A little help...

[Miss Rach]

Hey everyone...

Hope you are all ok and getting by...

I have moved over to LLTC as it's been over 2.5 years now. Immune problems have given me repeated miscarriage (have only just found out the cause!) and I can honestly say the last year has been the darkest of my life. I am on some treatment now with Dr George at Zita West, so fingers crossed it will all be ok...

I wonder if you ladies could give me some help.. I have decided to write a little book about this..specifically because I need something to focus on and I've found there are no books out there which show the truth about any of it, the horrible emotions - jealousy etc, that we have to deal with and how to cope with it. I'm hating the way all of this is a taboo. I tell very few people about my infertility because, pathetic I know, I am embarrassed by it.

Anyway, could anyone think of a great title? The focus is on how to cope with certain aspects of infertility, such as friend's babies etc,but it also has a humourous look into everything we have to go through. This is for us, longer terms (ha - sounds like prison terminology!) so if anyone is feeling particularly creative, please suggest!
Who knows if this will be published, but if it is, I'll put ya name in the front....;-) Seriously though, my hope is to help others who've felt sad and desperate and to make them feel they're not alone. It's the loneliness that has really sucked the life out of me in all of this.

Thanks and baby dust to us all...!

Rach x

 

[DAISYPRENCESS]

I just want to congratulate you for you idea. Yes, the loneliness is killing. Even more when you are far from your family and friends and your husband thinks about other staff but that.....
Good Luck with the book and when you have something written feel free to send me for a read.

 

[Miss Rach]

Hi Daisy,

Thanks so much for your words of encouragement...

I am away from friends and family too. We have moved to another country for hubbie's work and he is busy busy busy... So I am trying to keep myself occupied. It's funny though... even when I was back home, I felt lonely because all of my friends have kids and although we would go out for dinners, the conversations would always swing to their children. I get why and it's lovely, but hey...what about me? To be fair I have told very few people about this whole thing...

Do many people know about your struggles? Do you confide much in people? Where are you from originally?

Rach x

P.S - Sorry to hear about your chemical, I know exactly how traumatic they are...I have recurrent miscarriage due to my body attacking the embryo...immune problems..grrr!!!!

 

[DAISYPRENCESS]

Hi Miss Rach,

Sorry for your lost. Immune system is very unpredictable. It can protect you or hurt you a lot .

I live in the UK with my hubby. All my family is in Bulgaria except my mum and my mum - in - low ( they live in other countries. I had to leave my country because of lack of opportunities for me. I came to study here and currently looking for job with my education. Very stressful and difficult situation. I work also a lot of ours as a care assistant. I really need my family and friends but.... I chose to be far. I know it is for our best. I feel lonely very often though I communicate to many people and I have friends here too. I think the loneliness is more connected to my psychical condition than anything else. I want career and children. I am 29. I have very good education and just that . I wish thinks did not happen so slowly in my life. At least the positive thing is everything I wanted has happened even slowly. So I am trying to succeed and waiting for my baby. I hope all of us won't have to wait too long