Finally coming out of lurkdom to say congrats TTC74! I'm so excited for you!
I hope it's okay for me to join. AFM, I'm 41 and planning on TTC my third and last child. We're planning on starting in November. I have a 5-year-old girl who was born when I was 36 and a 2-year-old boy who was born when I was 39. It took us 8 months to conceive my girl and 2 years to conceive our boy.
With my youngest child, I bit the bullet and saw the RE and had every single test and a laparoscopy done after a year of trying. My FSH was 5.4 and my estrogen levels were great. My AFC was about 18 total. My AMH was borderline at 1.1 but expected for my age (38 at the time). With those numbers, we were "unexplained" but they seemed to chalk it up to my age in spite of the good lab work. The laparoscopy showed that my right tube was blocked, but it looked perfectly healthy so it was likely just a spasm. They didn't do the special test to determine if it was truly blocked because they told me that having only one tube doesn't decrease your chances.
My hubby had a sperm analysis done, which the RE thought was fine, but after another year of trying with clomid and injectibles, we took a harder look at it. A second RE looked at his SA and concluded his numbers were horrible and that we'd never get pregnant unless they improved. His numbers were 20 ml/L, 30% motility and 0.5% morphology. We didn't end up going to the urologist as the second RE suggested, but had hubby take supplements. After about a month of him taking the supps, we got our bfp.
We'll never know for sure if it was the supplements that made the difference, but I am positive that it did.
Now that we're trying for number 3, hubby is not so gung ho. He is ready to move on to the next phase of life. We can be quite comfortable financially if we stay at two and with an end to sight to the astronomical daycare costs. I kind of am ready to move on too. I could be happy with my two, but I would never feel complete, so I feel like I have to try for #3 or feel a lifetime of regret.
I am so afraid that I won't be successful this time and I"ll end this phase of life on a bad note. We won't be seeing an RE this time, so I feel really in the dark compared to last time. I am taking coq10, L-carnitine, a prenatal with Omega 3, baby aspirin and iron for egg health. I'll be breaking out the Clearblue Easy Fertility Monitor again. I have hubby taking L-carnitine, vitamin C, folic acid and zinc in powder form in juice since he refuses to take the Fertilaid for Men combo that got us success last time. Too many pills, he says, so I have to hope that I have picked the key ingredients responsible for our success last time.
I am trying not to let the negativity that surrounds TTC when 40 get to me. I firmly believe that age is not as big of a factor that doctors make it out to be, but it's still hard to put it all out of my mind.
