A group for TTC#1 and had more than one loss?

[MrsPaco7884]

Hi all,
I am new to this but this forum seems to meet my situation...
I am 29 have had 2 m/c...one 6 yrs ago @ 18 weeks (baby boy) and one about
a year ago @ 8 weeks...We have been trying to conceive actively since m/c...I have had
an average cycle of 33 days with the longest being 40 days.
I am currently 55 days since first day of last AF....took a HPT about 2-3 wks ago got BFN....Dr's appt in a couple of days....We want this so bad that I am afraid that my mind is tricking my body into thinking it is pregnant without actually being....Anybody with any advise or thoughts on the situation?

Thanks,
Misty

 

[mommylov]

Mrs Paco, so sorry for your loses. This is a hard journey to embark on for sure but you came to the right place to get support. I think you are doing good by seeing a dr. Stress can do funny things to our cycle and can cause delays as well. Im curious to see what they say. Did you ever have any explanation or testing done after your 1st loss?

 

[Bibliophile]

Hi, MrsPaco. Sorry to hear about your loss. No advice, but I am wondering the same thing as Mommy.

If I'm not pregnant, I would appreciate a day where I don't feel groggy.

 

[NewToAllThis]

Hi Mrspaco and welcome

So sorry for your losses, any kind of miscarriage is heartbreaking but a second tri loss must be devastating.

You have found a good supportive thread and you will be well looked after here.

Please don't lose hope. I have been TTC for 4 years with 3 first tri losses (inc twins). I never thought I would have a successful pregnancy but here I am with less than a week til my due date. I hope that gives you reassurance that it CAN and DOES happen.

 

[MrsPaco7884]

Thanks everyone for the support... after my first loss the Dr's acted like it was no big deal...I was so young that I really didn't think to ask for any type of testing...after my second loss I asked for testing to figure out why I wasn't sustaining my pregnancies. I was informed that they no longer do testing until 3 confirmed m/c....I wanted more answers but was too devastated and disappointed with myself to pursue it further. I will definitely keep you all updated with what I find out at my appointment Friday.

 

[mommylov]

Mrs Paco, I think its terrible that they wouldnt test seeing as how you lost your first late. No that its good to lose a child at any stage, but I would think it would be just beyond devestating the further along you are. I hope that you get some answers at Fri's appt. If they arent willing to do any major digging as to the reason for your loses, maybe some simple bloodowork?

Another thing to keep in mind, more often than not.. those that dont give up do eventually end up pregnant. There have been so many success stories here. Everytime I have felt defeated or that I should just give up, the girls here just know what to say/do to give me that nudge to go on. I hope that you find the same kind of support here.

 

[MrsPaco7884]

Thank you so much for your thoughtful words MOMMYLOV!!! I am determined to keep trying until it happens....lol, I had a cousin that tried for years and years and was told that it just would not happen for her, she had a baby at 45 without any fertility treatments or IVF...God works miracles and I will hold out for mine...sending baby dust to you!!!!

 

[Bibliophile]

3 does seem to be the rule... But you've been trying since the first m/c? Seems like they would check things out if you've only gotten pregnant twice in 6 years. Especially combined with how late the first was. If they're unwilling to look into it for you Friday, a change in doctors might be necessary.
Oh. I just saw you tested several weeks ago? No new tests since then?

 

[MrsPaco7884]

Bibliophile they refuse to do some testing I will be looking for another Dr. I haven't taken any new tests b/c I know they are gonna test me at my appt Friday. I just want some answers....of course I also want a positive result;-)

 

[Bibliophile]

Well, I hope they will help, then. Finding a new doc is not fun!

Most definitely giving in to the POAS urge in the morning. I've been starving today!

 

[NewToAllThis]

Well, I hope they will help, then. Finding a new doc is not fun!

Most definitely giving in to the POAS urge in the morning. I've been starving today!

Good luck

 

[cruise]

Well, I hope they will help, then. Finding a new doc is not fun!

Most definitely giving in to the POAS urge in the morning. I've been starving today!

FX!!!!

 

[cruise]

Thanks everyone for the support... after my first loss the Dr's acted like it was no big deal...I was so young that I really didn't think to ask for any type of testing...after my second loss I asked for testing to figure out why I wasn't sustaining my pregnancies. I was informed that they no longer do testing until 3 confirmed m/c....I wanted more answers but was too devastated and disappointed with myself to pursue it further. I will definitely keep you all updated with what I find out at my appointment Friday.

It does feel horrible that they do not validate your losses. I hope they take special consideration for you, second trimester losses are a huge deal. Seems like if you've been trying for an year, you would qualify for infertility diagnosis?

 

[Bibliophile]

Negative. A little tempted to chart next month and see if I am actually ovulating. That and make hubby stay home at better times.

 

[NewToAllThis]

Sorry Biblio

 

[MrsPaco7884]

@ Cruise, I'm not leaving tomorrow until they attempt to give me some answers....I am more than willing to try fertility treatments or whatever I have to do!

@Biblio, Sorry hun, there is always next month, I know that is not very reassuring but that is what I tell my SO (and myself too).

I feel so tired and nauseated all day today....work is just creeping by when all I want to do is go home and go to sleep....and I am sure the fact that I am axiously awaiting tomorrows Dr's appt isn't speeding things up either...

How is everyone else feeling today?

 

[mommylov]

Brittany, boo for - hun No af yet though right?

Magic, I truely hope you get some answers tomorrow!

:wave: everyone!

 

[honeyprayer]

Sorry Biblio maybe it's a shy bfp that's taking its time to slow itself? Don't give up yet! Charting is a good idea, even for just one cycle.

NTAT, how are you feeling? Any signs that your beautiful boy will be making his grand entrance?

Welcome Mrs! Definitely put your foot down and demand some answers. I have found with infertility, you really have to be your own advocate! Keep us posted on your appt tomorrow

Hi mommy! Any smiley faces yet? You must be getting excited for your time away with DH So excited for you!

AFM - had my last scan with my RE this morning. Baby was measuring 10weeks and was moving! I think my little bubba gave me a wave As I'm glad to be graduating from my RE's care, I'll really miss him. He was great :/ He told me that he wants me to send him a picture of the baby when it's born so he can put it up on his 'Wall of Fame' in his office. He's got this board where he puts up pics of all the babies he's helped come into the world. It's difficult finding a doctor who really shows he cares and he's definitely that doctor! Other than that, we've had some clouds and rain today which has brought on a horrible migraine for me. I've been awake since 1am and constant vomiting Tylenol does NOTHING. I really hate that I can't take ibuprofen. I'm finally starting to feel slightly better so I'm hoping I'm nearing the end of this dreadful day.

Sorry for the long post!

Here's the pic from my scan

 

[mommylov]

Honey, FANTASTIC news and cute scan pic!!!! So glad that things are progressing well for you dear!!!!

No smiley face yet and I only have 3 tests left for my digi OPK. I have a ton of cheapies. CD14 today so I hope I surge soon!

 

[NewToAllThis]

Excellent scan Honey and what a beautiful little baby. I can see arms and legs.

Absolutely no signs of baby making an early appearance. Definitely think I'll go overdue.
Trying to enjoy my last days of being on my own but I'm so uncomfortable now, it's proving really difficult.

Hope your migraine shifts quickly.