully they'll provide information regarding if my problem could be massive fibroids or something. I know that they technically can cause infertility, and I know I have them, but most of them aren't supposed to be a problem, so we'll see.

Oh, and the doctor wanted a clean catch for a urine sample and they wanted to cath me, and they couldn't find the right hole. OMG I was so embarrassed. I just kept thinking that there was too much fat to find my urethra. Finally found it, after painfully poking other sensitive areas, lol.

PREACH it SISTER! lol I loved this... I wish some news story would use this...

 

[Mustang_Love]

anyone on this thread considered 'obese' or 'morbidly obese'? such ugly words... and ttc? using clomid? IUI? etc?

I conceived my son naturally, first month we tried at age 30, weighing 250 lbs - I'm 5'7", so that's very close to the "morbid" category. I got pregnant a second time first month trying as well in January 2009, but had a mmc at nearly 13 weeks in March 2009. Haven't been able to conceive since then, and I am afraid to go to a doc about it since my weight is so high. I definitely feel some shame, and very alone....

Unfortunately, the media likes to blow statistics out of proportion, and it seems that even many doctors rely on media reports instead of common sense. I am one class away from getting my Bachelor of Science in Health Education, and one thing I've learned through epidemiology courses is to really read studies that use statistics carefully. The vast majority of even morbidly obese women won't have problems TTC and the chances of complications during pregnancy aren't that much higher than for any other women.

I see a lot of "normal" weight women freak out when diagnosed with gestational diabetes or pre-eclampsia or whatever and say, "But I'm not fat!" without realizing that being fat isn't the cause of every single disease and/or pregnancy complication in the news, and that not every fat person has a lot of medical issues. (I've been overweight my whole life, have great blood glucose & insulin response, bp was 112/78 yesterday, and my cholesterol is good as well...)

.....as for my medical situation right now...I'm feeling a lot better. I honestly think it's my gallbladder but the doctor thinks it's an ovarian cyst, so I have an ultrasound today at 2:15 - I'm planning to tell the US tech about my problems TTC and hopefully they'll provide information regarding if my problem could be massive fibroids or something. I know that they technically can cause infertility, and I know I have them, but most of them aren't supposed to be a problem, so we'll see.

Oh, and the doctor wanted a clean catch for a urine sample and they wanted to cath me, and they couldn't find the right hole. OMG I was so embarrassed. I just kept thinking that there was too much fat to find my urethra. Finally found it, after painfully poking other sensitive areas, lol.

Well said! Hope you get some answers today...

 

[sma1588]

hey ladies, how is every1 today?
yesterday was a bad day for me i was crying pretty much all day because of my weight. i only have a few things that fit me now and dont want to buy more because i dont plan on staying this size or weight(if i get pregnant then i will buy maternity clothes)...

how did u all deal with seeing ure numbers going up either on the scale or in pant sizes? its soooo hard on me as ive never been this much or big of pants....honestly if it wasnt for the problems that i have and getting a hystorectomy in a few years i wouldnt be ttc untill i was a smaller normal size

 

[4magpies]

Hey girls.

I'm trying to get my BMI to under 30.

After my xmas eating I have 21lbs to lose. Eeek.

This is all just incase they decide to go down the IVF route.

I think its slightly unfair that if my BMI is 30.1 they wont treat me but if it is 29.9 they will. Daft.

Hope your all good.

I am just waiting for my FS appointment to land on my door mat.

xxx

 

[StarlitHome]

I am starting the job search today... dH and I decided that I would get a part-time job for now.
I've applied online to 3 places as of now. Need to get paper and ink to print applications and resumes for a few other places...

I had to go shopping for non-t-shirt tops last night and I hated every second of it... Everything was too short or weirdly cut.

In TTC news I might test on Friday. Maybe. Probably not.

 

[andella95]

I am starting the job search today... dH and I decided that I would get a part-time job for now.
I've applied online to 3 places as of now. Need to get paper and ink to print applications and resumes for a few other places...

I had to go shopping for non-t-shirt tops last night and I hated every second of it... Everything was too short or weirdly cut.

In TTC news I might test on Friday. Maybe. Probably not.

All non-t-shirt tops seem to be way too low cut and my boobs hang out...or my gut does. Grr...

Been there!

Good luck with the job hunt as well as when you test.

 

[andella95]

Okay...so I got the results back from my ultrasound for pelvic pain.

They told me that I have multiple small fibroids on my uterus, multiple complex and functional cysts on my right ovary, and fluid in the cul de sac. They're trying to tell me that I had a cyst burst and that is what is causing the fluid and that was the source of my pain.

I'm just so scared and sad right now. Scared, because I don't think I believe their diagnosis and I think it might be something more. My insurance runs out tomorrow (because we're switching from DH's to mine to save money - and now we can't get back on his and mine won't start for another month or two). I still feel nauseated most of the time.

I just feel so broken. The truth is that I KNOW the reason I have been TTC for two years isn't because of my weight and that losing weight won't solve a thing. All I want to do is cry right now. I'm turning 34 in January, and I'd be at least 35 before I could lose enough weight to have any kind of help, I think.

I don't know what to do or where to turn right now. I can't stop crying!!!!

 

[StarlitHome]

I am starting the job search today... dH and I decided that I would get a part-time job for now.
I've applied online to 3 places as of now. Need to get paper and ink to print applications and resumes for a few other places...

I had to go shopping for non-t-shirt tops last night and I hated every second of it... Everything was too short or weirdly cut.

In TTC news I might test on Friday. Maybe. Probably not.

All non-t-shirt tops seem to be way too low cut and my boobs hang out...or my gut does. Grr...

Been there!

Good luck with the job hunt as well as when you test.

Yeah - I'm hoping to get hired somewhere where I am allowed to wear t-shirts! I have so many and most of them are super-nice fabric and pretty...

 

[andella95]

I am starting the job search today... dH and I decided that I would get a part-time job for now.
I've applied online to 3 places as of now. Need to get paper and ink to print applications and resumes for a few other places...

I had to go shopping for non-t-shirt tops last night and I hated every second of it... Everything was too short or weirdly cut.

In TTC news I might test on Friday. Maybe. Probably not.

All non-t-shirt tops seem to be way too low cut and my boobs hang out...or my gut does. Grr...

Been there!

Good luck with the job hunt as well as when you test.

Yeah - I'm hoping to get hired somewhere where I am allowed to wear t-shirts! I have so many and most of them are super-nice fabric and pretty...

I spent so long in office jobs that when I got my current job (as a custodian) I had to go buy t-shirts & jeans! Sometimes, when I'm slacking in the laundry department, I do have to clean toilets while dressed in "business professional" attire.

 

[andella95]

My little crying spells have stopped. Feeling good & optimistic now!!!

 

[BrandysBabies]

Andie!! I have missed you! I am so sorry to hear about everything that is going on with the DR. I hope it all gets worked out soon! I am praying for you!

 

[StarlitHome]

My little crying spells have stopped. Feeling good & optimistic now!!!

Glad you're feeling better

I've got all my resumes and applications ready to take to the places tomorrow...

 

[Mustang_Love]

Okay...so I got the results back from my ultrasound for pelvic pain.

They told me that I have multiple small fibroids on my uterus, multiple complex and functional cysts on my right ovary, and fluid in the cul de sac. They're trying to tell me that I had a cyst burst and that is what is causing the fluid and that was the source of my pain.

I'm just so scared and sad right now. Scared, because I don't think I believe their diagnosis and I think it might be something more. My insurance runs out tomorrow (because we're switching from DH's to mine to save money - and now we can't get back on his and mine won't start for another month or two). I still feel nauseated most of the time.

I just feel so broken. The truth is that I KNOW the reason I have been TTC for two years isn't because of my weight and that losing weight won't solve a thing. All I want to do is cry right now. I'm turning 34 in January, and I'd be at least 35 before I could lose enough weight to have any kind of help, I think.

I don't know what to do or where to turn right now. I can't stop crying!!!!

Oh my gosh!

I completely agree that your weight alone would be the cause of the long wait for getting pregnant. So you cannot get a doctors help until you lose a certain amount?! That is ludicrous!! It makes me so angry Did they have any treatment suggestions??

Sending lots of hugs and positive energy your way!

 

[andella95]

Okay...so I got the results back from my ultrasound for pelvic pain.

They told me that I have multiple small fibroids on my uterus, multiple complex and functional cysts on my right ovary, and fluid in the cul de sac. They're trying to tell me that I had a cyst burst and that is what is causing the fluid and that was the source of my pain.

I'm just so scared and sad right now. Scared, because I don't think I believe their diagnosis and I think it might be something more. My insurance runs out tomorrow (because we're switching from DH's to mine to save money - and now we can't get back on his and mine won't start for another month or two). I still feel nauseated most of the time.

I just feel so broken. The truth is that I KNOW the reason I have been TTC for two years isn't because of my weight and that losing weight won't solve a thing. All I want to do is cry right now. I'm turning 34 in January, and I'd be at least 35 before I could lose enough weight to have any kind of help, I think.

I don't know what to do or where to turn right now. I can't stop crying!!!!

Oh my gosh!

I completely agree that your weight alone would be the cause of the long wait for getting pregnant. So you cannot get a doctors help until you lose a certain amount?! That is ludicrous!! It makes me so angry Did they have any treatment suggestions??

Sending lots of hugs and positive energy your way!

I haven't asked for help yet...I'm too scared! Everyone I know around here has been told they need to get under a certain weight before the docs will do anything, so I'm assuming it's true for me.

I've decided that I'm going probably in February...because if I can't have babies (well, more babies) then I want to know.

I'm doing well now...just being thankful for what I have. Trying to workout a fitness/nutrition plan that is realistic for me...which means lots of baby steps! I always try to do way too much at once!

Anyway, I love you guys and I am so thankful I have you all!

 

[EmmyReece]

I haven't asked for help yet...I'm too scared! Everyone I know around here has been told they need to get under a certain weight before the docs will do anything, so I'm assuming it's true for me.

I've decided that I'm going probably in February...because if I can't have babies (well, more babies) then I want to know.

I'm doing well now...just being thankful for what I have. Trying to workout a fitness/nutrition plan that is realistic for me...which means lots of baby steps! I always try to do way too much at once!

Anyway, I love you guys and I am so thankful I have you all!

taking baby steps is good, small changes made over a period of time will seem less of a big change if that makes sense? that's how I've done it, and haven't looked back since

we're all here for you

and if your dr won't do anything to help because of your weight, then is there anyway of finding a more sympathetic dr?

 

[rwllgoodchild]

Hi, ive just come across this thread via a thread in second tri...

Im 29 and 22 weeks pregnant with our first. I have a BMI of 43 but so far my weight/size hasnt been any problem
Thought id introduce myself xx

 

[andella95]

Hi, ive just come across this thread via a thread in second tri...

Im 29 and 22 weeks pregnant with our first. I have a BMI of 43 but so far my weight/size hasnt been any problem
Thought id introduce myself xx

Welcome!!!!