I am due somewhere between the 16th (scan dates) and 19th December (LMP date) so am looking at a Christmas baby. I am hoping to have the baby before xmas but there is a real possibility that I may still be pg, or even in the hospital! Anyway, even if the baby is born before xmas he will more than likely be only a week old, or there abouts. My question is this - how long do you bleed for after birth? And also how long do you bleed HEAVILY? We are trying to decide what to do for Christmas day. I am happy to just stay at home in the air conditioning and have everyone come to us (this is what usually happens on xmas day anyway). It will be a pretty laid back affair. I will be looked after by my dotting husband and all I have to do is make sure the baby is well fed Christmas food for us is pretty easy, we do salads, fruit, prawns and oysters. I buy the fruit, MIL brings the bread and salads and my parents bring the seafood. So easy as, not a problem, and the house will be cool and air conditioned. My mother has just informed me that she wants to have Christmas day at her place this year - so it will be easier on me. Their house is very hot and doesn't have air con, but they have the pool. She says that way i can relax and not do anything and everyone can swim int he pool. It's all very nice of her to offer, BUT, I kind of think that I would just be happier at home. I don't really fancy lugging all the baby stuff around, and sitting in the hot house all uncomfortable (I don't handle the heat very well!) and being all sweaty while breastfeeding and such. As much as i would LOVE to swim on xmas day and cool off, won't I be bleeding too much anyway??? I mentioned this to my mum today and she said, 'what, still bleeding?' like it stops immediately after you give birth!! I had my son 10 years ago, and I don't remember how long I bled for but I do know it didn't stop right away! Am I being selfish by wanting to stay at home for xmas? I will be over her house every day leading up to the birth for swims and as soon as I am able to will be back for swims after the birth, should I have to endure an uncomfortable xmas day just because she has it in her head that it will be easier for me? Her and Dad have also been doing lots of work in the garden and repairing the balcony so it will be all nice for xmas so people can all be there. I feel bad because xmas is always at our house and I know she would like to have it there, but I really just would rather be at home Should I stand my ground or give in and keep the peace?