Afraid to try again...

[Scrumptious]

My pregnancy didn't work out at 6 weeks and now the thought of trying for a baby kind of scares me.

The week that I knew I was losing the bean was the most stressful week of my life! Spent the whole time in bed willing it to stay there!

Before this experience I thought that it was the getting pregnant part that was the most difficult, now I think it's the keeping the bean there that's the most stressful! I know that in future if i get a I'll be filled with a mixture of excitement and dread.

Oh dear...

 

[Sambatiki]

Sorry for your loss.

I had an MC not long ago (2 weeks) and I agree with you. Im so very frightened about MC again I hate to think what I'll be like if/when i get that BFP!! But you have to remember that all things happen for reason. please don't think Im being harsh. You have to be positive and only start ttc when you feel comfortable to do so.

Hope you can start to feel better soon.

Take care

Kerry

 

[Newt]

I'm sory i have no advice

 

[Happy]

I know how you feel. I had a miscarriage yesterday and I dont want to ever go through that again, I dont know how I am going to try again i'm just too frightened.

 

[biteable]

A m/c realy takes the excitement and innocence about being preg,no matter how long after you conceive,all we can do is concentrate on every pregnancy is different (thank god) and just take it day by day,good luck to you when you decide to try again,and just because youve had 1 m/c doesnt mean you will have another,my thoughts are with you

 

[maccy]

Know how you feel hun I miscarried on Sunday, want so much to be pregnant, but terrified bout this happening again, don't think I could be strong enough a second time. x

 

[buffycat]

you're not alone in your thoughts......

i remember lying in bed through those sad few days praying and willing the little one to stay with me....the pain (both emotioanlly and physically) was awful, though i barely remember the physical pain now.

Emotionally though, i know that when i do get pregnant again (and i will), i am going to be paranoid for the whole time. I know that it shouldn't be like that, but once you have gone through the heartbreak and despair, there will always be the 'what if'.

Stay strong though......

 

[porkpie1981]

I cant wait to ttc again but the 1st 12 weeks will be bad as i will be freaking out about everything

 

[kadey]

I also have these feelings. m/c two years ago and now pregnant again. (was not trying to conceive) i am sooo scared that i will have to go through this again but as ppl have already said each one is different. all i am doing is trying to think positive, not getting my hopes up too soon and trying to remain calm.
your turn will come lady's. and good luck when it does.

 

[lauraperrysan]

Hi, I completly understand how you feel. I have now had 2 m/c in the last 6 months Both around 6 weeks. I too was very worried it may happen again (which it did but only 1 in 35 women have 2 m/c in a row), I read this somewhere not sure how accurate it is tho :/
I will be honest it was alot harder the 1st time than the 2nd. The first time I really didn't expect it and my partner and I had made so many plans in such a short space of time which over night shattered.
The second time I didn't get excited, nor tell people (which we did before), we didn't talk about much and help back on plans, names etc..... When it happened again it just didn't seem as deverstating. Odviously we were both heartbroken but it just seemed easier and knowing what to expect etc....
I really hope it doesn't happen to any of you ladies again, we all want a sicky one so bad..... But try not to worry yourselves too much, doesn't solve anything (hard not to tho I know)
Sending you bags and bags of stickiness to you all.
Hope we get our chance soon
Hugs xxx

 

[NickyT75]

I too have lost 2 babies, my 1st at 10wks (2yrs ago) my latest at 18+3 (2wks ago) & I agree that having had a loss already took the excitement out of this pregnancy... I thought that once I'd made it to 12wks I'd be home & dry but unfortunately that wasn't the case

I'm desperate to be pregnant again but I also know that the moment I get my I'll be facing at least the next 20wks of being terrified that history will repeat itself - it was bad enough this time waiting for the 1st trimester to pass!! but I know now I'll need to be safely through the 2nd trimester before I can begin to enjoy being pregnant.

Even though I know i'll have to face this - the biological urge inside me is too strong for me to ignore...

I must be crazy I know, but i'm willing to do whatever I can to finally get to hold my healthy baby in my arms xx

 

[tinkerbell123]

Hi just to let you know im thinking of you hun i had a mc in march and its the worst thing ever ever been through, i never thought it would happen to me and i still think about it every day. I know when i get my i wont relax fully through out the whole pregnancy. Its heartbreaking but worth it in the end xxxx

 

[Visqueen]

I know what you mean I too had a MC 4 weeks ago at 11 weeks and I know just how hard it is. Have a little break and start trying again when your body has had time to come to terms with things. Try and stay positive we will all never forget what we have been through and our little babies but we will get there.

Take care

 

[leeanne]