Lil_Pixie
Xander's mummy
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im sorry for gatecrashing a little but i could really do with a little help. .
I got a message this morning from a good friend letting me know she's lost her baby at 25 weeks. My heart is utterly breaking for her, and of course i really want to be there for her any way i can, but i dont know what the best thing to do is.
the problem is we were pregnant together and i had my little boy a month ago so i feel like her having to look at/speak to me would just be a reminder of what i have and she doesnt. I think if that was me i would be bitter and resentful. of course i dont want to keep out of her way as if i was ignoring her, but i certainly dont want to make things harder.
as it is now ive just responded to her message letting her know im thinking of he and im her for her if she needs me. but i dont know if the best thing now is to leave it until shes ready to get in touch. i just think maybe if she wants to forget me and my son exist for a while i dont want to keep reminding her if that makes sense!
i would really appreciate any advice you might have for how i can help my friend. . .
I got a message this morning from a good friend letting me know she's lost her baby at 25 weeks. My heart is utterly breaking for her, and of course i really want to be there for her any way i can, but i dont know what the best thing to do is.
the problem is we were pregnant together and i had my little boy a month ago so i feel like her having to look at/speak to me would just be a reminder of what i have and she doesnt. I think if that was me i would be bitter and resentful. of course i dont want to keep out of her way as if i was ignoring her, but i certainly dont want to make things harder.
as it is now ive just responded to her message letting her know im thinking of he and im her for her if she needs me. but i dont know if the best thing now is to leave it until shes ready to get in touch. i just think maybe if she wants to forget me and my son exist for a while i dont want to keep reminding her if that makes sense!
i would really appreciate any advice you might have for how i can help my friend. . .