AAHH!!! Taking a Break!!

[BabyChaser09]

Well I've been feeling cramps for the past two days, and even though I knew AF was coming--as she always does--it was very disappointing when I saw a very slight spot of pink tonight when I wiped. My TTC mind said "maybe this is just spotting. There's still a chance!", but my normal mind said "your period is here. you're almost out of tampons".

I can't deal with the disappointment month after month of "doing everything right". So for my sanity, after 8 months of TTC, I absolutely need a break. I'll only mark the beginning and end of my period for the sake of keeping track of it. I won't look at cycle dates or DPO, or do OPKs or even use Preseed. I'll continue with my vitamins as usual, but that's it. In the back of my mind I'll always hope that I'm pregnant, but I can't have it be my main focus anymore.

Has anyone else taken a break or felt like they needed a break from TTC?

 

[CrazyCharlie2]

I'm feeling that way and we've only been at it for 4 months!

 

[siempre]

Same here. 4 months of BFN. Feel like I'm done. Really hope this doesn't go on for years, I'll go insane.
But I'll go on. What else can we do?
I was also considering giving up temp'ing this month, but then read that fertility doctors can take you more seriously if you have those charts, and they might be helpful somehow if we end up in that boat. So I'm keeping going.

 

[Ckelly79]

Hi hun im contemplating this too. Ive realised I spend too much time stressing that we are bd at right time getting crabby if we dont have time then worrying we missed the slot. It got to the point where bding was all about catching the egg instead of being with my lovely husband.
I even started to get jealous when people announced they were expecting. I was spending half my life on here symptom spotting. So this
month I too have noted when
new cycle started and when I af should be due. Already I feel better. Hope you get to relax and not think about ttc

 

[han17]

Hi all,
Really pleased I came across this.... Hubby and I have been trying since July 2012, during this Time I have changed jobs, we brought a house and decorated completely... So I guess a little stressed. Anyway two weeks ago when my period came, we decided to take a break. I feed up of feeling disappointed and upset, so if I have no expectations I shouldn't get myself so upset. I am incredibly regular so I already know when I am fertile which is difficult to get out of my head, but like you said - I won't be temping, using ovulation sticks... But I will keep taking my tabs.

I hope with relaxing about it it will happen.

Good luck to you all

Xx

 

[Hoping4aBoy]

Well I've been feeling cramps for the past two days, and even though I knew AF was coming--as she always does--it was very disappointing when I saw a very slight spot of pink tonight when I wiped. My TTC mind said "maybe this is just spotting. There's still a chance!", but my normal mind said "your period is here. you're almost out of tampons".

I can't deal with the disappointment month after month of "doing everything right". So for my sanity, after 8 months of TTC, I absolutely need a break. I'll only mark the beginning and end of my period for the sake of keeping track of it. I won't look at cycle dates or DPO, or do OPKs or even use Preseed. I'll continue with my vitamins as usual, but that's it. In the back of my mind I'll always hope that I'm pregnant, but I can't have it be my main focus anymore.

Has anyone else taken a break or felt like they needed a break from TTC?

Your post made me laugh and sad for you at the same time. I know how stressful this process can be. Hubs and I have been TTC for about 3 and 1/2 years now. I have had every test done, have done clomid, clomid with a trigger shot, and now we are taking a shot every night in preparation for IUI. Which I am really really hoping that the IUI takes place in the next day or two. The medicine makes me really ill. Not sure how people take these meds and still feel like being intimate.....

Taking a break is very important, I took a 6 month break from charting and drugs. Now we are back at it. I cannot get over how expensive this process can be..... Not like I don't have other things to be concerned with....

Good luck hun.

 

[BabyChaser09]

Hi hun im contemplating this too. Ive realised I spend too much time stressing that we are bd at right time getting crabby if we dont have time then worrying we missed the slot. It got to the point where bding was all about catching the egg instead of being with my lovely husband.
I even started to get jealous when people announced they were expecting. I was spending half my life on here symptom spotting. So this
month I too have noted when
new cycle started and when I af should be due. Already I feel better. Hope you get to relax and not think about ttc

yes yes yes! you said it all! my "last straw" was when my brother in law and his wife announced on christmas that they were pregnant. i could have DIED with jealousy, and tried so hard to look joyful. deep down, i was happy for them, but my sadness for me was more powerful than sharing their moment of happiness. And that, to me, wasn't OK. That's not who I am. And they're an amazing couple who have been together since high school. And since I've made the decision to stop "trying" a week ago when showed up, I can be genuinely happy for them. It feels like a weight off my shoulders.

 

[BabyChaser09]

Well I've been feeling cramps for the past two days, and even though I knew AF was coming--as she always does--it was very disappointing when I saw a very slight spot of pink tonight when I wiped. My TTC mind said "maybe this is just spotting. There's still a chance!", but my normal mind said "your period is here. you're almost out of tampons".

I can't deal with the disappointment month after month of "doing everything right". So for my sanity, after 8 months of TTC, I absolutely need a break. I'll only mark the beginning and end of my period for the sake of keeping track of it. I won't look at cycle dates or DPO, or do OPKs or even use Preseed. I'll continue with my vitamins as usual, but that's it. In the back of my mind I'll always hope that I'm pregnant, but I can't have it be my main focus anymore.

Has anyone else taken a break or felt like they needed a break from TTC?

Your post made me laugh and sad for you at the same time. I know how stressful this process can be. Hubs and I have been TTC for about 3 and 1/2 years now. I have had every test done, have done clomid, clomid with a trigger shot, and now we are taking a shot every night in preparation for IUI. Which I am really really hoping that the IUI takes place in the next day or two. The medicine makes me really ill. Not sure how people take these meds and still feel like being intimate.....

Taking a break is very important, I took a 6 month break from charting and drugs. Now we are back at it. I cannot get over how expensive this process can be..... Not like I don't have other things to be concerned with....

Good luck hun.

Thanks for your response! I'm really hoping you get a BFP soon, after going through all of what you've gone through in this TTC process! You're sooooo right. A break is NECESSARY for our sanity. What I'm really anxious about is if that 12 month mark gets here and I'm not pregnant. Aaaah!! It's just all so emotionally draining!

 

[BabyChaser09]

Hi all,
Really pleased I came across this.... Hubby and I have been trying since July 2012, during this Time I have changed jobs, we brought a house and decorated completely... So I guess a little stressed. Anyway two weeks ago when my period came, we decided to take a break. I feed up of feeling disappointed and upset, so if I have no expectations I shouldn't get myself so upset. I am incredibly regular so I already know when I am fertile which is difficult to get out of my head, but like you said - I won't be temping, using ovulation sticks... But I will keep taking my tabs.

I hope with relaxing about it it will happen.

Good luck to you all

Xx

Hi Han17! Can we be non-TTC buddies? lol I've been TTC since May 2013, and I have an EXTREMELY regular cycle, and I always feel ovulation pains on day 13 or 14. Usually day 14. So, for the most part, I think my cycle is OK. So i'm wondering what could the issue be??? I hope that getting back to just when we feel like it, and not necessarily for a will be helpful.

 

[Ckelly79]

Yes babychaser09 getting back to bd meaning more than being consumed by baby making is whats needed my end.
Feel better and more relaxed after writing about taking a break . It took me 12mths to the day last time. Im currently on 7th cycle this time

 

[BabyChaser09]

I'm feeling that way and we've only been at it for 4 months!

I was feeling that way early on, too!

 

[BabyChaser09]

Yes babychaser09 getting back to bd meaning more than being consumed by baby making is whats needed my end.
Feel better and more relaxed after writing about taking a break . It took me 12mths to the day last time. Im currently on 7th cycle this time

Well instead of "good luck", i'm going to say HAVE FUN! And happy NON-TTC

 

[han17]

Baby chaser, would love to be non TTC buddies
I don't have pains around ovulation but have used sticks in the last and defo know I ovulate, plus by my blood results I defo ovulate!!

Have u had any tests or anything?? Xx

 

[BabyChaser09]

Baby chaser, would love to be non TTC buddies
I don't have pains around ovulation but have used sticks in the last and defo know I ovulate, plus by my blood results I defo ovulate!!

Have u had any tests or anything?? Xx

Noooo, no tests yet! My doctor said since i'm "young" (read: under 30 lol) and my OPKs show ovulation, and i have ovulation pains and a very regular period, she's not concerned as yet. We made a followup appointment for May (my 12 month mark of TTC) so we can start testing just in case I'm not pregnant by then. Have you had any tests done? Do you generally have a regular period? I'm trying to figure out what to expect if I still am not pregnant by May.

 

[han17]

I went to the docs sept 2012 because my periods were 3 days long after coming off the pill and I wasn't sure whether that was normal so my doc sent me for blood tests to check I was ovulating... Ur results are supposed to be between 2-35 and I was 70... So double the average and defo ovulating!
Then in October 2013 I went back to the docs and he referred me to a fertility clinic... Had more blood tests, etc etc, internal scan and this morning I'm going for a hsg (it's an X-ray of my tubes). That's the tests u have done in the first instance.
I say we have been trying since July 2012 however during that time we got back from honeymoon, decided to buy a house and completely renovate it and I got quite a high pressured job.... So very stressful!!

All tests r coming back fine but since me and hubby have been referred we're going to calm down on the TTC journey.

I think ur doc is right about coming back in may... U don't want to put too much pressure on urself. However if u don't want to wait, u don't have too... Be persistent with ur doc.

My problem this month is actually getting out of my head my ovulation days... Are u finding that a problem? The good thing last month is I came on a day early so I "think" I know when the right time is but I might actually be wrong lol!!
Also with having the hsg, we haven't been able to have sex from my period until after today (cd13) so it's really mad me relax that little bit more!!

Xx

 

[BabyChaser09]

I went to the docs sept 2012 because my periods were 3 days long after coming off the pill and I wasn't sure whether that was normal so my doc sent me for blood tests to check I was ovulating... Ur results are supposed to be between 2-35 and I was 70... So double the average and defo ovulating!
Then in October 2013 I went back to the docs and he referred me to a fertility clinic... Had more blood tests, etc etc, internal scan and this morning I'm going for a hsg (it's an X-ray of my tubes). That's the tests u have done in the first instance.
I say we have been trying since July 2012 however during that time we got back from honeymoon, decided to buy a house and completely renovate it and I got quite a high pressured job.... So very stressful!!

All tests r coming back fine but since me and hubby have been referred we're going to calm down on the TTC journey.

I think ur doc is right about coming back in may... U don't want to put too much pressure on urself. However if u don't want to wait, u don't have too... Be persistent with ur doc.

My problem this month is actually getting out of my head my ovulation days... Are u finding that a problem? The good thing last month is I came on a day early so I "think" I know when the right time is but I might actually be wrong lol!!
Also with having the hsg, we haven't been able to have sex from my period until after today (cd13) so it's really mad me relax that little bit more!!

Xx

I will always try to know when my ovulation days are but I REFUSE to pay it any attention!! lol See, thats the thing thats frustrating, thogh. when all tests come back fine but you're still not getting a BFP! I guess, everyone's body does things on its own time. The good news is, you know you and your hubby are fine health-wise!