aggghh insensitive friend

[babytots]

i feel so bad for posting this as its about my best friend and i know she cant help it but its really gotten me down.

she went for a scan today. the same place i had mine at 18+6 when i found out that jessica had grown her wings. i've known for months shes had this scan booked as before i lost jessica it was all she could talk about.

last night she talked about it and said she would put pics up as soon as she got back (i felt really bad as the last thing i wanted to do was see pics of her baby).

anyways today was dfs birthday and as we were going out i decided not to long onto facebook incase she had her pics up as i really didnt want to get in a down mood and ruin dfs birthday. while i was getting ready i got a text off her saying dakota's (her babies name) pictures were up. why she felt the need to text me and let me know even though i knew she was going to post pictures up on fb i dont know. she said it in a way as if i was going to go on there straightaway and coo over her baby and i just cant! shes due 4 days before jessicas due date was in sept and so everytime i see pics of her baby it just makes me think jessica should of been that size now.

after that my heart just wasnt in to going out. me and df had 2 drinks and came back home and watched a dvd instead. so i've ruined his night he seemed ok about it but its not often we get to go out and have a few drinks and i think he was looking forward to having a good night out and i feel like crap for ruining his night. x

 

[hayley x]

Im so sorry My best friend was due yesterday and I found it really hard as by the time we got to my due date my baby had already died the day before his due date. I want her to keep talking about her little one. Its all we talked about before Alex died so I didnt want that to stop no matter how much it hurts and how I feel 'jealous'. People cant be careful or protect me forever but it hurts sooooo bad!!! Im sorry your friend had to text you, I know she must be excited but at the same time a little insensitive (unless you had told her to keep you informed or shown lots of interest) so sorry, thinking of you xxx

Hope Ive worded that right Im rubbish at saying things how I mean them

xxx

 

[AP]

Hey babytots,

It sounds like a story i had lat year, when i was in a complete mess over my 1st miscarriage.

I happened to log onto my page for some normality only to find a friend had posted her scan pictures up for all to see, and knew exactly what was going on with me.

Luckily my other friends had a quiet word with her (and prob after a sarcastic comment from me, i cant remember!) and she removed the pictures for a while just as a bit of respect. I thought she's know better, seeing as she had had 2 miscarriages herself?

Some people just get caught up in their own excitement, some people just dont get that little second to think twice.
I dont expect people to go tip toeing round me if I have lost a beanie, but a little consideration would b nice, I know what you mean.

If you feel up to it, there is no harm in telling her you really want some space from that just now.

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[Barneyboo]

 

[todteach]

I'm so sorry that she's done this hun. Sending you great big . xox

 

[orange-sox]

i'm so sorry poppet x

 

[babytots]

thanks ladies. i'm so scared of how i'll react when her baby is here as we are so close and i know it will change our friendship i dont think i will be strong enough seeing her play happy familys when it should be us too. am just hoping we are ttc or pg by then make it less painful iykwim. i hate this! i really thought jessica was meant to be as both our daughters were born 5 days apart and we were due again together and we were 4 days apart i felt it was meant to be us being pg together again and it wasnt meant to be. it hurts so much! x

 

[Sovereign]