6 months + since mc and no luck getting pregnant... Come join me in the wait!!

[amanda111308]

1 week and 6 days until my first scan... Feeling better about things today because I feel terrible! So happy

 

[Nataliek]

Oh bummer @MrsKitty, sometimes I feel like it is pure luck on any given cycle. I am glad you are feeling ok.

@anniebobs, my children were naturally conceived, textbook perfect pregnancies. This is why this has been so frustrating and hard for me to accept, you really feel defeated. But, I have a plan and I am going to be positive that this is going to work! How are you feeling?

@Amanda, I am glad you are feeling like crap! lol, never thought I would say that to someone!

 

[chippyslady]

Hi ladies,
I hope you don't mind if I join you. I read through the entire thread and I feel like I know some of you. I am so sorry for all of your losses and struggles (Smiler - I had tears in my eyes when I read about your most recent loss). I am praying and very hopeful we will all have our rainbow babies soon (congrats amanda and anniebobs!). Mrskitty - any news yet? Natalie - how are you feeling?

AFM - I have a beautiful 3 year old daughter (after 7 months of trying, an HSG and one chemical; BFP and 9 months later our baby girl immediately followed chemical) and have been ttc #2 since last July. Although there were some things that got in our way of BD'ing so I don't really consider us actually trying until October. Got BFP in January but early miscarriage - naturally @ 6 weeks. We waited one month as OB advised and no signs of BFP since then. I too am definitely getting panicked about the difference in age between DD and new baby! I'm also 35 and DH is 37 so I'm really hoping this happens soon! I'm on CD 9 today so will start using OPKs tomorrow and BD'ing lots in the next week! My best friend just got pregnant with #3 (oops baby - grrrr) and she swears by the temping method (she accidentally BD'd on a day she wasn't supposed to) and thinks I should do that but doesn't that only tell you AFTER ovulation has happened? I'm thinking of doing it next month just for the simple fact of making sure I'm ovulating. Thoughts?

 

[Nataliek]

Welcome Chippyslady! I see you are from Chicago, I love the city! There are some great ladies on here that will give you wonderful support. I know what you mean about being anxious to get pregnant, it is so consuming. I have never temped, only because I use opks and I thought it would just stress me out adding something else to the mix. It seems you can conceive fairly easily, what was the reason for hsg? Have you ever had any additional testing? I've had two chemicals and an ectopic I know how frustrating it is. Opks have always worked like a charm for me but I only use the digital ones.

I am feeling good, getting anxious for my period to come this weekend so I can start my treatment cycle!

 

[Anniebobs]

Thanks chippyslady. I've never temped it just seems like I'd be too stressed the whole month instead of just the tww (I have no idea how not to symptom spot and get my hopes up!) I used opks and they worked for me. Good luck!

 

[MrsKitty]

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[amanda111308]

Hi ladies,
I hope you don't mind if I join you. I read through the entire thread and I feel like I know some of you. I am so sorry for all of your losses and struggles (Smiler - I had tears in my eyes when I read about your most recent loss). I am praying and very hopeful we will all have our rainbow babies soon (congrats amanda and anniebobs!). Mrskitty - any news yet? Natalie - how are you feeling?

AFM - I have a beautiful 3 year old daughter (after 7 months of trying, an HSG and one chemical; BFP and 9 months later our baby girl immediately followed chemical) and have been ttc #2 since last July. Although there were some things that got in our way of BD'ing so I don't really consider us actually trying until October. Got BFP in January but early miscarriage - naturally @ 6 weeks. We waited one month as OB advised and no signs of BFP since then. I too am definitely getting panicked about the difference in age between DD and new baby! I'm also 35 and DH is 37 so I'm really hoping this happens soon! I'm on CD 9 today so will start using OPKs tomorrow and BD'ing lots in the next week! My best friend just got pregnant with #3 (oops baby - grrrr) and she swears by the temping method (she accidentally BD'd on a day she wasn't supposed to) and thinks I should do that but doesn't that only tell you AFTER ovulation has happened? I'm thinking of doing it next month just for the simple fact of making sure I'm ovulating. Thoughts?

Hi there!

I used to be an avid temper but I took a break from it in April and it was the best decision. I stopped obsessing and got pregnant! I did opks and temping but decided to just use opks alone. I feel like the less I thought about ttc the easier it came to me. I got crazy into it in the early months this year and bd either every/every other day from after AF until the next AF and nothing! I bd once during my fertile week in April with a mind set that I was basically already out and sure enough it was just the right time!

All the best to you hun! Looking forward to getting to know you on here!

 

[chippyslady]

Thanks so much ladies!

Natalie - Yes, I'm in Chicago! I love it too! I grew up in Colorado and lived there until my mid twenties when I met my now husband who is from a suburb of Chicago originally and wanted to come back. So, here we are 9 years later! I had an HSG because my OB at the time suggested I have after 6 months of trying and no luck, even though I was in my early 30's. She said a lot of her patients got pregnant after having an HSG because it "cleaned them out." Well, the HSG found no issues and I did in fact get pregnant right after having the HSG. Unfortunately, that was my chemical pregnancy but I was lucky enough to get pregnant again the very next cycle and have my daughter. I only use the digital OPKs too (I like the smiley face and having to judge the darkness of the line on the others stresses me out).

Anniebobs - thanks for the advice. I do think I am going to hold of on temping for a while.

MrsKitty - It is so frustrating when AF comes early! My cycles have been all over the place since my most recent miscarriage. According to OPKs my last ovulations have been on CD 18, 12, 14 and 17 - gahhh! I think it's time to start BD'ing from day 10 to day 20. You are so right that temping for one month may not give me the answer as to whether I ovulate or not since I might not that month. I do think I will not temp for a while. Way too much to think about. I can barely remember my own name when I wake up so how will I remember to temp and chart?

Amanda - how are you feeling? Getting excited for your scan?

Thanks again for welcoming me and I look forward to getting to know all of you as well!

 

[amanda111308]

Thanks so much ladies!

Natalie - Yes, I'm in Chicago! I love it too! I grew up in Colorado and lived there until my mid twenties when I met my now husband who is from a suburb of Chicago originally and wanted to come back. So, here we are 9 years later! I had an HSG because my OB at the time suggested I have after 6 months of trying and no luck, even though I was in my early 30's. She said a lot of her patients got pregnant after having an HSG because it "cleaned them out." Well, the HSG found no issues and I did in fact get pregnant right after having the HSG. Unfortunately, that was my chemical pregnancy but I was lucky enough to get pregnant again the very next cycle and have my daughter. I only use the digital OPKs too (I like the smiley face and having to judge the darkness of the line on the others stresses me out).

Anniebobs - thanks for the advice. I do think I am going to hold of on temping for a while.

MrsKitty - It is so frustrating when AF comes early! My cycles have been all over the place since my most recent miscarriage. According to OPKs my last ovulations have been on CD 18, 12, 14 and 17 - gahhh! I think it's time to start BD'ing from day 10 to day 20. You are so right that temping for one month may not give me the answer as to whether I ovulate or not since I might not that month. I do think I will not temp for a while. Way too much to think about. I can barely remember my own name when I wake up so how will I remember to temp and chart?

Amanda - how are you feeling? Getting excited for your scan?

Thanks again for welcoming me and I look forward to getting to know all of you as well!

I am not so much excited as I am scared to death for the scan next Thursday... Just so worried something will go wrong. I must admit though that everyday I feel a little more optimistic especially since the sickness is really starting to hit.

 

[MrsKitty]

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[Nataliek]

Mrskitty sometimes a good cry really helps. We can't be strong all the time and you are holding it together really we'll so don't forget how strong you are! You are approaching a significant date it's bound to be full of emotions. Have you spoken with your doctor about potentially doing an iui? It might help accelerate the process for you.

I am so anxious to just get my period already. I was fine all week and I'm due either today/tomorrow or Sunday and I want it now! I am at the end of my patience rope and want to start trying again.

 

[Anniebobs]

Mrs kitty when was your angel due? It really does help just to go with it and let your body cry it out. Hope you feel better soon.

Natalie go and have sex that'll bring it on!

 

[MrsKitty]

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[Nataliek]

That would be a good plan, Anniebobs but my husband is on shift today until tomorrow morning! I will have to catch him first thing tomorrow lol. I had a little bit of spotting about an hour ago so I am thinking by tonight or tomorrow I should be good to go!

I will be sure to update throughout the process MrsKitty! I will be anxious I am sure but going to try to keep calm. Although they say two eggs is better and increases your chances, I am really hoping for one good one. I just have to see how well my body responds to the meds! I hate putting things into my body but if it gets me pregnant with a healthy baby, it will be all worth it. I am so glad you are feeling better today I would hope your doctor would consider IUI before moving right to IVF. I can't see why he wouldn't agree to it? It's less invasive and yes, its true, it doesn't have as high of a success rate as IVF but its better than trying on your own and what have you got to lose, right?

 

[amanda111308]

*RANT ALERT*

I hate Facebook! Every time I go on there I see something more and more disturbing and/or downright devastating! I went on tonight after work and once my little boy went to bed and the first thing I see is a "friend" had shared a video of a mother beating the crap out of her baby! The video was almost 4 minutes long and she was relentless! The baby was laying on his/her tummy covering it's head crying and screaming in pain and was absolutely terrified. I could have put my fist through the computer screen. I hate seeing stuff like that and not being able to help!

Please God stop giving children to idiots like that stupid wh*** beating that beautiful baby! Meanwhile there are so many deserving and loving people who struggle to conceive/keep pregnancies. Oh my God it just baffles me completely!

I'm sorry ladies about my language. But I am truly upset and just need this out of my system... :'( I am so angry, I am bawling my eyes out as I type this... That poor sweet baby. May God take vengeance for you little one. Your sh*t mother has it coming, just you wait!!

 

[Nataliek]

Aww Amanda I know. Being a firefighter has seen some horrible things involving little children/babies and that's what effects them the most. My daughter had physiotherapy yesterday and the clinic is located in the same building as my obygn that delivered my son and as we were leaving, we saw a very heavily pregnant girl smoking. It really upset my daughter with all that we have been going through. It's just not fair.

Happy news: I got my period! Clinic bright and early Monday morning to start my cycle monitoring and injections! I am so excited!

 

[MrsKitty]

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[Nataliek]

How was everyone's weekend? I had my appointment this morning, start injections tonight! Back Saturday morning on day 8 to see how my follicles are doing!

 

[amanda111308]

3 more days until the scan... Freaking out a lot... I had my mc at 8 weeks last time and I just can't shake it. I have been having terrible dreams about waking up bleeding and all other things MC related. I just want the next few days to fly by!! Luckily the ms is steadily getting worse so I guess that's a good thing...

 

[MrsKitty]

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