9 month old still crying with no tears?!?!?!

[ProudMomma2Be]

I have a 9 month old baby boy named Michael . He was such a good baby from the begining
He never cryed , he slept whole nite since he was 2 month old . He didnt have problems with feeding or gass or anything . He didnt even have that period of purple crying . Probably past 2 moths he has been more fussy . But I would say it is only because he started crawling and standing up by himself . So he falls a lot and he hits himself a lot . So here and there he is fusing and sometimes he cry . But without tears . You can hear that it is a painfull crying but with no tears . I have never paid attantion . I just thought it didint hurt enough ( or it is not that big of a deal ) that he would have tears . But like month ago my boyfriend ( the father of my baby ) kept asking me if he is already crying with tears and he said some babys dont have tear ducts of they r pluged or something like that . And I told him I definitely saw him cry with tears twice . But its been a while . But more he kept asking me and more I started paying atention if my baby has tears more I felt like I am not sure if I saw him with tears .
I have read a lot of articles about it . Some women saying they doctors said : ,, Thats interesting '' and thats it . Some of them saying their baby needed unplugged the tear ducts , some saying it is ok not to have tears . Some saying the baby can become blind if you dont do anything about it etc . My baby has a doctor apoitment in 3 weeks . But I am jsut more and more nervous . I also read that the season may be dehydratation . It is true that my baby is drinking less breast milk since he started solids and sometimes his urine smells . But my urine smells too and I drink plenty of water ( and I pee clear urine ) . And I read that means if babys urine is gold and if its smells it means he has plenty of nutritions and the body is giving away the nutriens the body dont need . He also doesnt have dry mouth . or dry eyes or he definitely doesnt have clean diaper for 6-8 hours . it is true he is more fussy and more sleepy lately . But he is drinking breast milk plus water/juice . ( ussualy between 6-10 ounces a day ) . I always give him like 3 oz of juice and than rest is water . I just dont know what to think and what to do . Does anyone has this experience ?

 

[overcomer79]

I think you need to talk to a medical consultant.

Babies NEED tears! His ducts could be clogged or they might have to put tubes in to help the drainage.

You don't want it so bad that his eyes are so dry that he starts having cornea abrasions! Those are very very painful! I just had to have emergency eye surgery a few years ago due to that.

I don't know where you are but I would get him to a pediatric ophthalmologist.

That's all I can offer hun. good luck xx

 

[kissesandhugs]

I would speak to your LO's dr for sure but in the mean time, you can try massaging the inner corner of your LO's eyes to get it "unclogged" or attempt at least!

 

[cmarie33]

I agree with visiting the doctor but you'd think if there was a problem with the tear ducts lo would already have issues with his eyes being dry?

 

[ProudMomma2Be]

He doesnt have dry eyes and when he is crying his eyes get watery but no tears . Maybe he hasnt been crying enough for tears . I will ask my doctor for sure but as I said . Many women on the internet said their doctor said it is normal or they didnt know it was possible . I am confused . If he start crying today or fussying , i will let him be ( with pain in my hearth ) and will see . but I really think I saw him having little bit of tears when he was smaller . and once before christmas time . But now am concentrating so much that I m not sure . He is just such a good baby . He doesnt really cry . He is just fussy here and there . Or may be I just think he is only fussy because he has no tears ?!?!?!

 

[LegoHouse]

My son has only ever cried tears twice at almost 7 months. Like your son he's a happy baby. I've never really had any concerns x

 

[ProudMomma2Be]

My son has only ever cried tears twice at almost 7 months. Like your son he's a happy baby. I've never really had any concerns x

That makes me feel little bit better . I did not pay attention before that . I did not have any concerns , but than everybody started to ask me stuff about that and told me it is not normal etc . and it scared me a lot
His eyes are not dry , or red , and they get wattery when he is fussy . I dont think he is dehydrated either

 

[LegoHouse]

He's fine! I was going to ask if they get watery. My sons eyes get watery in the wind. I've never really worried about it x

 

[Wishing_well]

I'd say he was fine.
Babies only cry with tears when EXTREMELY upset or in pain. (In my experience)

My daughter has only had tears once but she gets watery eyes in the wind. I'd say it was normal - and as for blocked ducts, they have a lump in the corner of their eye.

 

[BlueHadeda]

My daughter doesn't cry tears!! And she's 9 years old already.

I noticed it when she was tiny, because she got really, really upset in NICU. But it's normal for most babies to only start crying tears around 4 months. By 6 months I realised she hasn't started like other babies. I also wrote it off as "she rarely cries, so probably didn't have reason enough yet". But as time passed, I came to realise that it doesn't matter how much she got hurt, she will not cry tears. She would cry, her mouth would move into a distressed grimace, she'd get flushed in the face, make crying sounds, etc. But no tears. I asked the peads and drs numerous times, and they always just checked her corneas, and for blocked ducts, and declared her a "curious but fine" case. When she was age 3, I took her to an opthalmologist, and again he declared her fine. When she was 7, I took her to another opthalmologist, and he too declared her fine, but wants to see her every year or so, just to keep an eye on her corneas. She also had a brain MRI (for her tethered cord, they wanted to make sure she didn't have Arnold Chiari) which showed everything normal and present. Just not working?!

In the past 9 years, I've noticed her eyes getting wet a handful of times. And about twice a lone tear would make its way down her cheek. That was it. I've never had to wipe her face dry, hand her a tissue after crying, etc. It saddens me so much, I don't know why it does. I just feel sorry for her. When she cries, she would rub her eyes furiously with her fists, as if it's irritating her for some reason.

The medical term, as far as I know, is Alacrima. But be careful of googling, there's some conditions linked to this that's scary, and which by this time we're pretty sure my daughter doesn't have. But for a while I did stress about that. Unnecessarily so.

 

[Leids]

My little one cries tears often because he's a drama queen (or king? ) he's a happy baby in general just has his moments. If he's not REALLY crying hard then he doesn't have tears. It's mostly just when he gets super worked up. Sometimes even when he gets really worked up into a distressed cry there won't be any tears, and honestly even when there are tears it isn't a lot like it would be with us as adults.

Since his eyes are watering it doesn't seem too alarming, but something to mention to the doctor just to make sure.

 

[deafgal]

there are disorder such as Sjögren's Syndrome but I think if your babies eye seem moist, i wouldn't worry. Not sure this is a good idea, but you can always chop up onions near your LO to be sure.

 

[ProudMomma2Be]

My daughter doesn't cry tears!! And she's 9 years old already.

I noticed it when she was tiny, because she got really, really upset in NICU. But it's normal for most babies to only start crying tears around 4 months. By 6 months I realised she hasn't started like other babies. I also wrote it off as "she rarely cries, so probably didn't have reason enough yet". But as time passed, I came to realise that it doesn't matter how much she got hurt, she will not cry tears. She would cry, her mouth would move into a distressed grimace, she'd get flushed in the face, make crying sounds, etc. But no tears. I asked the peads and drs numerous times, and they always just checked her corneas, and for blocked ducts, and declared her a "curious but fine" case. When she was age 3, I took her to an opthalmologist, and again he declared her fine. When she was 7, I took her to another opthalmologist, and he too declared her fine, but wants to see her every year or so, just to keep an eye on her corneas. She also had a brain MRI (for her tethered cord, they wanted to make sure she didn't have Arnold Chiari) which showed everything normal and present. Just not working?!

In the past 9 years, I've noticed her eyes getting wet a handful of times. And about twice a lone tear would make its way down her cheek. That was it. I've never had to wipe her face dry, hand her a tissue after crying, etc. It saddens me so much, I don't know why it does. I just feel sorry for her. When she cries, she would rub her eyes furiously with her fists, as if it's irritating her for some reason.

The medical term, as far as I know, is Alacrima. But be careful of googling, there's some conditions linked to this that's scary, and which by this time we're pretty sure my daughter doesn't have. But for a while I did stress about that. Unnecessarily so.

I am sorry to hear you had such a hard time with your child
It seems kinda said to imagine she probably will never express her emotions with tears but at least she is otherwise healthy
I hope my lo will be fine .

 

[ProudMomma2Be]

there are disorder such as Sjögren's Syndrome but I think if your babies eye seem moist, i wouldn't worry. Not sure this is a good idea, but you can always chop up onions near your LO to be sure.

I did not think about that one . but now I remember once my boyfriend was cooking with lo in the kitchen and lo started to be little bit fussy so I thought it may be the onions but he calmed down after few seconds . I will talk to my lo's father if he is willing to try . It sounds drastic but at least we would know

 

[ProudMomma2Be]

Now I feel really bad ... Spoke to my boyfriend about all the replies and all the research I did and he told me our baby isnt crying because I wont let him . He said any time our lo seems upset I immidiately give him attention etc. He said he doesnt mean it in a bad way . But it still made me upseat because to me it sounds like ... If our baby is going to have some problems with his eyes , it is your fault . But I dont feel like its true , I let him cry /or be fussy if I feel like it is nothing really seriously hurting him .I dont pick him up when he comes to me and he is fussy just because he want me to pick him up . I let him fuss in the bed when I want him to nap and he doesnt feel like it . But it may be because I am the mother and I feel like I am doing everything right . I cannot imagine if there is going to be something wrong with his eyes / tear ducts and it is going to be my fault and he is going to need something done to fix it and its gonna hurt him

 

[overcomer79]

Now I feel really bad ... Spoke to my boyfriend about all the replies and all the research I did and he told me our baby isnt crying because I wont let him . He said any time our lo seems upset I immidiately give him attention etc. He said he doesnt mean it in a bad way . But it still made me upseat because to me it sounds like ... If our baby is going to have some problems with his eyes , it is your fault . But I dont feel like its true , I let him cry /or be fussy if I feel like it is nothing really seriously hurting him .I dont pick him up when he comes to me and he is fussy just because he want me to pick him up . I let him fuss in the bed when I want him to nap and he doesnt feel like it . But it may be because I am the mother and I feel like I am doing everything right . I cannot imagine if there is going to be something wrong with his eyes / tear ducts and it is going to be my fault and he is going to need something done to fix it and its gonna hurt him

Oh geez don't listen to that. If there is something wrong with his eyes, it has nothing to do with you not letting him cry! Can you mention at LO's next dr appt?

 

[ProudMomma2Be]

Now I feel really bad ... Spoke to my boyfriend about all the replies and all the research I did and he told me our baby isnt crying because I wont let him . He said any time our lo seems upset I immidiately give him attention etc. He said he doesnt mean it in a bad way . But it still made me upseat because to me it sounds like ... If our baby is going to have some problems with his eyes , it is your fault . But I dont feel like its true , I let him cry /or be fussy if I feel like it is nothing really seriously hurting him .I dont pick him up when he comes to me and he is fussy just because he want me to pick him up . I let him fuss in the bed when I want him to nap and he doesnt feel like it . But it may be because I am the mother and I feel like I am doing everything right . I cannot imagine if there is going to be something wrong with his eyes / tear ducts and it is going to be my fault and he is going to need something done to fix it and its gonna hurt him

Oh geez don't listen to that. If there is something wrong with his eyes, it has nothing to do with you not letting him cry! Can you mention at LO's next dr appt?

I will definitely mention this at his next appt . But it is in 3 weeks

 

[SerenityNow]

Babies with blocked tear ducts have constantly watery eyes. The ducts are how tears drain, not where they come from. Tears come from a gland that is above the eye. I didn't know this until my 3rd LO had a blocked duct.

My LO is 18 mo. and rarely cries with tears. It breaks my heart when he does. He'll fuss and make unhappy noises like crying but the real tears only come when he has hurt himself or is very upset.

I'm sure your LO is fine.

 

[ProudMomma2Be]

so what do you think I should do if my lo's doctor tell me it is normal for baby not to have tears ? should I take him to babys optometrist ? what would you do ?