Congratulations on BFP
I'm due July also and my son will nearly be 7 and my partners son will nearly be 9. We all live together. I know they won't have a close bond with the baby due to age gap.
I am a twin and we had a close bond then our little sister came along when we were 6 but we never bonded as the time she was 3/4 talking and so on we were 10 and had no interest we just wanted to play and do 10 year old things.
Which means I know the baby will be the same. The boys will be peas in a pod like they are now so when baby is 3/4 they'll be 11 and 13 they won't be interested in baby at all so I've already prepped myself.
It's annoying ��
Not always true. I have a brother who is 21 months younger than me, a sister 3.5 years young than me and another sister who is nearly 7 years younger. I was not close to my brother and first sister but I was incredibly protective of my baby sister and did everything for her (within reason) when Mum brought her home from hospital. Mum often tells me stories of me not letting her near the baby. The other 2 I couldn't have care less about and was never close growing up although my younger sister and I am now since my eldest was born (he's the oldest out of mine and my siblings children). My brother on the other hand, well, that's another story. I was the kid who spent most of my time in my baby sister's classroom when she started school and the teenager who would rather be at home with her instead of partying. While most siblings with such a large gap wouldn't want their kid siblings tagging along in their shadows, there was nowhere else I wanted to be.
I don't understand whats not to be true. I was never stating that "they will not bond" I was stating my version of real life events. I am not saying "it will happen" and that they will not bond, was just sharing my experience.
I genuinely hope they have a strong bond, (FX) as well as i would like to hope my children will with baby but sometimes it just doesn't happen (based on my own experiences).