***(61) 2015 November Sparklers***

[aley28]

I like the idea of being out of the first tri that much sooner, so I think I'll go with the ultrasound dates. I hope I'm not in for a big baby - so far I've had a 6lb4oz-er and a 7lb1oz-er ... 8+ lbs sounds scary to me!

I thought the second trimester switch was at 13 weeks! But if its at 12 weeks, then I'm all for it that means I can relax now, right?

I'm still getting sickness, unfortunately, though I do like to think that its letting up a bit? I still ended up taking 3 pills for it yesterday (when I've been doing really well on just 2/day for the past couple of weeks) so maybe its not. I would quite like to stop having to worry if I'm going to throw up if I eat something with sugar in it (definitely a trigger for me! )

I've lost almost 5lbs in the past month, which is fine by me! Its not been at all intentional, but I am like 100 pounds (gulp) overweight. I know the baby will take what it needs, and I clearly have plenty of extra stored up for it

 

[Melsue129]

Hi all just got my Doppler in the post and it works perfectly found the heartbeat straight away it's like music to my ears can't wait for oh to hear it x

Butterfly how far along are you??? Glad to hear you heard you lil ones heart beat..

 

[Butterfly2015]

I'm now 11 weeks 5 days

 

[littlesteph]

all I wanna do is cry and stop throwing up. this evening as been awful, in 3 hours I have thrown up 11 times. I didn't think I had eating or drank enough to generate that much puke. I feel awful, doesn't help I've had work this evening as well

 

[TexMel]

My heart goes out to you, littlesteph and the rest of you still going through MS. I really hope it clears up soon for you! Mine seems to still be on a break for now. Fx it stays that way!

 

[Twag]

Littlesteph - I would go back to your Dr as sounds to me like your suffering from HG and they need to check you are not dehydrated as that will make you worse you may need a short stay in hospital on an IV to help please go back to the Dr

 

[Amcolecchi]

Little-I agree you should be keeping something down and you definitely don't want to get dehydrated! I would go back and get some meds! Feel better soon!

 

[DHBH0930]

Littlesteph- that sounds awful, definitely not normal to throw up that many times, hope you are ok, I agree probably need to see a doctor!

AFM 10 weeks tomorrow. Hoping MS is over soon, thankful I'm not throwing up but I feel on the verge all day and all night. It's really starting to drive me nuts. No food sounds good, I find 1 or 2 things that sound OK then 2 days later they sound disgusting. I feel so close to having a meltdown. It's so hard to feel so crappy for so long.

Am happy that the bleeding I had has not returned. Probably from dtd

Hope all you ladies are doing well!

 

[littlesteph]

thank you ladies, after throwing up all night as well, I phone my doctor this morning who got me in for 11, luckily I went in when I did, he said that I didn't need hospital treatment yet but was getting close to it, been put on different anti-sickness tablets, pretty sure the same ones as I was on with my youngest, they've seem to help so far. been told rest and if no better the weekend then to call 111. (out of hours doctors).

 

[Dollybird]

Ladies I'm afraid to tell you ive another little angel to add to our list. Had a small amount of spotting this morning and had a scan this afternoon. My baby passed away last week at around 8+3 they believe. In scheduled for a d&c on Thursday. Want to wish everyone a H&H 9 months and I pray that I'm the last sad tale for our little group. I'm a broken woman just now. Xxx

 

[Mrs_Bump]

I'm so sorry to hear this dollybird. Thinking of you and your family. X

 

[Amcolecchi]

Dolly- I am so sorry to hear your loss!! I hope you find time to recover and are ok. You are in my thoughts!

 

[aley28]

Dolly, I'm so sorry!

 

[lomelindi17]

So so sorry to hear your sad news Dollybird, sending you lots of love. Also to littlesteph for still being so sick, and the others who are sick, that must be awful. Hang in there ladies. Women are tough as nails and you can do this!!

I had my first appointment with my midwives yesterday, dh is away so he missed it but it went great. It is a freestanding natural birth center with naturopathic doctors who are also certified professional midwives and I loved them and the center, it is very homey. They do things more on the natural side, so they don't use a doppler to listen to the heartbeat until after 12 weeks (safer), and then she uses a fetoscope after 20 weeks. I think one time won't hurt so we'll just listen once with the doppler because I don't really want to wait all the way until 20 weeks. So my next appointment is at 13 weeks so hopefully we can hear the heartbeat then.

They also don't do routine ultrasounds unless they suspect a problem or if you choose to have one, because there are questions about their safety, so I think we will do one only at 20 weeks to make sure baby is healthy. We also decided to do the integrated genetic screening without the NT scan to make sure there are no disorders since we both agree that severe problems aren't something we could cope with, it would be too heartbreaking and difficult and probably tear us apart. It was so nice to finally have my appointment though, it all seems so much more real now haha.

About the due date question, for me personally, because of how the medical system works, I would want my due date to be as accurate as possible because if it is off by a whole week, and they automatically induce you at 42 weeks, that could make the difference between an easier spontaneous birth and a more difficult artificially induced birth. Pitocin makes your contractions way more painful so I would want to avoid induction as much as I could, but that's me. I obviously tend more toward the natural side and working with a woman's body and her natural normal process of healthy birth. I'm a doula (not certified yet though) and I know that the less interventions in your birth the better. Each intervention leads to more interventions and often results in a C-section. I would personally trust my chart more than a dating scan, especially if you used opk's, and also look at what dpo you got your bfp. Like if you got it super early like 5 dpo, then I would be suspicious that your O date was wrong on your chart. Know what I mean? Also if you or dh are taller than average, your baby probably will be too, so why would the "average measurement" apply? I would insist they take that into account and adjust your date accordingly since they place so much importance on the exact due date as to how they treat your birth. For me having a natural spontaneous birth is supremely important but I know not everyone feels that way.

 

[sweetgirl75]

Dolly so sorry for your loss

 

[TexMel]

Dollybird - I am so sorry for your loss. I know words will not make everything better, but know that we are here for you if you need anything or just need to vent or rant. I hope you have a lot of support and love around you at this difficult time. Hugs to you!

Lomelindi- so glad you made it back from your trip! I wondered how you were doing out there. For about 3 weeks, I described what I was feeling as being on a boat - motion sickness, dizzy, etc, but luckily never truly got sick. And miraculously, I've been good for about a week now. I am not sure I could handle going that long without hearing the heartbeat! I just like the reassurance, but I don't have a home Doppler or anything.

Afm, not much to report. A wedding and a funeral to attend this weekend, then another wedding next weekend. Trying to hold out on announcing until Mother's Day (May 10 in the US), but since I'll see almost everyone I know in the next 2 weekends, I'm not sure it'll make a difference, bc I have a big mouth and pretty much tell everyone I see. #worstkeptsecret

 

[Tricks26]

Oh Dolly I'm so sorry for your loss and I pray that the Lord will comfort you in your time of need xxxxx

 

[Teeny Weeny]

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss Dollybird. My thoughts are with you. Xx

 

[Dollybird]

Thanks ladies. I'm really struggling with this. Xxx

 

[MissyMojo]

Dolly, im so sorry for your loss x

im finding i feel bad from about 10am until 2/3 then i have plenty energy again

Have just bought a new bed for our room as ours is broken and have friends coming to help me build it next weekend - im finding im almost nesting? im going from room to room each evening having a sort out and clean up!