A little help please. Eternity rings after first born??

[Daddy01]

Was hoping for your opinions. I have been with my wife for 10 years since we were teenagers. We got married in August 2011 and after an ectopic pregnancy in jan this year, she is now 25 weeks pregnant with our first and it's a boy!!

Is it expected to buy your wife an eternity ring after your first child? I have heard a few people say it is (all girls) and I don't want to not get her one and she be disappointed.

Any advice?

 

[Lissidoll123]

It's supposed to be after one year marriage or after the birth of your first child, whichever comes first!

However, we're only engaged and I've mentioned this to my OH but think it would be cheating seen as tho we aren't married yet!

 

[Daddy01]

How did I not know this?! Just a bloke I guess lol

 

[Anikonjo]

I've never heard of doing this and I'm positive my husband hasn't either. But it's very sweet of you to be considering it and I'm sure your wife would love it. I don't know that she's expecting you to get her one (I'm not), but if it was me I'd be overwhelmed at the gesture.

 

[Amour]

I didn't know this either!

Me personally I'm not fond of eternity rings, especially so soon after having my wedding set.

I've heard of pushing presents, I would personally prefer a nice pair of diamond earrings or a lovely necklace.

I say do what you feel, and what you feel would make your DW happy. Forget tradition and go with your heart..

P.S - I would love my DH to be thinking about something like this but I know he isn't.. Sigh!

 

[rachwill]

I didn't get one. i'd never tell my husband this because I know he'd be so upset if he knew but it made me quite upset at the time. I'm pretty sure it was because he didn't know it was 'the thing to do' and I'm not upset now as its much more important to have him as the wonderful husband and father that he is, but it did hurt at the time. I still haven't got one but I've been dropping some rather big hints now I'm due our 2nd and probably last child

 

[Koukla]

I've never heard of this... what's an eternity ring?

 

[Sweetz33]

Idk what it is either.....

 

[Taylah]

I think she would love it & I think it is so nice of you to think of it , you could even get both of yours & your bubs initials engraved on the inside - that is if you have picked a name ! You know like eg, m + n = t , I gave my hubby dog tags with my daughters name & birth date engraved for his first fathers day , he wears them all the time

 

[maggie111]

An eternity ring pretty much looks like this https://www.gottohavediamonds.com/images/HET513.jpg

sometimes the diamonds go all the way around. I do know a Mum who was very upset not to get an eternity ring after the birth of their first born.

It's our 10 year anniversary this year and I've told Hubs I'm expecting some jewellery which will be in place of an eternity ring in April.

I love baguette cut stones in a ring, sometimes they're with another jewel like a birth stone. Cor, this would do me! https://www.hemingjewels.com/produc.../3418?category_id=45&gemstone=cnVieQ==&page=1

 

[Livsmom]

An eternity ring pretty much looks like this https://www.gottohavediamonds.com/images/HET513.jpg

sometimes the diamonds go all the way around. I do know a Mum who was very upset not to get an eternity ring after the birth of their first born.

It's our 10 year anniversary this year and I've told Hubs I'm expecting some jewellery which will be in place of an eternity ring in April.

I love baguette cut stones in a ring, sometimes they're with another jewel like a birth stone. Cor, this would do me! https://www.hemingjewels.com/produc.../3418?category_id=45&gemstone=cnVieQ==&page=1

The band of my wedding ring looks just like this one! So beautiful. I am in the states, never heard of this tradition. Good thing as I didn't even get a card after the birth of my daughter LOL.

 

[ttc1soon]

I am from the US too and haven't heard of this either. We are expecting a child(ren) I wouldn't expect my husband to go out and spend money on jewelery, If something was to be spend on me and not them I would rather maybe get new clothes after they are born or something. I already have a half diamond band though. I would discuss it with her because it might be something important to her or she might not want it, I would think it would be better to ask then guess wrong.

 

[Butterfly89]

I've never heard of this either! I'm from Canada though... I didn't even know what they were. We don't have any rings at all, lol. We just know we are committed in our relationship and as parents and trust each other, and that's enough.

Is this a certain cultural or religious thing?? I'm shocked I could go 22 years and not know about it!!

 

[Bec27]

I've never heard of this before, I think if it's something you'd like to do as a gesture of your love and feeling of completion after baby then that's lovely. I don't think you should ever buy something because people or old sayings say you should though. It is a lot of financial pressure at a time when you will be spending a fortune setting up for baby too. So, my advice would be that if it's a gesture you feel your heart wants to make then get her one but if it's just others making you feel you should then definitely don't. I would never want my husband to do get me something unless he genuinely wanted to give it. Hope that helps

 

[hopefulfor1st]

We did it opposite- when we decided to ttc I got a really big diamond ring for our last blowout Christmas on each other! It's too big to wear on same finger as my engagement and wedding ring though- its double the diamond weight of them both put together. So I wear it on another finger

 

[Meilihua]

Yes it's tradition but no one really does it anymore, people just can't afford it!My Dad got my mum her eternity ring about 10 years ago!I'd love an eternity ring but with a baby on the way OH has much more important things to be spending his money on!I think it's sweet that you're even asking about this!You should defo get points for that

 

[lunamoona]

I used to tell my first husband that they were not called eternity rings because you had to wait an eternity to get one he was generally a very thoughtless person though, never bought me anything, not an engagement ring or wedding band.

My second hubby is a real sweety, got a fantastic eternity ring on our first anniversary to match my equally fantastic engagement and wedding rings

I'm not a materialistic person but getting what is traditionally expected was really heartwarming.

 

[J04NN4]

It is a tradition here in the UK, perhaps less common nowadays but all the women in my family got one from their OHs when they had their first. I know my OH has got me one (I caught him rooting about in my jewellery box trying to work out my ring size - now have to pretend it's a surprise on the day ).

He has done the most touching thing and bought me one with tanzanite - the baby's birthstone - which I think makes it even more meaningful (this only works as I'm due right in the middle of the month so baby will almost definitely arrive in December. If you want to do this and you're not 100% sure which month baby will arrive in, wait until he's born!)

So in all, no it's not entirely necessary, probably not even expected, but it's a lovely gesture and I'm sure she'll be very touched if you do!

 

[dan-o]

If we could have afforded it, my husband would have got me one, i know he was looking. We had better things to spend our cash on at the time tho, so I'm not worried!

 

[NYGirl]

My husband had one made for me for a combined anniversary (5 years) birthday and birth of 1st child pressie. We did it a while after daughter was born and I got to choose the design etc but he told me of his intentions while I was pregnant/just after baby was born so I knew about it. Truly lovely but want an expectation