yellowyamyam
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Hi everyone,
I just need some advice on meeting a good friend who is pregnant with a boy.
She announced her pregnancy a week after I did. DH and I took 13 months to conceive and she and her husband were just TRYING to see if it works for them. They weren't really trying for one; toying with the idea was more like it and BAM! They hit the jackpot the 1st month. While I was happily telling this group of goodfriends about my news, she told us the following and I couldn't help to feel she stole my limelight. It took me about a few days to feel excited for her then we started sharing pregnancy news/journes/symptoms, etc.
When I lost our son, she found out the following day it happened. That night itself, her husband posted a video of their 16 weeks scan on FB and announced it was a boy. It was like a knife into my heart. I lost our son at 16 weeks 5 days. I found out ours was a boy when the doc checked on him when I was in the A&E. I asked the doc if she could tell the sex of the baby. She was reluctant to tell me but I said DH knew it was a boy since day 1. Because of that, I thought it was a girl so I just wanted to know... the doctor then told me.
Sorry, back to the advice needed.
I will be flying back home tomorrow and will be meeting this group of friends on Sunday. I only go home once a year. This pregnant friend will be there, of course. I've been playing the scenario in my head many many times and I get more nervous each time. I haven't been able to fall asleep easily the last few nights thinking about this. Each time I start playing the scenes in my head, my mind would bring me back to when IT happened.
It is unfair for me NOT to see her because really we are goodfriends. I am sure she will want to share her happy news/updates with the rest of us. How can I tell her NOT to mention anything about her pregnancy? How can I sit there looking at her and her bump and pretend nothing is going on? See, even now typing this makes me all shaky and jittery...
help? how do I set my mind into 'ok' mode?
I just need some advice on meeting a good friend who is pregnant with a boy.
She announced her pregnancy a week after I did. DH and I took 13 months to conceive and she and her husband were just TRYING to see if it works for them. They weren't really trying for one; toying with the idea was more like it and BAM! They hit the jackpot the 1st month. While I was happily telling this group of goodfriends about my news, she told us the following and I couldn't help to feel she stole my limelight. It took me about a few days to feel excited for her then we started sharing pregnancy news/journes/symptoms, etc.
When I lost our son, she found out the following day it happened. That night itself, her husband posted a video of their 16 weeks scan on FB and announced it was a boy. It was like a knife into my heart. I lost our son at 16 weeks 5 days. I found out ours was a boy when the doc checked on him when I was in the A&E. I asked the doc if she could tell the sex of the baby. She was reluctant to tell me but I said DH knew it was a boy since day 1. Because of that, I thought it was a girl so I just wanted to know... the doctor then told me.
Sorry, back to the advice needed.
I will be flying back home tomorrow and will be meeting this group of friends on Sunday. I only go home once a year. This pregnant friend will be there, of course. I've been playing the scenario in my head many many times and I get more nervous each time. I haven't been able to fall asleep easily the last few nights thinking about this. Each time I start playing the scenes in my head, my mind would bring me back to when IT happened.
It is unfair for me NOT to see her because really we are goodfriends. I am sure she will want to share her happy news/updates with the rest of us. How can I tell her NOT to mention anything about her pregnancy? How can I sit there looking at her and her bump and pretend nothing is going on? See, even now typing this makes me all shaky and jittery...
help? how do I set my mind into 'ok' mode?