advice on surname fiasco...?

[suzanne108]

Dizzy - I agree with that!

FOBs SIL asked me whose surname I would be giving baby so I told her mine. She was like "OMG have you told him?" so I was like no....she said "well don't you think you should? how you gonna tell him?"

Why should I have to sit him down and break it to him gently????....I couldn't give a shit what surname he thinks LO should have!! And why be so arrogant to presume that you can leave me then use your surname......grrrrrrr it gets me so angry.

She's coming here to go shopping (or spy) on thursday and she better not mention it again!!!!

 

[KaeRit21]

FOB text me earlier out the blue to ask what i was planning to do and i told him straight, bumps having my name, he sulked and moaned and i just felt like saying ohh NOW you care? NOW something is getting to YOU. tough
also told him hes welcome at the hosp but im not up for having him in the room while im in labour and giving birth.
ive given up tip-toeing around him

xx

 

[purpledahlia]

The FOB knows im using my name and about the birth room, i told him i want someone with me who i can TRUST and of course he twisted it to be about him!!! but he settled on ebing at the hospital and maybe around when im just in labour but NOT the birth, no way. he just doesnt know about birth cert yet thats all!

 

[KaeRit21]

i know how you feel hun, FOB makes everything to be about him, but i told him straight that i wanted my mum and not him. think hes in the huff from our "discussion" earlier, he hasnt text again all afternoon.

xx

 

[lou_w34]

I think your both amazing for letting them be at the hospital!
Just the thought of my ex lurking around outside is enough to stress me out more, then again he is as useful as a chocolate teapot, and only does what he wants, so he would try to get in somehow, so thats probs why im not letting him.

As for letting him no about the birth cert, i personally wouldnt tell him until youve done it, but thats just me lol, i cant be bothered with all the explaining and the arguments lol

 

[KaeRit21]

i know that feeling...mines is about as much use as that too but the options there, if hes there hes there, if hes not hes not.

i cnt be bothered worrying about him anymore, done enough of that for long enough lol

xxx

 

[lou_w34]

My thoughts exactly... i tell myself not to worry about him, as i have bigger and more important things to worry about, yet somehow he always seems to worm his way in! grrr lol

 

[KaeRit21]

wouldnt it be nice to feel worried about for a change??

xx

 

[lou_w34]

Oh id love that... however i think that will only be a dream lol

 

[KaeRit21]

yea, ahhh who needs em, we're stronger than that anyway

xx

 

[lou_w34]

Exactly... besides were the ones who are gaining something, while their throwing it away. We win, they lose... shame lol

 

[KaeRit21]

exactly

xxx

 

[purpledahlia]

yeah i think il put off telling him about the birth cert for now.... wait n see if he brings it up... can always get my dad to drive to register it on the way home from the hospital while he goes home before me to.. i dunno.. put the kettle on hahaha,

 

[lou_w34]

Haha =D

Does he know that he has to be there to have his name put on it? If he doesnt, to avoid arguments you could say you didnt know that, and had to do anyways cos of csa or what not lol

 

[purpledahlia]

dunno if he knows... ill just do it hahah! he can have a huff another day! hes ignored me this week so hes loosing chances!

 

[lou_w34]

Exactly, and im sure he's had more than enough chances already! Just do it without him there, and if he doesnt mention the birth cert, then dont bring it up, that way everyones happy =D

 

[KaeRit21]

ive just been talkin to my mum, if things go the way we think they are, im not naming plonker on the birth cert either that way hes got no claim and i dont need to worry about him

xxx