V- Measles outbreak. Wow, I would keep my baby locked away too. It's hard to believe these kinds of diseases are making a resurgence in this day and age. I can understand why folks don't like vaccines but I am way more scared of something like measles than any side effect of a vaccine.
Hopefully you will find a group of mommies you can identify with and not the stuffy ones. I wouldn't be able to bear hanging around moms like that. It gets even worse as your kids get older, unfortunately.
AFM: Yeah, I've already been thinking about #3. I almost have to start thinking now because of my age. Right now, my heart wants a third, but I really have no idea how life will be with 2--or if it's feasible financially. Or if I'll even be able to get pregnant again. Or if I can get dh to take those vitamins again.
He has brought up the subject with me in a joking way that he doesn't want another, but it's so hard to tell how he really feels because he also joked like that about #1 and #2. Really, the hardest part would be getting him to take those vitamins again. I've been trying to figure out if I could grind them up and put them in a smoothie or something without him noticing, because he will pretty much eat anything as long as I prepare it for him.
But V, Pink, and Merri, I have a feeling all of you will be going for #2 when the time is right. In a few months, all of the pain of childbirth and the infant stage will be a distant memory. Also, it's hard not to be tempted when all of your kid's friends are getting siblings. There's a lot of pressure and folks who have made a decision to stick with one really have to have strong resolve because all anybody is going to talk about once your kid gets out of the baby stage is when are you going to give them a sibling.
My theory is that having another is not a decision that anyone makes logically and if you have to think about it, that probably means that you will eventually want another. Like for me, I not only think about having #3, but what kind of permanent birth control I'm going to get after that child gets here, because I am 100% certain I don't want a fourth child.