Advice on situation with OH/FOB

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what jade and ally said! what a scumbag! confront him! how could he do that to you? and what a slag, cheating on her boyfriend with someone else's who has a baby coming. gosh people these days.
 
Thats pretty terrible, they both sound pathetic. I would message the boyfriend. He has every right to know what his girlfriend is doing. and confront yours as well.
 
I would personally leave the email open on my computer, and let him see that i obviously seen it and see what he says. Thats what i do when i see something i dont particularly like. Although the worst thing my OH has ever said to anyone on facebook was he called a girl hes been friends with since he was a kid "hun" and i got upset (i know it sounds dumb) only because thats what he calls me, so to me it was the same as calling her sexy or baby.

I personally am not the type to get into others relationships, i would probably send her a message with the picture you took and tell her if she doesnt tell her boyfriend you will. He deserves to hear it from her.
 
And to add i agree that privacy is important and everyone deserves it, but i have one password for EVERYTHING, including the password on my computer so my OH knows my password for every account i have. Andi have access to his accounts aswell.

The way I look at it if you wont give the person you plan to spend your life with your password, then you obviously are hiding something from them. Noone needs privacy if they are honest and have nothing to hide, Cause your OH would already know everything.
 
Tanara said:
And to add i agree that privacy is important and everyone deserves it, but i have one password for EVERYTHING, including the password on my computer so my OH knows my password for every account i have. Andi have access to his accounts aswell.

The way I look at it if you wont give the person you plan to spend your life with your password, then you obviously are hiding something from them. Noone needs privacy if they are honest and have nothing to hide, Cause your OH would already know everything.
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Agreed. Obviously if you check that stuff obsessively, then you should prolly work on your trust, but if you are spending you life with someone, what do you need to keep private?
 
Desi's_lost said:
Tanara said:
And to add i agree that privacy is important and everyone deserves it, but i have one password for EVERYTHING, including the password on my computer so my OH knows my password for every account i have. Andi have access to his accounts aswell.

The way I look at it if you wont give the person you plan to spend your life with your password, then you obviously are hiding something from them. Noone needs privacy if they are honest and have nothing to hide, Cause your OH would already know everything.
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Agreed. Obviously if you check that stuff obsessively, then you should prolly work on your trust, but if you are spending you life with someone, what do you need to keep private?
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Very true.
x
 
agreed the only time i look at anything of his, is when its left up. I dont remember the last time i looked
 
Hey sorry to butt in,
I lurk on this forum sometimes.....
Im really sorry your OH has done this to you!!
If i found that from my OH to some other girl, just because im a bitch i would post the pic of the email on Facebook and tag them both in it and name it DUMPED or something like that!
Nothing like a bit of revenge :)
 
Pixie19 said:
Hey sorry to butt in,
I lurk on this forum sometimes.....
Im really sorry your OH has done this to you!!
If i found that from my OH to some other girl, just because im a bitch i would post the pic of the email on Facebook and tag them both in it and name it DUMPED or something like that!
Nothing like a bit of revenge :)
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What a great idea! Do that :haha:
 
^ evil.. But I great way to get revenge :haha:
I hope your ok though Hun, it must be hard to find this out about someone you care about so much :hugs: xx
 
OK so last year when I was doing my ASLevels my OH of 3 years was seeing another girl behind my back he told me he was for football with the lads he left at 7pm never returned to 11pm, I thought they were in a crash or something terrible had happened. I had a gut feeling something was wrong! (he had taken her to the cinema) He stayed in my home after being out with her and slept with me that night with no problem and gave nothing away, even when I told him I had been crying as I thought something was up. He reassured me they watched a indoor match of boxing that went on late.

So I still had no idea a friend told me that they were with Keelin a mate who was supposedly at the footie that night, I got suspicious but no one said anything else about it. I heard a rumour they were out together so I followed it up I got her MSN addy and asked her:
-Heard you went to the pics with my BF!
-Yeah
-He said you two were just friends and a casual thing
-3 years steady
She agreed to meet me and assured me she had messages on her phone that would reassure me that he was a cheat and that he was to blame and not her. Messages said
-I really want to be with you (she was getting back with her OH) I could treat you soo much better than him Id treat you like a princess. . . . blah blah blah

So I went on hols like I was supposed to a couple of days later needless to say I ended things with him and found myself a rebound guy who lived close to me at home (pure chance). When I came back I went to see OH and got my new found guy friend to lift me I climbed in a car with him and waved goodbye (he begged me to stay.) I broke all contact for 3 months (he begged to get back, cried, waited outside my house for 3 months I changed my number and acted as if he didn’t exist) we ended up back together and we are 100% stronger and I now trust him only now though we are 4 years this year.

When you have that ‘feeling’ it’s usually right, confront and get all the details make your decision from there :hugs: I hope you can come through this xxxx

EDIT: sorry for the long life story rant :blush:
 
i'd confront him! and i'd show her Bf there msg's Too bc I would want some one to tell me my DH was doing things he wasnt suppose to!!
 
I'd show her bf. I wouldn't even talk to her, since she's a slag. :haha:
 
I would message her and her man and let your man know where you stand with the situation ( I am not sure how you would deal with it) but he would be history and there is NO reason you shouldnt have his password.Arent you carrying his baby? I just dont get some men!!!!!!!!!! (hugs)
 
mayb_baby said:
OK so last year when I was doing my ASLevels my OH of 3 years was seeing another girl behind my back he told me he was for football with the lads he left at 7pm never returned to 11pm, I thought they were in a crash or something terrible had happened. I had a gut feeling something was wrong! (he had taken her to the cinema) He stayed in my home after being out with her and slept with me that night with no problem and gave nothing away, even when I told him I had been crying as I thought something was up. He reassured me they watched a indoor match of boxing that went on late.

So I still had no idea a friend told me that they were with Keelin a mate who was supposedly at the footie that night, I got suspicious but no one said anything else about it. I heard a rumour they were out together so I followed it up I got her MSN addy and asked her:
-Heard you went to the pics with my BF!
-Yeah
-He said you two were just friends and a casual thing
-3 years steady
She agreed to meet me and assured me she had messages on her phone that would reassure me that he was a cheat and that he was to blame and not her. Messages said
-I really want to be with you (she was getting back with her OH) I could treat you soo much better than him Id treat you like a princess. . . . blah blah blah

So I went on hols like I was supposed to a couple of days later needless to say I ended things with him and found myself a rebound guy who lived close to me at home (pure chance). When I came back I went to see OH and got my new found guy friend to lift me I climbed in a car with him and waved goodbye (he begged me to stay.) I broke all contact for 3 months (he begged to get back, cried, waited outside my house for 3 months I changed my number and acted as if he didn’t exist) we ended up back together and we are 100% stronger and I now trust him only now though we are 4 years this year.

When you have that ‘feeling’ it’s usually right, confront and get all the details make your decision from there :hugs: I hope you can come through this xxxx

EDIT: sorry for the long life story rant :blush:
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Your a strong person,I am glad you let him suffer lol but also glad it all worked out (hugs)
 
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