A long vent but I can't help it

[iluvmyfamily]

I hate to vent, I really do, but I don't have anyone else to talk to. I mean, DH is aware of my feelings because we do talk about it, but since he's a man and NOT pregnant, he can only TRY to understand but he's not gonna completely get it.

This may be long so I'm apologizing in advance but I really gotta get it off my chest.

So, as some know in my previous pregnancies I was very, very sick. HG nearly killed me in my previous pregnancy. I am happy that I don't have HG in this pregnancy but I'm still going through some issues.

#1. I'm so constipated. TMI coming up but last night I went into the bathroom at 12:30am, I came out of the bathroom at 1:30am. One hour of sitting there in agony. It reminded me of labor and all I could think was "oh my gosh, I am not looking forward to this." Constipation sucks, you try to go but nothing happens, but this was worse because (TMI!) it was half out, half in, and very friggin painful. It happened again about an hour or so ago. Very, very painful.

#2. I barely pee but when I do it's dark. I know you all know that as I've mentioned it in other posts. I don't get it because I drink a lot of Sprite and tea throughout the day. Could it be that the Sprite isn't helping because it's sugar? Maybe I do need straight up water???

#3. Getting up to walk to the bathroom is a huge task. I almost fell in the bathroom the other day. I'm afraid for DH to go to work tomorrow because of this.

#4. I got 4 kids, 2 that go to school and one that goes on the bus which means I go downstairs to put her on the bus at 1:30pm, and I have to go back downstairs to get her off the bus at 4pm. I can't even move from the couch! She definitely needs to go to school because of her speech delay.

#5. I don't have anyone around me to help. That is seriously out of the question.

#6. I mentioned how I felt to my doctor at my last appt but all she can say is drink and eat little by little. It will pass.

#7. It's so hard to eat and not just because of nausea but because it's tiring and boring eating the same foods all the time! I don't know what else I can eat.

I am just so miserable and while some may tell me to be happy I'm at least pregnant while some are LTTC or TTC with complications, it's just so hard. I'm happy that I'm having another baby, I do look forward to buying for the baby, moving to PA in 3 months and doing the baby's nursery, but it's still so hard to get past this point and BE HAPPY.

I know I can't be the only one feeling so upset. Sorry this is so long but I just had to get it off my chest. What hurts the most is that DH told his boss when I was 5 weeks pregnant how I get when I'm pregnant and how he may have to stay home to help me, and his boss told him not to worry, they will work something out. Why won't DH call him and see if maybe he can work from home for a bit until I'm able to function on my own?!

 

[Mum2Micah]

Hugs x

 

[iluvmyfamily]

Thanks. I feel like bursting into tears because no one in my house seems to care what I'm going through.

 

[laila 44]

Hun. I hear you. That was me a few weeks ago to the tee. All I can say is hang in there I knw how rotten it is but believe it or not it does te better! At 10 weeks I flt much much better. I used to spend days and weeks on a couch feeling like a loser to the point where I was second guessing the pregnancy. Granted, I don't feel amazing but I'm able to function and go out as normal now. Just hang tight and by 10 weeks I'm sure you'll feel loads better. Weeks 5- 9 were hell for me but I see the light!!!! Take it day by day and tell yourself it s nt permanent and it will pass. Maybe hubby can stay home a bit longer??? Hugs xxx

 

[Bluewings]

Can DH take some vacation days to help you out?

I think you are dehydrated hon. Tea and Sprite aren't good enough. Better than nothing, but you need straight up water. Try having prunes, prune juice, oatmeal (Just plain if you can't tolerate much flavor), Greek yogurt, maybe Dh can bring you some roasted veggies? These should help you. Obviously since you're bed ridden you're not helping the constipation because you're not physically moving much. Can you move in bed? Force yourself to do bicycle motions with your legs while you lie on your back.

Have you tried forcing yourself to 1/3rd function throughout one day? Sometimes getting yourself out of the bed can help. Is your medication not working?

Your urine output and color is very concerning. If you've told your doctor you're not peeing more than once or twice a day and it's very dark, then you need to switch doctors because that is a sign of bad things. I still think you need to go to urgent care or ER for some fluids.

 

[daisyr21]

hang in there!! You need to drink lots of water. This will also help with the constipation. Doing some light excersice at home can also be helpful to get yourself out of a hump. It will get your circulation going and maybe make you feel a little bit better. Hope tomorrow is a better day

 

[tlk71411]

Hey girl sorry you're having a rough time. Popcorn actually helps with constipation-my bf had the same problem after surgery and then she started snacking on white Cheddar popcorn, but any kind works. You're def dehydrated! Tea & sprite don't Hydrate you enough.if you have a hard time with drinking a lot of water just try one glass before bed and one when you get up or one before each meal. Slices of lemon, lime, or any fruits are great in water,as well as mint leaves. Hope you're getting better!

 

[Crazywaiter]

I'm sorry you're not well. I definitely agree you need water...electrolyte water or coconut water would be a good idea. Being properly hydrated makes a HUGE difference in every area, including fatigue, lightheadedness, and constipation. I hope your hubs can give you the extra help you need and you're feeling good soon!

 

[sweetavenue]

Water, water and more water. Probiotics can help with constipation (get them approved by your doctor!)- or Greek yogurt was a great suggestion above. Coconut water is great if uou can stomach the taste (DH loves it, i hate it).. it is so easy for our body to break down that they used to use coconut water directly in IVS to hydrate soldiers. Hummus is supposed to be great for pregnant people, too. Nourish yourself with actual food (not sprite) and you'll probably feel a ton better.

 

[justhoping]

#2. I barely pee but when I do it's dark. I know you all know that as I've mentioned it in other posts. I don't get it because I drink a lot of Sprite and tea throughout the day. Could it be that the Sprite isn't helping because it's sugar? Maybe I do need straight up water???

this can definitly constipate you...it sounds like you are in need of water and not just for this reason,.it will help with ur aches and pain in those muscles and help them stop from spasming that makes it hard and painful for you to move...

can u also call your local church and see if there is someone who would like to be a mommys helper?? even if its just a few hours a day.....


im sorry your feeling like this..u also may want to talk to your doctor about something called spd...its ur joints not working right during pregnancy..not much u can do but pain killers and rest and hydration and help...

feel better

 

[calliebaby]

Tea is actually very dehydrating. I would avoid it and switch to water.

 

[October2013]

I have #2, #3, #5, #6, and #7. I'm having a hard time being happy, about anything at all. As soon as I get a break from my constant nausea and cramps, they come back, so it's hard to get excited when I know the relief won't last.
I mean of course I'm excited to be having a baby in 7ish months, I can't wait to start buying furniture, find out the sex, and pick a name, but the last 3 weeks have been pure hell.
The worst for me is the "kidney" pain. I use the " " because I don't actually know that it's in my kidneys, that's just where it feels like. The pain is always there, it never goes away, and it makes my nausea worse. The thought of drinking water still makes me sicker than anything else. THERE IS NO WAY I CAN STOMACH WATER. I'm so scared of how unhealthy and malnourished I am. At least I can manage to choke down a prenatal vitamin everyday.
House work is a thing of the past for me, and my bf doesn't help which drives me NUTS. I tried to clean up my bedroom a little while ago and became so nauseous I had to lay back down.
I have no one but my bf and the people on here to talk to about how I'm feeling. My mom never checks up on me. She does however text me "good night" every night, but never calls to see how I am doing. I'm 24 years old, 600 miles away from her, and pregnant with my first, she knows how bad my ms has been, you'd think she'd be calling more often!
All I do is lay in bed all day and wait for my bf to come home so I have another person to talk to. I sleep into the late afternoon and take one to two naps in the evening. I cannot wait to get passed this.
hugs hugs hugs We may have a couple more weeks, but we WILL get through this!

 

[AlyssaAngel]

Things cleared a little for me at 10 weeks, I just still feel SO TIRED! I want to drink coffee and lots of it, sigh. Popcorn is great so is spinach, for constipation. It's all the fiber, I have some in my cereal too. I'm no good at drinking water either so what I do is buy a carton of pure juice, fill the cup about 1/3 juice 2/3rds water. When I do that I can easily drink 8-10 glasses a day where as usually I can barely drink 3 lol I have low blood sugar so the juice helps keep me going through out the day too. I had dark urine too, turns out bladder infection, might want to test for that since during pregnancy it can feel really different to any other time you get one. Since having that infection I've felt sooo much worse, so much more tired, so worth the shot.

 

[jojo_b]

Eugh feel so sorrry for you. It's hard because people expect you to be super grateful for being pregnant, which of course we are, but it's hard to be grateful for what feels like a many-month long illness. It's so hard I agree with the others though - you definitely need more water. If your tea is decaf it shouldn't dehydrate you, but the body finds it harder o absorb gassy drinks than flat drinks like water or juice. Have you tried pure orange/apple juice? They should definitely get things moving down there xx

 

[PetiteMoi]

So sorry to hear you're feeling so ill hun and you're not getting the support you need from your family

I'm becoming a little bit bitter about things actually. I can't believe us women have to go through this sh**y time while men can just live on as normal and don't even seem to understand how much this is actually affecting us!!! For God's sake stay at home and take care you your pregnant woman, it's the least you can do!!!! Aaarrgh it upsets me so much.

You know what? If men had to go through this they would get soooooo much help from society you wouldn't even believe it. They would NOT be expected to work/take care of the kids, that's for sure.

Hang in there and have a long and proper talk with your husband, tell him you are NOT coping and he is going to HAVE to stay home and help you, otherwise you're going to fall apart and so is your family.

Sorry to vent on your thread but I feel so upset for all women who don't have supportive husbands!!!

 

[elociN]

I know how you feel, I have been really sick with all of mine too and not much better now, plus have a really bad tummy bug on top of everything else.
Constipation is very unpleasant, I am taking iron and it makes it worse i think. Try eating some dried apricots or prunes if you can stomach them.
Drinking sprite and tea is no good. Sprite will not help hydration because of high sugar content and caffeine in tea actually will dehydrate you.
Try drinking water with some lemon juice or maybe herbal teas if you can stand them, I know some people can't.
Hope you feel better soon and your husband can take some time off work. Is he able to take a few days compassionate leave?

 

[HappyBump25]

#2. I barely pee but when I do it's dark. I know you all know that as I've mentioned it in other posts. I don't get it because I drink a lot of Sprite and tea throughout the day. Could it be that the Sprite isn't helping because it's sugar? Maybe I do need straight up water???

this can definitly constipate you...it sounds like you are in need of water and not just for this reason,.it will help with ur aches and pain in those muscles and help them stop from spasming that makes it hard and painful for you to move...

can u also call your local church and see if there is someone who would like to be a mommys helper?? even if its just a few hours a day.....


im sorry your feeling like this..u also may want to talk to your doctor about something called spd...its ur joints not working right during pregnancy..not much u can do but pain killers and rest and hydration and help...

feel better

I was going to post exactly this. Water will help with clearing your urine and easing up the constipation. But you need a LOT of it to do its job. Hope you feel better soon.

 

[iluvmyfamily]

I cannot thank you all enough for taking the time out to reply to me. I appreciate it SO much. It's so good to know there are people who understand where I'm coming from.

I had a talk with DH last night about everything. I told him straight out, I know we're behind in bills and our rent is so much, and we pay out of pocket for my appts because Medicaid hasn't done anything for me, but I didn't impregnate myself and I'm all alone. He told me that he's gonna talk to his boss, so he emailed him last night explaining the situation. His boss told him not to worry, that he's not sitting there saying "James took off another day!" -- It's fine, I know this is a serious situation and things happen. I'm not letting you go so that's one thing you don't have to worry. I am however worried about you not getting any money in so I'm gonna see if I can give you hours so you get some money.

That I am very grateful for. DH may take the whole week off. As for drinking water, you guys are totally right but I have a problem drinking it, so I'm thinking maybe seltzer water since it's fizzy? I know in one of my pregnancies I couldn't drink water even well into the 2nd trimester, so I started drinking seltzer soda all day and I felt 100% better. So I'm gonna give it a try. I'm normally a water-drinker but because of the first trimester, I struggle all the time. I'm not too sure why that is. The only time I drink tea is when I'm so nauseous I can't stand it, I drink peppermint tea. I'm not sure if it's decaf or not. I haven't checked.

For the person who mentioned SPD, I've had that since pregnancy #2. It's so painful and even after giving birth to my kids I still had it! But I think you're right about everything, too.

I'm gonna see what I can possibly do today because I am not one to lie around in bed all day and get nothing done. I can't handle this!

 

[laila 44]

I can't even look at water there's no way I can drink it and I don't know why.... So annoying. I am drinking iced tea and juice but honestly I cant wait until I can chug water bottles again so I can spare myself the calories.

 

[iluvmyfamily]

What if it was seltzer water? since it's fizzy?