Dinoslass
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In my opinion that is not long at all. In Holland a regular adoption would take about 4-5 years from the time you file for adoption until you will actually have the child. This in my opinion is an insane long time and totally cruel to the parents that are wanting to be parents and in many cases also to the child, because it can happen that a child is bein appointed but still needs to stay in the country of origin for months sometimes even years until the actual move to their family.
Adopting goes through agencies that are appointed by the government to act in adoptions. The reasoning for the long waits (by them) is that there are more parents wanting to adopt than children. I am totally disgusted by that because I have seen the many orphanages abroad full of children that with a bit of legal work could be adopted out instead of spending their life in an orphanage without any relatives showing any interests in them whatsoever. I think the agencies here are keeping it like this to make it special and thereby expensive to adopt a child.
Also there is no adopting over the age of 6 (unless siblings together with one of them being under 6) and people tend to talk about older adoptive children if they are over 2 years old. I can imagine people wanting babies but I know not all bother about that but this way it doesn't give the so called older children much chances.
I have to say in Holland we are almost always talking about adopting abroad seeing the average wait for a dutch adoptive child is about 10 years I think.
Sorry for going on a bit, but it is something close to my heart!! My children were 6, 5 and 3 when they came to live with us, so all old children, though it never made a slight bit of difference to how we feel about each other. They are our children and though I regret not knowing them from an early age sometimes because they do ask questions that I can't answer (when did I start to walk and things like that) it has nothing to do how you love a child.
Adopting goes through agencies that are appointed by the government to act in adoptions. The reasoning for the long waits (by them) is that there are more parents wanting to adopt than children. I am totally disgusted by that because I have seen the many orphanages abroad full of children that with a bit of legal work could be adopted out instead of spending their life in an orphanage without any relatives showing any interests in them whatsoever. I think the agencies here are keeping it like this to make it special and thereby expensive to adopt a child.
Also there is no adopting over the age of 6 (unless siblings together with one of them being under 6) and people tend to talk about older adoptive children if they are over 2 years old. I can imagine people wanting babies but I know not all bother about that but this way it doesn't give the so called older children much chances.
I have to say in Holland we are almost always talking about adopting abroad seeing the average wait for a dutch adoptive child is about 10 years I think.
Sorry for going on a bit, but it is something close to my heart!! My children were 6, 5 and 3 when they came to live with us, so all old children, though it never made a slight bit of difference to how we feel about each other. They are our children and though I regret not knowing them from an early age sometimes because they do ask questions that I can't answer (when did I start to walk and things like that) it has nothing to do how you love a child.